Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:41     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for the manager her husband and other child to sit on the bench with the coach and reserves for games?


Ours does, and the TM is a terrific person and a terrific manager. The coach is always asking the TM for things like going to tell a particular kid to warm up or grabbing a kid who is warming up so they can get ready to sub. I think many of you PPs are so ungrateful. It's a difficult, time consuming and thankless job.

Our TM also provides the portable bench and chairs so really if the TM is going to sit there I'm all for it!

With COVID protocols, some tournaments/venues (and maybe leagues) were asking for TMs to be on the bench to assist with keeping kids on the sideline distanced, masked, etc. and so that they could keep the numbers on the parent sideline in check with County/state regulations.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:34     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I also want to add that some kiss-a comes behind the scenes. Like DADS who know the director or who are on the board or who play adult soccer and know people and talk up their kids and host social gatherings. Fundraising.

Cronyism or politicking or even friendship- whatever you want to call it.



OMG. Yes. We have one dad that is constantly bragging about playing soccer with all of the Coaches at the Club. Frankly, as a woman, I could beat him 1v1 any day of the week and played at a much higher level and in middle age I am in much better shape than him .

There is a TON of *ss-kissing that goes on in those leagues with parent players. However, I have yet to see it translated to their kids advancing--at least in the older age groups.


OMG or the dad that just stands on the sideline juggling at practice. Also cant wait til halftime so he can run out on the field to shoot on goal.


OMG! I think there's something seriously wrong with you people if that is something you care about and mock.


Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:32     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Anonymous wrote:Hah, we should start a whole 'nother thread on the TMs and the work they do. Quite honestly, I'm 100% ok if a coach wants to give a TM's kid more playing time.

I was an assistant coach for a NOVA team. I took on that gig because I have coaching experience and the actual coach--who was getting paid ~$1.2k/month--kept cancelling practices. Last straw for me was when he asked me to take charge of a Saturday morning 8 am game in MD (hour drive) that he couldn't make because his mother was in town visiting.

If you haven't put in volunteer time with your kid's team, shut up about the people who do put in that time. They're owed SOMETHING. Not sure what that is, but they're owed better than whining from your free-loading a$$es.


+1
I completely agree. I am really okay with the TM's child getting more playing time.
I do not have time to do what our TM does and could not do the job nearly as well.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:30     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for the manager her husband and other child to sit on the bench with the coach and reserves for games?


Ours does, and the TM is a terrific person and a terrific manager. The coach is always asking the TM for things like going to tell a particular kid to warm up or grabbing a kid who is warming up so they can get ready to sub. I think many of you PPs are so ungrateful. It's a difficult, time consuming and thankless job.

Our TM also provides the portable bench and chairs so really if the TM is going to sit there I'm all for it!
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:28     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for the manager her husband and other child to sit on the bench with the coach and reserves for games?


No, the coach should politely request that they leave and join the other parents.


Totally agree thats not acceptable at anytime. Our TM always makes it a priority to almost host our parents. She makes sure she lets everyone know where the parents are sitting, what kids are not going to be there, If any guest players are being brought up from lower teams and who they are and makes those parents feel a part of the team.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:27     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Hah, we should start a whole 'nother thread on the TMs and the work they do. Quite honestly, I'm 100% ok if a coach wants to give a TM's kid more playing time.

I was an assistant coach for a NOVA team. I took on that gig because I have coaching experience and the actual coach--who was getting paid ~$1.2k/month--kept cancelling practices. Last straw for me was when he asked me to take charge of a Saturday morning 8 am game in MD (hour drive) that he couldn't make because his mother was in town visiting.

If you haven't put in volunteer time with your kid's team, shut up about the people who do put in that time. They're owed SOMETHING. Not sure what that is, but they're owed better than whining from your free-loading a$$es.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:23     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for the manager her husband and other child to sit on the bench with the coach and reserves for games?


No, the coach should politely request that they leave and join the other parents.


My son's U16 Coach has had to tell the one over-bearing dad to beat it and get off of his sideline frequently. I was watching a tournament game via Zoom this Fall and caught some of that on film. It was priceless . I asked my son about it and he said this Dad drives the Coach nuts. That he is always telling him to get lost. Somehow, this dad has convinced the managers/ TD/head of Club his son is good and bad mouths are Coach and offers constant complaints about him. He has been practicing with the Academy team---though the rest of us are convinced our Coach just wanted to get rid of the Dad. LMAOF
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:16     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for the manager her husband and other child to sit on the bench with the coach and reserves for games?


