Anonymous
03/21/2021 18:50
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks to the sage advice I'd been given on DCUM, I am one of those 780-month olds who have stopped doing anything when it comes to someone else and their child.
I posted about a child getting ready to fall head-first out of a grocery cart (mom had her back turned momentarily) and I was ripped a new one for being intrusive, judgemental, you name it.
Since then other people's children are invisible to me. No more warnings of immediate danger, no more offers to help, no more smiles or friendly overtures.
It is a different world than the one I was raised in and fully understand that now.
See, you can teach an old dog new tricks. I've learned my lesson.
What this really is...is that you are sad and angry that you are now invisible to society.
This response made me laugh. I know this is difficult to fathom, but there are people of all ages who are fulfilled by family and friends and don't derive their self worth from being "seen" by strangers. Maybe if you weren't so worried about how you are being seen by society, you might be a kinder and happier person.
Oh of course there are people like that. And then there are the attention-seeking strangers who insert themselves, uninvited, when a child is having a tantrum. Go away, thanks!
Did you not read the post? It said child was in imminent danger. That's not the same as a tantrum.
I guess the best response is to follow your advice and not insert yourself.
So let's all wait till the kid gets hurt and then inform authorities that they were not being properly watched. Let CPS figure it out.
Anonymous
03/21/2021 13:22
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks to the sage advice I'd been given on DCUM, I am one of those 780-month olds who have stopped doing anything when it comes to someone else and their child.
I posted about a child getting ready to fall head-first out of a grocery cart (mom had her back turned momentarily) and I was ripped a new one for being intrusive, judgemental, you name it.
Since then other people's children are invisible to me. No more warnings of immediate danger, no more offers to help, no more smiles or friendly overtures.
It is a different world than the one I was raised in and fully understand that now.
See, you can teach an old dog new tricks. I've learned my lesson.
What this really is...is that you are sad and angry that you are now invisible to society.
This response made me laugh. I know this is difficult to fathom, but there are people of all ages who are fulfilled by family and friends and don't derive their self worth from being "seen" by strangers. Maybe if you weren't so worried about how you are being seen by society, you might be a kinder and happier person.
Oh of course there are people like that. And then there are the attention-seeking strangers who insert themselves, uninvited, when a child is having a tantrum. Go away, thanks!
Or you could take you screaming kid home. Problem solved.
Anonymous
03/21/2021 13:04
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My toddlers literally never had a public tantrum. I did have a lady on a plane try to talk to me while I was trying to calm my baby on a plane and get her to latch, but I just completely ignored her.
She was probably disgusted looking at your boob. Cover up.
How ancient are you? They have these things called nursing covers now.
+1
Anonymous
03/21/2021 12:55
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks to the sage advice I'd been given on DCUM, I am one of those 780-month olds who have stopped doing anything when it comes to someone else and their child.
I posted about a child getting ready to fall head-first out of a grocery cart (mom had her back turned momentarily) and I was ripped a new one for being intrusive, judgemental, you name it.
Since then other people's children are invisible to me. No more warnings of immediate danger, no more offers to help, no more smiles or friendly overtures.
It is a different world than the one I was raised in and fully understand that now.
See, you can teach an old dog new tricks. I've learned my lesson.
What this really is...is that you are sad and angry that you are now invisible to society.
This response made me laugh. I know this is difficult to fathom, but there are people of all ages who are fulfilled by family and friends and don't derive their self worth from being "seen" by strangers. Maybe if you weren't so worried about how you are being seen by society, you might be a kinder and happier person.
Oh of course there are people like that. And then there are the attention-seeking strangers who insert themselves, uninvited, when a child is having a tantrum. Go away, thanks!
Anonymous
03/21/2021 12:53
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with this strange, attention-seeking behavior in 780-month-olds?
It's always middle-aged men and women who squat down and address tantruming toddlers directly, with exaggerated facial gestures and a sing-songy voice “What’s wrooooooong, sweet-ums???” It. Literally. Never. Helps. and is so annoying/invasive.
I had a good friend who could get my two year old out of a tantrum. I loved her for coming over and helping!
Anonymous
03/21/2021 12:30
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My toddlers literally never had a public tantrum. I did have a lady on a plane try to talk to me while I was trying to calm my baby on a plane and get her to latch, but I just completely ignored her.
She was probably disgusted looking at your boob. Cover up.
How ancient are you? They have these things called nursing covers now.
Anonymous
03/21/2021 12:25
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:My toddlers literally never had a public tantrum. I did have a lady on a plane try to talk to me while I was trying to calm my baby on a plane and get her to latch, but I just completely ignored her.
She was probably disgusted looking at your boob. Cover up.
Anonymous
03/21/2021 12:05
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks to the sage advice I'd been given on DCUM, I am one of those 780-month olds who have stopped doing anything when it comes to someone else and their child.
I posted about a child getting ready to fall head-first out of a grocery cart (mom had her back turned momentarily) and I was ripped a new one for being intrusive, judgemental, you name it.
Since then other people's children are invisible to me. No more warnings of immediate danger, no more offers to help, no more smiles or friendly overtures.
It is a different world than the one I was raised in and fully understand that now.
See, you can teach an old dog new tricks. I've learned my lesson.
What this really is...is that you are sad and angry that you are now invisible to society.
