Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 20:53     Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:I have 4 kids. We’re not Catholic and not wealthy by DCUM standards, but DH and I are both professionals and do well enough to pay for what the kids need. We planned on 3 but went for the 4th because we enjoy the kids so much. The kids go to public school. DH and I did meet in college and got married in our mid-20s, so we started earlier than most of our peers.


4 is not a big family 6+ is big
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 20:49     Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
No it is awful. Kids have to raise themselves when mommy is a bride made killing new baby
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 20:45     Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Yes, and apparently a requirement if you want to be an Instagram influencer. Gag
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 20:42     Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.


Hence why there are so many sugar babies in college, desperate for someone to chip in with tuition. When I was in college, someone was working as a stripper in a rough part of the town.

What does this have to do with anything?


Its how some pay for college... I know women who did it.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 20:42     Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.

Yup I'm one of 4 and my parents didn't pay for college for any of us. We went to the cheapest option and got merit scholarships.
Me -college was free i got merit scholarships
Sibling #2: took out small loan and worked it off
Sibling#3: partial merit scholarship and worked for the rest
Shopping#4 full merit


I worked, got merit aid, took out direct loans and that didn’t even come close to COA. I graduated college in 2013. The plan you mention is not possible anymore unless you’re counting parental help (only help I got was parent loans).

My last sibling just graduated college. It can be done.

One thing was we all lived at home and did local colleges. Brooklyn College is very affordable for New Yorkers. You get a part time job and live at home and done.


Its not that easy. To get merit aid you have to b every smart. And, not all parents will let kids live at home. UMD tuition is almost $11K not including books or other expenses. That's not exactly affordable to work part-time.

Your parents are really selfish not to help pay anything.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 20:37     Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:It's gross.


+1. It is a status symbol of religiousness.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 19:47     Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
It's gross.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 19:27     Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.

Yup I'm one of 4 and my parents didn't pay for college for any of us. We went to the cheapest option and got merit scholarships.
Me -college was free i got merit scholarships
Sibling #2: took out small loan and worked it off
Sibling#3: partial merit scholarship and worked for the rest
Shopping#4 full merit


I worked, got merit aid, took out direct loans and that didn’t even come close to COA. I graduated college in 2013. The plan you mention is not possible anymore unless you’re counting parental help (only help I got was parent loans).

My last sibling just graduated college. It can be done.

One thing was we all lived at home and did local colleges. Brooklyn College is very affordable for New Yorkers. You get a part time job and live at home and done.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 18:42     Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
No not at all O.P. It is gross + selfish. I grew up with 8 kids in my family before birth control. Now it is simply stupid + for ultra right-wing religious nuts. The earth cannot handle it.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 18:38     Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.


Hence why there are so many sugar babies in college, desperate for someone to chip in with tuition. When I was in college, someone was working as a stripper in a rough part of the town.

What does this have to do with anything?
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 17:17     Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.


Hence why there are so many sugar babies in college, desperate for someone to chip in with tuition. When I was in college, someone was working as a stripper in a rough part of the town.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 17:13     Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My broke AF cousin with 3 (or more) baby daddy's who lives off of government assistance and has for about 20 years has 6 kids. She's utter trash.

If you have 4+ kids I assume you're mentally ill or very religious. Same/same in many cases.


Funny, I’m the OP of the “my sibling is a crappy parent” thread and everyone said I had no right to complain about her.


Your complaints about your sister (with one kid) was stupid. Oh no, she didn’t breastfeed, she lets the kid eat junk and watch tv. The travesty.



I said she was on WIC and smokes cigarettes indoors in front of the child. But carry on.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 17:11     Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t know if it’s a status symbol but it’s definitely a rich person thing. We make ~700k and can only easily afford 3 and the type of lifestyle we want (nice house, private school, several vacations a year, 100% of college and grad school paid for, etc.).




If you don’t think $700k hhi is rich, I have a bridge to sell you.
This is a little out of touch.


NP. True though. I could have written the same thing. Kids are super expensive! Especially if you are raising them in an UMC, private school context.

I’m aware; I have six on about half that income.
There had to be other reasons not to have kids if that poster can’t figure out four kids on $700K. They probably didn’t want more kids. Which is fine. But to say they couldn’t afford more is ridiculous.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 17:04     Subject: Re:Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
My friend’s dog has fathered 20 pups so far. He lives with one of them. He is a cool dog and he has high status.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2020 17:03     Subject: Is having 4+ kids a status symbol?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The people with large families do no worry about college tuition. They teach their kids to work through college, get merit aid, and supplement with loans.

Yup I'm one of 4 and my parents didn't pay for college for any of us. We went to the cheapest option and got merit scholarships.
Me -college was free i got merit scholarships
Sibling #2: took out small loan and worked it off
Sibling#3: partial merit scholarship and worked for the rest
Shopping#4 full merit


I worked, got merit aid, took out direct loans and that didn’t even come close to COA. I graduated college in 2013. The plan you mention is not possible anymore unless you’re counting parental help (only help I got was parent loans).