No, the coach should politely request that they leave and join the other parents.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:11     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I also want to add that some kiss-a comes behind the scenes. Like DADS who know the director or who are on the board or who play adult soccer and know people and talk up their kids and host social gatherings. Fundraising.

Cronyism or politicking or even friendship- whatever you want to call it.



OMG. Yes. We have one dad that is constantly bragging about playing soccer with all of the Coaches at the Club. Frankly, as a woman, I could beat him 1v1 any day of the week and played at a much higher level and in middle age I am in much better shape than him .

There is a TON of *ss-kissing that goes on in those leagues with parent players. However, I have yet to see it translated to their kids advancing--at least in the older age groups.


OMG or the dad that just stands on the sideline juggling at practice. Also cant wait til halftime so he can run out on the field to shoot on goal.


in full soccer regalia


We were on an International trip with a dad that would do the sideline thing trying to get a contract...and he was just awful. The other parents bet me to go out on the field and take him on 1v1...we all had a few drinks at that point and I was in boots with a heel (apple bottom jeans and boots with the fur)...I did not take them up on the offer but we got a lot of entertainment watching him. IT was like that VW commercial where the awfully unathletic dad tries to show his son how to throw the football properly...
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:08     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I also want to add that some kiss-a comes behind the scenes. Like DADS who know the director or who are on the board or who play adult soccer and know people and talk up their kids and host social gatherings. Fundraising.

Cronyism or politicking or even friendship- whatever you want to call it.



OMG. Yes. We have one dad that is constantly bragging about playing soccer with all of the Coaches at the Club. Frankly, as a woman, I could beat him 1v1 any day of the week and played at a much higher level and in middle age I am in much better shape than him .

There is a TON of *ss-kissing that goes on in those leagues with parent players. However, I have yet to see it translated to their kids advancing--at least in the older age groups.


OMG or the dad that just stands on the sideline juggling at practice. Also cant wait til halftime so he can run out on the field to shoot on goal.


in full soccer regalia
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:04     Subject: Kiss-ass parents
I see it all. Parents writing articles, being on the board and volunteering for club fundraising activities. If their DC is a talented player, no one seems to care.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:04     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I also want to add that some kiss-a comes behind the scenes. Like DADS who know the director or who are on the board or who play adult soccer and know people and talk up their kids and host social gatherings. Fundraising.

Cronyism or politicking or even friendship- whatever you want to call it.



OMG. Yes. We have one dad that is constantly bragging about playing soccer with all of the Coaches at the Club. Frankly, as a woman, I could beat him 1v1 any day of the week and played at a much higher level and in middle age I am in much better shape than him .

There is a TON of *ss-kissing that goes on in those leagues with parent players. However, I have yet to see it translated to their kids advancing--at least in the older age groups.


OMG or the dad that just stands on the sideline juggling at practice. Also cant wait til halftime so he can run out on the field to shoot on goal.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 10:00     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Anonymous wrote:I also want to add that some kiss-a comes behind the scenes. Like DADS who know the director or who are on the board or who play adult soccer and know people and talk up their kids and host social gatherings. Fundraising.

Cronyism or politicking or even friendship- whatever you want to call it.



OMG. Yes. We have one dad that is constantly bragging about playing soccer with all of the Coaches at the Club. Frankly, as a woman, I could beat him 1v1 any day of the week and played at a much higher level and in middle age I am in much better shape than him .

There is a TON of *ss-kissing that goes on in those leagues with parent players. However, I have yet to see it translated to their kids advancing--at least in the older age groups.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 09:58     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
Is it normal for the manager her husband and other child to sit on the bench with the coach and reserves for games?
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2021 09:58     Subject: Re:Kiss-ass parents
I also want to add that some kiss-a comes behind the scenes. Like DADS who know the director or who are on the board or who play adult soccer and know people and talk up their kids and host social gatherings. Fundraising.

Cronyism or politicking or even friendship- whatever you want to call it.