I don't really think infidelity is shocking anymore (pathetic, infuriating, pedestrian, immoral maybe) but sex sells

http://www.therichest.com/rich-list/most-shocking/infidelity-around-the-world-in-10-facts/

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I am so sorry these folks have ruined your thread. I really miss you and wish you would come back. I'm really interested to know if you are feeling better. I'm concerned about you. Do you have plans for the weekend? What's your guy up to? Are you seeing your mom for Mother's day?

Lol thanks for the concern - I'm fine. Yes, there are lots of plans for the weekend. He is taking his kids to his parents' house for the weekend. No, I'm not flying home for mother's day.

Have a good weekend, OP. Just had sex with my husband, my beautiful kids are sleeping upstairs, and DH and I are now hanging out together drinking wine and watching tv in our gorgeous house. Your life is so sad.

You totally missed that OP doesn't want kids. She doesn't have to think your life is sad to recognize that it isn't the life she wants for herself.

Most of what I said has little to do with the kids.

Anonymous wrote:OP, why don't you use this time to build your career? This is not incompatible with having your bf pay all your living expenses.

Because that would entail actually having to work versus laying on your back and spreading your legs for money.

Anonymous wrote:I find OP's contentment in line with the mindset of many millenials. She likes what she is doing, is aware that she has a brief window to savor it, and is not particularly troubled by its fragility or shortcomings. My older daughter is roaming Europe for the next 3 months with a group of college students and recent grads. They work as needed, but mostly are happy to have bread and cheese for dinner if it means they can afford to spend a 4 day weekend in Prague. My daughter is becoming conversant in 4 languages and meeting dozens of people from all walks of life. She's had 3 articles published about her experiences. I was too neurotic at her age to do anything but research grad schools and hone my resume.

Way to segue into bragging about your kid! Happy Mother's Day!

I find OP's contentment in line with the mindset of many millenials. She likes what she is doing, is aware that she has a brief window to savor it, and is not particularly troubled by its fragility or shortcomings. My older daughter is roaming Europe for the next 3 months with a group of college students and recent grads. They work as needed, but mostly are happy to have bread and cheese for dinner if it means they can afford to spend a 4 day weekend in Prague. My daughter is becoming conversant in 4 languages and meeting dozens of people from all walks of life. She's had 3 articles published about her experiences. I was too neurotic at her age to do anything but research grad schools and hone my resume.

Not sure what's up with all the "you're so naive" posts - at 24, I was just about done with my masters degree, talking marriage with my husband to be, and had racked up enough internships and work experience in my field to have multiple job offers upon graduation. I also had been paying my own rent, groceries, and life expenses for 2 years.

I think OP knows exactly what she's doing and my other 24 year old friends who didn't jump right into working, aren't that interested in marriage & kids - instead choosing to cruise along off mom & dad, would have jumped at a situation like OP describes.

When I was 20, I met a guy in his 30s who at first seemed like a good match. Perhaps, I was naive to think there was potential but we had great conversations, similar interests, etc. But it soon became clear he wasn't going to commit, and he was trying to buy me off with things as his finances allowed, so I moved on. I wanted marriage & kids and the fact that he didn't is exactly why he was going after a woman not even yet out of college. I say that just to say, I get how OP could have met her boyfriend and how given what she's interested in, it's an appealing set up. That doesn't make her naive - she knows exactly where she stands and she's chosen to stand there.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I am so sorry these folks have ruined your thread. I really miss you and wish you would come back. I'm really interested to know if you are feeling better. I'm concerned about you. Do you have plans for the weekend? What's your guy up to? Are you seeing your mom for Mother's day?

Lol thanks for the concern - I'm fine. Yes, there are lots of plans for the weekend. He is taking his kids to his parents' house for the weekend. No, I'm not flying home for mother's day.

Have a good weekend, OP. Just had sex with my husband, my beautiful kids are sleeping upstairs, and DH and I are now hanging out together drinking wine and watching tv in our gorgeous house. Your life is so sad.

You totally missed that OP doesn't want kids. She doesn't have to think your life is sad to recognize that it isn't the life she wants for herself.

Op, not having to pay rent and having a charge card for your shopping purposes - this is a great time in life to get a set of high end suites and intern for free at a big name firm. Have you thought about how to best utilize this situation for yourself? If you do it correctly, you could come out of this with down payment saved up, which will make life easier you and whatever guy you do eventually end up with + a cushier start for your career.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why don't you use this time to build your career? This is not incompatible with having your bf pay all your living expenses.

It is, because if she has clients who need her he can't whisk her away on an Alaskan cruise at a moment's notice.

True, but there are many jobs that don't require you to be at a client's beck and call. And even if you can't be the most accessible employee in a crunch, that's often okay.

Anonymous wrote:OP, why don't you use this time to build your career? This is not incompatible with having your bf pay all your living expenses.

It is, because if she has clients who need her he can't whisk her away on an Alaskan cruise at a moment's notice.

OP, why don't you use this time to build your career? This is not incompatible with having your bf pay all your living expenses.

Who has time to read 74 pages?

Tldr

Anonymous wrote:He's taking the kids to see his momma is he?

Can you believe she falls for this shit?

I do not want to ask you anything. I do not care what you do with your life. But I guarantee you will be seeking therapy 10-15 years from now.

If you are young and hot and want to be kept you are better off finding a rich man who will marry you, then pump out a few kids as "insurance policies", and staying hot as long as you can before he moves on. At least you will get alimony/support until the kids are done with college. As it is now he could drop you anytime and you'd have nothing.