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Anonymous wrote:I am pregnant with my first and DH and I agree that while we want him to know we think he is wonderful and special to us, he is *not* a snowflake. While I plan to encourage him and will be proud of him for giving his best effort, I want him to know that real life does not involve participation rewards, he is not above others, and the rules do apply to him.

I'd like to think this isn't a minority opinion, but I see so many parents out there who let their children run around screaming and bumping into adults in public and they have this look on their face like "isn't my little Jimmy just *the* cutest ever." Seriously, I do not want to raise a child who thinks the world revolves around him and he can do whatever he wants/that mommy and daddy will bail him out of eberthing when he gets older.

We've all been there, done that. That is, take on this sanctimonious tone about how well do it differently. Get back to us when your kid tantrums in public and pregnant moms state you down. Yawn.

Nope. I see parents literally do nothing while their kids run around like banshees. I'm not saying my kid will never have a tantrum, but I would never just let my kid run off in a crowded place acting like a maniac while I just laugh about it. Guess we know what type of parent you are!

You sound very angry. And idiotic. Good luck....

Haha you're funny. I'm actually not angry at all. I just can't believe wanting to control my child from running around screaming and bumping into people in public is actually controversial. You seem very pro just letting kids run around and do whatever they want. I guess I should just completely give up on the idea that I should try to raise a well behaved child because some anonymous DCUM poster thinks it's sanctimonious? Clearly there are plenty of good parents out there who keep their kids under control, so it can be done.

So, there is no in between for moms who can't afford basic needs without working and healthy retirement savings?

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Anonymous wrote:Wait until they stick you in a nursing home. It will be a blessing for them once again. After all if you could institutionalize them, they will see nothing unusual in warehousing you

Good thing I've kept working and have decent retirement savings and a pension. My kids won't be responsible for me in retirement and if I end up needing a medical care facility, I'll be able to afford whatever I want

That's funny. I already have a decent retirement account and pension. Still taking off a few years to be home with my kids when they are babies though.

Anonymous wrote:I think children of SAHMs or SAHDs grow up to think the world revolves around them. Being SAH is really more about the adult's needs than the kid's needs.

LOL. Just like breastfeeding, right?

The things people will say to rationalize their own decisions and quell their doubts...

Anonymous wrote:I think children of SAHMs or SAHDs grow up to think the world revolves around them. Being SAH is really more about the adult's needs than the kid's needs.

Not necessarily. I never really had a desire to be a sahm, but I find myself here currently through a series of events. It isn't some need-I'd rather be working full time, but I also see no feasible way for me to go back to a real office.

Anonymous wrote:Wait until they stick you in a nursing home. It will be a blessing for them once again. After all if you could institutionalize them, they will see nothing unusual in warehousing you

Good thing I've kept working and have decent retirement savings and a pension. My kids won't be responsible for me in retirement and if I end up needing a medical care facility, I'll be able to afford whatever I want

I think children of SAHMs or SAHDs grow up to think the world revolves around them. Being SAH is really more about the adult's needs than the kid's needs.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who had a SAHD husband, and I will add- that I honestly do not give a shit if he did watch porn during nap time. I doubt he did, but hey whatevs. It is likely better than messing around on DCUM!

I'm a SAHD and I watch porn during naptime every now and then.

Should I be having an affair instead?

No, you shouldn't have an affair. However, I find your last line very interesting, as you jumped from porn to affair. Methinks something else is going on below the surface . . .

DW doesn't put out like she used to. Nothing new to this forum.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who had a SAHD husband, and I will add- that I honestly do not give a shit if he did watch porn during nap time. I doubt he did, but hey whatevs. It is likely better than messing around on DCUM!

I'm a SAHD and I watch porn during naptime every now and then.

Should I be having an affair instead?

No, you shouldn't have an affair. However, I find your last line very interesting, as you jumped from porn to affair. Methinks something else is going on below the surface . . .

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Anonymous wrote:Here goes. I don't think infants should be in daycare (unless the family truly can't cover the basics without two incomes).

Agree but I don't say a word to a living soul to anyone about this.

Disagree, kids in daycare do better than kids who aren't.

agree with first two PPs

Infants should be home with a parent or other family member/fantastic nanny

But I am a snob about this, as I've always had either my mother or sister watch my kids when they were babies. Now we have a fantastic nanny who does before care. My kids have never been in any daycare setting unless you consider preschool a daycare.

I can't understand HOW any parent could drop a baby off at 6 am.

But I would never share this with many people - only close friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the PP who had a SAHD husband, and I will add- that I honestly do not give a shit if he did watch porn during nap time. I doubt he did, but hey whatevs. It is likely better than messing around on DCUM!

I'm a SAHD and I watch porn during naptime every now and then.

Should I be having an affair instead?

SAHM here who also watches porn during nap time sometimes.

I'm PP above. To clarify, I don't like mommy-war trolling for either "side," but for pete's sake, if you're going to mommy-war troll, can you try to sound less dumb? You sound about as bright as your fellow mommy-war trolls who tell SAHMs their husbands are all going to cheat on them and leave them.

Maybe you guys should all go drinking together or something and leave the rest of us alone.

Anonymous wrote:Wait until they stick you in a nursing home. It will be a blessing for them once again. After all if you could institutionalize them, they will see nothing unusual in warehousing you

I get you're just mommy-war trolling but this one is even more muddled than most mommy-war troll arguments. Nursing homes are filled to the brim with former SAHMs. Have you ever actually thought about this clearly? (I suppose I should ask the more basic question: Have you ever thought clearly?)

Wait until they stick you in a nursing home. It will be a blessing for them once again. After all if you could institutionalize them, they will see nothing unusual in warehousing you

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Anonymous wrote:Here goes. I don't think infants should be in daycare (unless the family truly can't cover the basics without two incomes).

Agree but I don't say a word to a living soul to anyone about this.

Had my children not attended daycare as infants, I would probably agree with you! However, we did end up sending all of our children to daycare as infants, and they are lovely, fun, witty, hardworking, loving, focused, persevering, creative, dedicated young people now. So now in hindsight, I wholeheartedly think that their infant childhood experience was not harmed in anyway. In fact, I attribute a lot of their current strengths and successes to being with a peer group through those early years. As I look back, as parents in daycare, we had a great network of peers who were supporting each other and looked out for each other as we learned to juggle the demands of raising a family!

So, yes, if we did not have the experience of daycare ourselves, I think I would look down upon it myself. But the reality for us is that daycare was a blessing for us and our children!