This response made me laugh. I know this is difficult to fathom, but there are people of all ages who are fulfilled by family and friends and don't derive their self worth from being "seen" by strangers. Maybe if you weren't so worried about how you are being seen by society, you might be a kinder and happier person.
Anonymous
03/21/2021 12:00
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am a mom myself, and sometimes (say, if in line waiting at the grocery store) and mommy is telling the kid "Larlo, put that candy bar back" and I heard her, the kid looks at me I just repeat what mommy said sweetly to Larlo and 9/10x lil Larlo put the candy back and the mom looks at me with a smile.
Or sometimes just walking down the street a wee one will just stop and stare at me (I am a larger Black lady, think the Pine Sol lady but not quite that big LOL) so i make it a point to smile and say something sweet to the kid then quickly leave so the kid won't be scared of me (sadly something that happens since I work in a higher SES area with fewer minorities for the young ones to come in contact with).
So i should just ignore the little ones from now on?
If the kid is cal a and happy, absolutely smile, make eye contact, say hello, etc.
If a tantrum is happening, please do the fa,ily the kindness of leaving them alone.
Or, you know, instead of getting mad at people trying to be nice, you could take your screaming kid and leave. Why isn't that an option?
Anonymous
03/21/2021 11:52
Subject: Re:Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Isn't that better than them telling you to control your little sh*t?
Anonymous
03/21/2021 10:06
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:I am a mom myself, and sometimes (say, if in line waiting at the grocery store) and mommy is telling the kid "Larlo, put that candy bar back" and I heard her, the kid looks at me I just repeat what mommy said sweetly to Larlo and 9/10x lil Larlo put the candy back and the mom looks at me with a smile.
Or sometimes just walking down the street a wee one will just stop and stare at me (I am a larger Black lady, think the Pine Sol lady but not quite that big LOL) so i make it a point to smile and say something sweet to the kid then quickly leave so the kid won't be scared of me (sadly something that happens since I work in a higher SES area with fewer minorities for the young ones to come in contact with).
So i should just ignore the little ones from now on?
If the kid is cal a and happy, absolutely smile, make eye contact, say hello, etc.
If a tantrum is happening, please do the fa,ily the kindness of leaving them alone.
Anonymous
03/21/2021 10:04
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks to the sage advice I'd been given on DCUM, I am one of those 780-month olds who have stopped doing anything when it comes to someone else and their child.
I posted about a child getting ready to fall head-first out of a grocery cart (mom had her back turned momentarily) and I was ripped a new one for being intrusive, judgemental, you name it.
Since then other people's children are invisible to me. No more warnings of immediate danger, no more offers to help, no more smiles or friendly overtures.
It is a different world than the one I was raised in and fully understand that now.
See, you can teach an old dog new tricks. I've learned my lesson.
What this really is...is that you are sad and angry that you are now invisible to society.
Uh oh! Hit a nerve, did I? Nobody wants a busybody crone approaching their family.
You're a sociopath, PP.
Anonymous
03/21/2021 09:50
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
I am a mom myself, and sometimes (say, if in line waiting at the grocery store) and mommy is telling the kid "Larlo, put that candy bar back" and I heard her, the kid looks at me I just repeat what mommy said sweetly to Larlo and 9/10x lil Larlo put the candy back and the mom looks at me with a smile.
Or sometimes just walking down the street a wee one will just stop and stare at me (I am a larger Black lady, think the Pine Sol lady but not quite that big LOL) so i make it a point to smile and say something sweet to the kid then quickly leave so the kid won't be scared of me (sadly something that happens since I work in a higher SES area with fewer minorities for the young ones to come in contact with).
So i should just ignore the little ones from now on?
Or sometimes just walking down the street a wee one will just stop and stare at me (I am a larger Black lady, think the Pine Sol lady but not quite that big LOL) so i make it a point to smile and say something sweet to the kid then quickly leave so the kid won't be scared of me (sadly something that happens since I work in a higher SES area with fewer minorities for the young ones to come in contact with).
So i should just ignore the little ones from now on?
Anonymous
03/21/2021 09:44
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks to the sage advice I'd been given on DCUM, I am one of those 780-month olds who have stopped doing anything when it comes to someone else and their child.
I posted about a child getting ready to fall head-first out of a grocery cart (mom had her back turned momentarily) and I was ripped a new one for being intrusive, judgemental, you name it.
Since then other people's children are invisible to me. No more warnings of immediate danger, no more offers to help, no more smiles or friendly overtures.
It is a different world than the one I was raised in and fully understand that now.
See, you can teach an old dog new tricks. I've learned my lesson.
What this really is...is that you are sad and angry that you are now invisible to society.
You're a sociopath, PP.
Parent should given tickets for their horrid childen who are disturbing my peace.
Anonymous
03/21/2021 08:40
Subject: Strangers who talk to toddlers having tantrums
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Thanks to the sage advice I'd been given on DCUM, I am one of those 780-month olds who have stopped doing anything when it comes to someone else and their child.
I posted about a child getting ready to fall head-first out of a grocery cart (mom had her back turned momentarily) and I was ripped a new one for being intrusive, judgemental, you name it.
Since then other people's children are invisible to me. No more warnings of immediate danger, no more offers to help, no more smiles or friendly overtures.
It is a different world than the one I was raised in and fully understand that now.
See, you can teach an old dog new tricks. I've learned my lesson.
What this really is...is that you are sad and angry that you are now invisible to society.
You're a sociopath, PP.