Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 09:45     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have Charlie. If I had a nickel for everyone who told me that their dog or cat is named Charlie, I'd be rich! Not something to be offended about.


Really? I have a Charlie who is 5 and no one has ever said that to me. Not that I would be offended, but it just doesn't seem common.


The difference is that Charlie is obviously a human name. Ruby, on the other hand, sounds more like a dog's name. That's why the woman was offended.


This. I am emphatically not a pet person, can’t stand when people call themselves “dog mom”, etc, but I don’t think I’d be annoyed if someone heard my kids’ names and said their dog had the same name. But I think it’s because my kids’ names are mostly ones that are such boring human names that you’d be surprised to find them on a dog (e.g., no one has a dog named Matthew).


I am
Certain there is a dog named matthew. Always love a dog named Dave. Such a great name for a dog. Cool, easygoing.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 09:35     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
It could be worse, OP. One of my very best friends, upon learning the name of my new baby, asked if I named her after a violent criminal character on a popular TV show. Um......no!

But, I know and love her, and I realize that she is did not mean anything by it. Hopefully, even if your friend was taken aback in the moment, she will realize you meant no harm.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 09:34     Subject: Re:“That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. The name is Ruby because our dog has a red coat. Our dog is older than their child btw.


My friend has a border collie named the same (no red coat though). The only thing that's irritating is she spells it Rhuby. Might have started as Rhubarb though.


How could this possibly be irritating? Are you often addressing things to the dog and only after you've written Ruby on the car you realized it was Rhuby and you had to throw the first one away and start a new card? I'm someone who gets irritated by things (like just spell it Melissa instead of Malissa), but even I wouldn't be bothered by a dog's name.


How does pp even know how it is spelled? LOL.


Maybe dog was mentioned in an email or text or in the signature of a family Christmas card.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 09:33     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have Charlie. If I had a nickel for everyone who told me that their dog or cat is named Charlie, I'd be rich! Not something to be offended about.


Really? I have a Charlie who is 5 and no one has ever said that to me. Not that I would be offended, but it just doesn't seem common.


The difference is that Charlie is obviously a human name. Ruby, on the other hand, sounds more like a dog's name. That's why the woman was offended.


This. I am emphatically not a pet person, can’t stand when people call themselves “dog mom”, etc, but I don’t think I’d be annoyed if someone heard my kids’ names and said their dog had the same name. But I think it’s because my kids’ names are mostly ones that are such boring human names that you’d be surprised to find them on a dog (e.g., no one has a dog named Matthew).
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 09:30     Subject: Re:“That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. The name is Ruby because our dog has a red coat. Our dog is older than their child btw.


My friend has a border collie named the same (no red coat though). The only thing that's irritating is she spells it Rhuby. Might have started as Rhubarb though.


How could this possibly be irritating? Are you often addressing things to the dog and only after you've written Ruby on the car you realized it was Rhuby and you had to throw the first one away and start a new card? I'm someone who gets irritated by things (like just spell it Melissa instead of Malissa), but even I wouldn't be bothered by a dog's name.


How does pp even know how it is spelled? LOL.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 09:23     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
I think the reaction to this is one of those things that can help you “find your people.” The type of person who would be offended by this is likely to be offended by me pretty consistently if we hung out together, so it’s best not to go down that road. In fact, I might start telling people my dog has the same name as their kid (I don’t have a dog) to gauge their reaction.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 08:46     Subject: Re:“That’s my dogs name”
My MIL has named TWO of her dogs after my husband. TWO. There's just a slight variation in the name- so if my husband is John, then the dogs were/are called Johnny.

He was so embarrassed to tell me this when we first started dating
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 08:33     Subject: Re:“That’s my dogs name”
If someone told me they'd named their dog one of my daughters' names I'd be flattered that they liked the name so much they picked it. If someone else is offended then that's their prerogative. I'd apologize if I unintentionally offended someone by saying that but I wouldn't really care all that much because it's a silly thing to get upset about and I'm not keen on having friends who get offended by silly things.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 08:31     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
This simple post shows how judgmental people are. People can name their pets whatever name they want. There are no rules. People can name their kids whatever they want.

You were not rude at all. Of course you should tell the person your dog has that name. Why wouldn’t you? It would be awkward later if they came to your house and heard you talking to the dog.

What I want to know is if you have seen this person since this encounter and if she is still put off by it.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 08:28     Subject: Re:“That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. The name is Ruby because our dog has a red coat. Our dog is older than their child btw.


My friend has a border collie named the same (no red coat though). The only thing that's irritating is she spells it Rhuby. Might have started as Rhubarb though.


How could this possibly be irritating? Are you often addressing things to the dog and only after you've written Ruby on the car you realized it was Rhuby and you had to throw the first one away and start a new card? I'm someone who gets irritated by things (like just spell it Melissa instead of Malissa), but even I wouldn't be bothered by a dog's name.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 08:26     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
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This is a very minor thing, but I have been wondering if I offended an acquaintance in a recent conversation. She shared the name of her youngest child to me and I casually mentioned that I love that name and that it is also our dogs name.

It felt like the tone of the conversation immediately changed and that I may have offended her? It is rude to tell someone that their child and your dog share a name? Ordinarily, I would never think twice about this because it seems like no big deal... but her response made me think of twice. She is the mom of my DDs classmate. I know this is nothing to apologize for, but I’m curious what others think about this?


That's terrible. YOu should have kept our mouth shut.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 08:24     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have Charlie. If I had a nickel for everyone who told me that their dog or cat is named Charlie, I'd be rich! Not something to be offended about.


Really? I have a Charlie who is 5 and no one has ever said that to me. Not that I would be offended, but it just doesn't seem common.


Mine is 16, so maybe the Charlie pets have departed this world! It definitely happened more when he was younger.


Our neighbor's dog, 18 months old, is named Charlie.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 08:18     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
It’s awkward that you said it’s your dogs name but (hey it’s my dogs pedigree name BTW) but Ruby is kind of shady. Like Crystal. No matter how many grannies age 80 are named Ruby. It’s just a .... lack of class name in the first place.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 08:09     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
Anonymous wrote:I can't lie, I'm irritated at a friend who named her dog my son's name several years after I'd had my son. We are part of a bigger friend group, so it's not like my kid will see this dog a lot. But it's still really irritating to me. I'd rather have a friend name their kid the same name, but a dog feels insulting.

I actually sort of hate it when people use common names for their animals in general. Lets keep it to Sparky and Snowflake.


My friend was clearly pissed at me for naming my dog the same as her daughter. But I’ve loved that name for years as a dog name and it took forever for us to decide it was time for a dog. It was also a common dog name (like Molly), I wasn’t naming my dog something unique like Calista where it would be obvious that it was the same name as this little girl. Nobody says “ohhh Molly like So and so’s daughter Molly?” It’s just not a big deal. I wouldn’t be offended if a dog had my name or my kids’ name. People get so weird about names and it makes zero sense to me.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2021 08:08     Subject: “That’s my dogs name”
It’s inadvertently rude. Ooops.