Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 20:30     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


How old are your kids?


6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.


Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.


Yeah, I read the first page. I still maintain the grandma had good intentions and was trying to help by cleaning up toys. If my kids want something left out/alone, they need to put a note near/on it. Someone else may need the space, or the supplies, or not realize the importance to the creator, etc. So it seems totally reasonable to me.


A 6-year old must leave a note in case grandma wants to tidy his room? Do you know how idiotic you sound?
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 20:28     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
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Anonymous wrote:I’d speak to my mother and if she continued this attitude, I’d tell her to leave. No-one comes into our home gets to treat my children this way; not even parents.


Wish I'd had a mom like you.


Aw. Sending hugs. I’m this way because my parents never stood up for my siblings and me.


Yeah. I feel like this it wasn't "a thing" when a lot of us were kids. I would have been somehow blamed for this and the grandmother defended at all costs. It's nice to see better.


Yes, it's called respecting adults. It's not a thing anymore. Sometimes for the better, usually for the worse.


Respect goes both ways. It’s hard to believe that there are so many idiots who think they deserve respect just because of their age. Young assholes grow into old assholes, I guess.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 20:24     Subject: Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Sounds like something my narcissistic mother would do.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 20:20     Subject: Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
I also grew up before one would keep fancy lego sets separate, rather than just dump all the pieces together, and I still cannot imagine doing what Grandma did. I can't wrap my head around her actions being an innocent attempt to clean up. It seems darker than that.

How has the rest of the visit been, OP?
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 19:41     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
NP. That grandma sounds a bit psycho, honestly. Taking apart lego sucks, even with a tool. She must have been determined.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 19:33     Subject: Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
My kids are older and let’s just say that their college funds would have been much larger if I hadn’t pissed away so much money on legos in their younger years. I read the OP to DH and we both had the same OMG reaction to what happened. Grandma had no business doing what she did in your home. That was a mistake and an unfortunate situation. But the reaction and her scolding of him was unbelievable. Wrong wrong wrong and you need to sit her down and explain her place. Not her kid. Not her house.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 19:25     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


How old are your kids?


6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.


Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.


Yeah, I read the first page. I still maintain the grandma had good intentions and was trying to help by cleaning up toys. If my kids want something left out/alone, they need to put a note near/on it. Someone else may need the space, or the supplies, or not realize the importance to the creator, etc. So it seems totally reasonable to me.

Not grandma’s house, not grandma’s business.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 19:07     Subject: Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:Wow, grandma has a mean streak.

Don’t invite her over for Christmas anymore, or birthdays - she might decide to clean out the fridge the night before the party and throw the cake in the trash - she’s helpful like that.


LMAO. Nailed it.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 19:02     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


How old are your kids?


6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.


Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.


Yeah, I read the first page. I still maintain the grandma had good intentions and was trying to help by cleaning up toys. If my kids want something left out/alone, they need to put a note near/on it. Someone else may need the space, or the supplies, or not realize the importance to the creator, etc. So it seems totally reasonable to me.


I understand Grandma wasn't trying to be mean (I assume), but she still owes the child an apology. Just because you didn't intend to hurt someone with your actions doesn't mean you don't apologize when you do so. Isn't that what we teach our kids? If your son accidentally stepped on and broke your daughter's dollbed, wouldn't you expect him to say sorry to her?

So yes, even if Grandma had good intentions, she should apologize. That's what people do when their actions hurt others, even inadvertently.


And grandma owes kid a real apology, not a note. A sincere, face to face apology, after which kid gets to learn a valuable lesson about forgiveness and accepting that no one is perfect and we all make mistakes. But it starts with an apology. Which, by the way, is also a good lesson for the kid.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 19:00     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


How old are your kids?


6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.


Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.


Yeah, I read the first page. I still maintain the grandma had good intentions and was trying to help by cleaning up toys. If my kids want something left out/alone, they need to put a note near/on it. Someone else may need the space, or the supplies, or not realize the importance to the creator, etc. So it seems totally reasonable to me.


I understand Grandma wasn't trying to be mean (I assume), but she still owes the child an apology. Just because you didn't intend to hurt someone with your actions doesn't mean you don't apologize when you do so. Isn't that what we teach our kids? If your son accidentally stepped on and broke your daughter's dollbed, wouldn't you expect him to say sorry to her?

So yes, even if Grandma had good intentions, she should apologize. That's what people do when their actions hurt others, even inadvertently.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:49     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


How old are your kids?


6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.


DP but I think many of us feel bad for them given your stance


Lol, nobody needs to feed bad for my kids. They have love, attention, everything they need and some of what they want.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:46     Subject: Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
To add, grandma might be jealous because she never had such nice things, and OP probably didn't, either.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:46     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


How old are your kids?


6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.


Your post comes off as someone who doesn’t have kids.
If you read the posts on the first page, you’ll see that the grandmother got defensive right away and blamed the kid, even though the Legos were set aside and not in the way of anything. THAT was the big deal here. OP wouldn’t have posted had her mom just owned it, apologized and helped to fix it. Instead the grandmother doubled down.


+1

Crap grandmother, probably wasn't the best mother. Since grandma was physically handling the lego projects, in order to take them apart - she knew exactly that it took at least a lot of hours for the work to be put together. What a sh**tty thing to do. Wow.
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:42     Subject: Re:Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked at how everyone is defending the kid and saying the grandma has to apologize. I bet she thought she was helping by tidying up and just viewed the Lego things as playing and he can play again, so it's no big deal.


How old are your kids?


6, 7.5, 9, and 11. Not sure how their ages are relevant though.


DP but I think many of us feel bad for them given your stance
Anonymous
Post 12/30/2019 18:36     Subject: Mom took apart my 6yr olds legos
Wow, grandma has a mean streak.

Don’t invite her over for Christmas anymore, or birthdays - she might decide to clean out the fridge the night before the party and throw the cake in the trash - she’s helpful like that.