Anonymous wrote:Question: I know someone who broke up with a woman who actually did not sleep with the date (or kiss him, or anything) - but the guy still broke up with her when he found out. Similar situation, but no physical contact, and one date only. Break up justified?

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Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

Dude. She dumped the other guy for you. What’s the problem?

This.

The problem is, she had sex with some other dude while she was dating him. It is totally legit for him to have a problem with that.

Yes, yes, every woman in this thread wants to insist that it shouldn't be a problem - because every woman in this thread has done that - but that's irrelevant.

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Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

Dude. She dumped the other guy for you. What’s the problem?

This.

The problem is, she had sex with some other dude while she was dating him. It is totally legit for him to have a problem with that.

Yes, yes, every woman in this thread wants to insist that it shouldn't be a problem - because every woman in this thread has done that - but that's irrelevant.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone saying that OP is misogynist because he is judging his GF for their pre-exclusivity conversation...... OP would be misogynistic if he were judging her for having sex with someone before they started dating. That's not what happened here. She had sex with the dude after they started dating but before the exclusivity conversation. There's nothing misogynistic about not being cool with multi-daters. OP didn't say she was a whore or anything. Just that this puts his understsanding of the relationship in a new light, and he needs to tread slowly. That seems totally reasonable, and VERY different than, say, being grossed up by finding out her number of former sexual partners.

Before she slept with OP!!!! Which means she wasn’t sleeping with both of them at the same time. She owed him nothing. They went on five dates and once she thought she wanted to get serious with OP, she told the other guy she was done. She did nothing wrong.

But they'd been on multiple dates, presumably were making out, etc etc. It's not like they were nothing but friends who met for coffee dates.

Again, you millennials can spin this as "normal" as much as you want it, but it's not unreasonable for someone to want to be the only person "dating" his GF - whether they have had sex yet or not.

Anonymous wrote:Question: I know someone who broke up with a woman who actually did not sleep with the date (or kiss him, or anything) - but the guy still broke up with her when he found out. Similar situation, but no physical contact, and one date only. Break up justified?

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Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

Dude. She dumped the other guy for you. What’s the problem?

This.

The problem is, she had sex with some other dude while she was dating him. It is totally legit for him to have a problem with that.

Yes, yes, every woman in this thread wants to insist that it shouldn't be a problem - because every woman in this thread has done that - but that's irrelevant.

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Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

Dude. She dumped the other guy for you. What’s the problem?

This.

Quite possibly he dumped her or ghosted her ...

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Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

Dude. She dumped the other guy for you. What’s the problem?

This.

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Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

Dude. She dumped the other guy for you. What’s the problem?

This.

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Anonymous wrote:How did you find out?

OP here. My buddy’s co-worker is the guy. They were hanging out and he saw pics of all of us together and asked who I was. He told my friend that they had a one time thing but she stopped talking to him after she met someone she was serious about. I don’t really know the exact time they slept together but I know it was within the first two months.

Dude. She dumped the other guy for you. What’s the problem?

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Anonymous wrote:You came to the wrong place for advice. By now, without reading this thread, you should have realized that there is no way she is a whore. That said, you should still dump her but only because you do not deserve her.

Some unresolved mommy issues perhaps? You, not OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone saying that OP is misogynist because he is judging his GF for their pre-exclusivity conversation...... OP would be misogynistic if he were judging her for having sex with someone before they started dating. That's not what happened here. She had sex with the dude after they started dating but before the exclusivity conversation. There's nothing misogynistic about not being cool with multi-daters. OP didn't say she was a whore or anything. Just that this puts his understsanding of the relationship in a new light, and he needs to tread slowly. That seems totally reasonable, and VERY different than, say, being grossed up by finding out her number of former sexual partners.

Before she slept with OP!!!! Which means she wasn’t sleeping with both of them at the same time. She owed him nothing. They went on five dates and once she thought she wanted to get serious with OP, she told the other guy she was done. She did nothing wrong.

Yeah and I bet she was telling OP “let’s take it slow” while she was still banging this other guy. Maybe you think she was “not wrong” to keep her options open but OP is certainly entitled to think otherwise.

You are speculating and projecting. You don’t know any of that. I’m going only based off of what OP said.