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Anonymous wrote:Sex is described in very odd ways on this site. If one person is not happy or does not care about their partner’s happiness then this is unhealthy. Sex should be bonding, not dividing.

Not necessarily. If one person doesn't want it as often that also has to be respected. If I love Tuna and I insist we both eat it together 3 times a week you would be miserable if it's not your cup of tea. Anything couple related involves compromise. From sex, household chores, kids etc.

you left out "fidelity" .... some compromise might be needed there as well

Anonymous wrote:That’s because this site isn’t representative of real life. My husband and I are very happy.

This. And remember a healthy sex life is in the eye of the beholder. The number of times per week, the amount of adventurousness, it’s up to the particular couple. Some have toys and swing from the chandelier, and others like missionary style. Most are in between. The main point is both spouses are happy.

Anonymous wrote:I did. 3-4 times per week average over 23 years until I found out about his secret affair. That was revolting and traumatic to find o was exposed to potential STIs and living with someone that could lie so well and leave no trace.

If one partner has cheated even if you stay with them I'm sure the marriage is pretty much over. Many women have to stay because of their kids and finances, or insurance reasons.

I think after you've been conned in such a way you hate that person, I can't imagine having to have sex with someone like that, but women do what they have to, especially to survive.

Anonymous wrote:Sex is described in very odd ways on this site. If one person is not happy or does not care about their partner’s happiness then this is unhealthy. Sex should be bonding, not dividing.

Not necessarily. If one person doesn't want it as often that also has to be respected. If I love Tuna and I insist we both eat it together 3 times a week you would be miserable if it's not your cup of tea. Anything couple related involves compromise. From sex, household chores, kids etc.

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Anonymous wrote:22 years married, 24 years together. Still a few times per week. We are both still very fit and toned.

Are you implying that only fit and toned people can have healthy sex lives? I bet you $1,000 he’s cheating on you anyways...

I would take that bet. Veeeeery few married guys having sex with wife multiples per week also cheat.

Sigh. Mine did and we had a very healthy adventurous sex life. Both very fit and toned. Ironically OW...not so much.

For most men, different always trumps hot (fit and toned).

Any man that wants to be with another woman after getting married is one I hope slips on a banana peel. Those kind are useless and create a lot of problems in our society. Especially for kids/families.

Anonymous wrote:Really? I always feel these threads have people rushing in to claim that they still do it 3 times a day after being together for 30 years.

Actually, it is healthy that way, and it is also healthy to respect each others' bodies and engage less frequently if that is the level of physical ability or desire. A healthy relationship is one that works for the couple in a committed relationship. Our lives and bodies change, so you should never base your relationship on the frequency of sex you expect to have ad infinitum -- understanding that is the secret to a healthy relationship and a healthy sex life. There will be ups and downs, so to speak.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. We have sex daily, and if we don't we do oral. I can't remember the last day, save for traveling, that the two of us haven't had a daily 'release'.

Let me guess: 2 males in a gay marriage?

Negative, but speaking of your fixation on gay guys — It’s 2021 just come out already most people especially around here support your lifestyle.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We have sex daily, and if we don't we do oral. I can't remember the last day, save for traveling, that the two of us haven't had a daily 'release'.

Let me guess: 2 males in a gay marriage?

Yes. We have sex daily, and if we don't we do oral. I can't remember the last day, save for traveling, that the two of us haven't had a daily 'release'.

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Anonymous wrote:22 years married, 24 years together. Still a few times per week. We are both still very fit and toned.

Are you implying that only fit and toned people can have healthy sex lives? I bet you $1,000 he’s cheating on you anyways...

I would take that bet. Veeeeery few married guys having sex with wife multiples per week also cheat.

The one married guy I've slept with had sex with his wife daily. Told me all about their great sex life.

Some people have huge libidos and tremendous appetites for sex.

It can even be an addiction.

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Anonymous wrote:In general, most couples are sexually happy with their spouse before kids, some keep it going post-kids, and by your mid-40s to 50s, few couples have a healthy sex life still. So the responses here are meaningless unless they specify age and whether they are on their first marriage.

I agree. I hear it from most my gfs how they wish their husbands would just leave them alone and how sex is a chore!

Easy to fix: they simply grant him a hall pass

Keeping things interesting in the bedroom is crucial in a marriage.

If your marriage is supposed to be “til death do us part,” then why hold back with your spouse?

Ever wanted to try something new? Do it!

Wanted to act out a fantasy? - there’s no time like the present.

Have a secret desire? Share it.

No reason not to do anything / everything with your life partner.

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Anonymous wrote:22 years married, 24 years together. Still a few times per week. We are both still very fit and toned.

Are you implying that only fit and toned people can have healthy sex lives? I bet you $1,000 he’s cheating on you anyways...

I would take that bet. Veeeeery few married guys having sex with wife multiples per week also cheat.

The one married guy I've slept with had sex with his wife daily. Told me all about their great sex life.