Anonymous
08/11/2020 15:53
Subject: Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nope. Sounds like you met your first black person in college or something with this question. Every white kid I know, myself included, has the memory of up wanting cool braids with beads, afro puffs, any cute hairstyle they saw on their friends. It doesn't kill that white kid to learn that not everything is for you.
The bolded is actually really important. There's a short list of things that white kids just shouldn't access, but learning that early sets the stage for later, harder, discussions.
Lol.
double LOL.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 15:48
Subject: Re:Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
Only Paduan Princesses may wear ear buns!
Anonymous
08/11/2020 15:14
Subject: Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
I don't know, a friend of mine put my (blonde, blue eyed) girl's hair in cornrows when lice was going around school. Then I hair sprayed her head into a helmet and, miracle of miracles, no lice! I was complaining about lice, she offered, and I took her up on it. I 100% get the concern about cultural appropriation, but I think we white women need to practice stepping back and listening to black women. It's certainly touchy and better to err on the side of caution in these situations, but my DD got a ton of compliments, including from random (black) people on the street, and it really seemed like an overall positive experience.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 14:50
Subject: Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
Anonymous wrote:I would do a couple of braids but not the AA style.
On that note, my best friend growing up was AA and we met in K. She wore her hair in braids with either Barrettes or bubble hair bands and they used to make tapping sounds when she walked. I loved it so much. I wanted the same hair style too! The closest I got was when she would braid my hair in the playground and when my mom got me the bubble bands and put my hair in 2 braids. To this day every time I see a little girl in braids I smile on the inside. Tangent over.
That was a good riff on the hairstyle.
Little kids don’t actually mean 100% identical when they say they want to twin. I have had kids of all races tell me we were twins for wearing the same color t-shirt or sketchers.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 14:34
Subject: Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
Anonymous wrote:I wasn’t much older when my mom had to explain to me the differences between white hair and black hair and that their hair has texture and mine doesn’t and therefore doesn’t lend itself to beads and braids. I survived and your daughter will too.
Except that it is perfectly easy for white hair to be braided. It just won't necessarily last as long.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 14:13
Subject: Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
I would do a couple of braids but not the AA style.
On that note, my best friend growing up was AA and we met in K. She wore her hair in braids with either Barrettes or bubble hair bands and they used to make tapping sounds when she walked. I loved it so much. I wanted the same hair style too! The closest I got was when she would braid my hair in the playground and when my mom got me the bubble bands and put my hair in 2 braids. To this day every time I see a little girl in braids I smile on the inside. Tangent over.
On that note, my best friend growing up was AA and we met in K. She wore her hair in braids with either Barrettes or bubble hair bands and they used to make tapping sounds when she walked. I loved it so much. I wanted the same hair style too! The closest I got was when she would braid my hair in the playground and when my mom got me the bubble bands and put my hair in 2 braids. To this day every time I see a little girl in braids I smile on the inside. Tangent over.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 14:13
Subject: Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Nope. Sounds like you met your first black person in college or something with this question. Every white kid I know, myself included, has the memory of up wanting cool braids with beads, afro puffs, any cute hairstyle they saw on their friends. It doesn't kill that white kid to learn that not everything is for you.
The bolded is actually really important. There's a short list of things that white kids just shouldn't access, but learning that early sets the stage for later, harder, discussions.
Lol.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 14:11
Subject: Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
I wasn’t much older when my mom had to explain to me the differences between white hair and black hair and that their hair has texture and mine doesn’t and therefore doesn’t lend itself to beads and braids. I survived and your daughter will too.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 14:09
Subject: Re:Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm not a complete idiot though I feel like one now. I know better than to let my kid have braids to match her friend. Could I do french braids instead and put beads in her hair that way? I'm so lost on this. I am an immigrant, sorry for not understanding. I am trying.
French braids would be cute. Get them friendship bracelets or something that can match.
Tell your daughter "Cornrows are for black girls. White girls wear French braids. Girls of all colors can wear friendship bracelets."
What kind of braids can my Asian daughter have?
If she’s Indian, she can wear the traditional plait that women have been weaning for thousands of years.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 14:08
Subject: Re:Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
Every artist in history from literature to fashion to drama to chef is derivative in some way. Our parents taught us imitation is the best form of flattery. Appropriation police, get over it.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 14:05
Subject: Re:Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
Anonymous wrote:There's no such thing as cultural appropriation. It's a term invented by woke warriors to intensify identity politics because they get a thrill out of perpetually victimizing people as oppressed deserving of special attention and care (in other words they are not capable of standing on their own without the help of liberal white SJW). The concept of cultural appropriation is a political and cultural tool that is used to mask righteous dogma and bigotry and judgment so that some people can derive a false sense of superiority by doing the "right" thing and satisfaction in sneering at others who aren't doing the "right" thing.
Just do what you want to do. No one owns braids just as no one owns hair straighteners.
Exactly. What a crack up some of these nutters are!
I guess that applies to people who straighten their hair and lighten their skin. And get thinner noses through cosmetic surgery....and so on.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 14:02
Subject: Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. This sucks. It’s so hard to explain to your daughter that she cannot wear this style - it seems unfair and won’t make sense to her. Just remember that black parents have to have conversations about unfairness for subject matters much more dire than hairstyles.
Absolutely she can wear braids. We did as kids, and pony tails etc.
OP seriously why are you asking such a silly question! Let her braid her hair, not like she want rainbow color hair or something.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 13:52
Subject: Re:Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm not a complete idiot though I feel like one now. I know better than to let my kid have braids to match her friend. Could I do french braids instead and put beads in her hair that way? I'm so lost on this. I am an immigrant, sorry for not understanding. I am trying.
French braids would be cute. Get them friendship bracelets or something that can match.
Tell your daughter "Cornrows are for black girls. White girls wear French braids. Girls of all colors can wear friendship bracelets."
What kind of braids can my Asian daughter have?
Anonymous
08/11/2020 13:44
Subject: Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
Anonymous wrote:You can do it but I don't know why you want yourself or you daughter to look ignorant.
This comment is uncalled for. All little girls like to dress up as twins with their best friends. This 5 year old is not fighting some sort of culture war.
Anonymous
08/11/2020 12:36
Subject: Braids for white daughter? I want to be culturally appropriate. Help!
You can do it but I don't know why you want yourself or you daughter to look ignorant.