Anonymous wrote:Out of my entire of childhood friends, college friends, grad school friends, kid's friend's parents that I became friendly with, coworkers and neighbors I know of two.

One was my college housemate whose wife basically shut down after the first kid . Probably sever port partum. My housemate (36 at the time) started sleeping with the daughter (22) of his neighbor. She'd moved home after college. This went on for a good while, maybe a year. His wife never found out.

Two was a girl I knew in HS. She married young (26) and her husband was on some fast track at AOL at the time. He was, surprise, surprise, screwing his admin.

That's out of a circle of 150 + people.

More probably goes on but nowhere near what others would have you believe. There's simply no way everyone is capable of hiding all that.

Anonymous wrote:Open relationships are becoming the new normal. Seems the older generations haven’t caught up to idea.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know does. I could care less and that’s on them.

You need to hang around better people.

I said, “Everyone I know.” I didn’t say I hang around them.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know does. I could care less and that’s on them.

You need to hang around better people.

Anonymous wrote:Out of my entire of childhood friends, college friends, grad school friends, kid's friend's parents that I became friendly with, coworkers and neighbors I know of two.

One was my college housemate whose wife basically shut down after the first kid . Probably sever port partum. My housemate (36 at the time) started sleeping with the daughter (22) of his neighbor. She'd moved home after college. This went on for a good while, maybe a year. His wife never found out.

Two was a girl I knew in HS. She married young (26) and her husband was on some fast track at AOL at the time. He was, surprise, surprise, screwing his admin.

That's out of a circle of 150 + people.

More probably goes on but nowhere near what others would have you believe. There's simply no way everyone is capable of hiding all that.

Anonymous wrote:Studies show, you are who you hang out with. Cheaters and divorcees tend to associate with one another. They don’t get disapproval amongst their friend group and even encourage one another. Women who tell others how great cheating is and how much happier you will be divorced, etc. Hos tend to hang out with other hos and cheating bros with other cheating bros.

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know does. I could care less and that’s on them.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I had the same experience, and it was probably more like 80% of the men cheated. It was also quite out in the open on business travel. My theory is that all men want to cheat and if the shame of it is taken away and the opportunity is there, they will.

When I got divorced, so many married male friends came on to me, and yes, including the types that I wouldn't have thought. No idea what % of my social circle is cheating but the correct answer is "most" men if they could.

Agree: most married men would cheat if they "could" and the difference comes down to opportunity. Men who are super attractive, tall, wealthy, high status have opportunities without effort. That is a pretty elite group.

But the other 95% of married men have to really WORK for it. And let's be honest: most married men are just not that sexy where any sane woman wants to smash that (wedding ring and all). Most men have to actively pursue a long line of uninterested women (looking at you PP), fight through this wall of rejection, finally to create a single "cheating opportunity".

Men who are sexually satisfied at home rarely would even consider doing all this extra work! It's hard enough to pursue the wife, forget about pursuing even more lady drama! Men who are NOT sexually satisfied at home it's a no brainer, these men will even go to pathetically desperate measures to meet their sexual needs (like coming on to recently divorced PP).