Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's a stretch to automatically assume this little girl must be being raped by her brother because of what OP described? Sounds like he is overly touchy/feely, but it's a HUGE LEAP from that to actually putting his penis in her vagina against her will at night. Boys that age are hormonal- YES. But he probably has some freaking self control when it comes to RAPING HIS 10 YEAR OLD SISTER. Like how you get mad at your little brother so you push him down sometimes, that doesn't mean you are beating him unconscious with a baseball bat in your shared room at night because that's such a HUGE LEAP from sometimes pushing him when you're mad. Being hormonal and clearly too touchy with her at the pool is a far cry from actually physically raping her. Everyone on this thread needs to take a deep breath.

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Anonymous wrote:She is 10. If he's raping her every night she would have physical problems that would be evident at home and checkups. Isn't it? So I can't say 100% certainty that he's raping her.

There are many kids who go for yearly physicals whose sexual abuse is not seen because doctors are not checking for it. An exam for sexual assault is not a typical physical. There are many girls who are raped and no one realizes it for YEARS until they have a baby at 11.

This exactly. Mom could easily be telling doctors not to do ‘private parts’ check, because daughter isn’t comfortable with it, or whatever.

This situation is outrageous, yet I’m sure it’s more common than any one of us wants to believe. Always look for any ‘odd’ behavior with any child. Have a look at the Safe Shores (DC) website. I learned a lot of important information there.

I'm a pediatrician and we do "private part checks" as part of a yearly physical to check for onset of puberty and appropriate development. You cannot tell from an external physical exam if tween year old girl has been raped unless there is obvious trauma which there probably wouldn't be.

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's a stretch to automatically assume this little girl must be being raped by her brother because of what OP described? Sounds like he is overly touchy/feely, but it's a HUGE LEAP from that to actually putting his penis in her vagina against her will at night. Boys that age are hormonal- YES. But he probably has some freaking self control when it comes to RAPING HIS 10 YEAR OLD SISTER. Like how you get mad at your little brother so you push him down sometimes, that doesn't mean you are beating him unconscious with a baseball bat in your shared room at night because that's such a HUGE LEAP from sometimes pushing him when you're mad. Being hormonal and clearly too touchy with her at the pool is a far cry from actually physically raping her. Everyone on this thread needs to take a deep breath.

Where would that self-control come from, exactly? He's behaving incredibly inappropriately in public already, and basically getting the reaction from his parents that if she can't fight him off then he gets to do what he wants. And their parents have them sharing a room. This is how he acts during the day with non-family members watching. It's crazy to act like it's a HUGE LEAP to think that he's not pushing it further away from any supervision whatsoever.

I agree with the PP above you that it might not have progressed to penetration yet, but what we see here is that he's been given the all clear to do what he wants to her, and she's had it reinforced that no one will help her when she says no, so I feel pretty confident saying if OP does not intervene this will lead to rape.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I know we all probably sounded a bit harsh, but please know it's just because we lack the agency to do anything about it, and we are anxious to have something done.
Thank you for making the call. I understand this is not something done lightly, and I'm glad you are taking this step.

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Anonymous wrote:She is 10. If he's raping her every night she would have physical problems that would be evident at home and checkups. Isn't it? So I can't say 100% certainty that he's raping her.

There are many kids who go for yearly physicals whose sexual abuse is not seen because doctors are not checking for it. An exam for sexual assault is not a typical physical. There are many girls who are raped and no one realizes it for YEARS until they have a baby at 11.

This exactly. Mom could easily be telling doctors not to do ‘private parts’ check, because daughter isn’t comfortable with it, or whatever.

This situation is outrageous, yet I’m sure it’s more common than any one of us wants to believe. Always look for any ‘odd’ behavior with any child. Have a look at the Safe Shores (DC) website. I learned a lot of important information there.

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's a stretch to automatically assume this little girl must be being raped by her brother because of what OP described? Sounds like he is overly touchy/feely, but it's a HUGE LEAP from that to actually putting his penis in her vagina against her will at night. Boys that age are hormonal- YES. But he probably has some freaking self control when it comes to RAPING HIS 10 YEAR OLD SISTER. Like how you get mad at your little brother so you push him down sometimes, that doesn't mean you are beating him unconscious with a baseball bat in your shared room at night because that's such a HUGE LEAP from sometimes pushing him when you're mad. Being hormonal and clearly too touchy with her at the pool is a far cry from actually physically raping her. Everyone on this thread needs to take a deep breath.

Anonymous wrote:I am reading this thread just now. I can not say if he is raping her (e.g., forced penetration). Nor can I say if he is getting gratification. My guess to the first is no, and to the second is yes, though.

What I will say is the behavior is not appropriate. And if not corrected, it could very well lead to rape.

At 13, the boy may be having problems dealing with his hormonal changes, which is not unusual. If it is stopped and addressed now, he could be fine. If not, it could easily lead to a Law and Order SVU type case.

Now I will tell a story. When I was 13, I (Boy) had an 11 yo friend (girl). We would wrestle, etc. It was consensual, and it was sexual. It never went further than wrestling (we moved away), but had we stayed, it would have.

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Anonymous wrote:She is 10. If he's raping her every night she would have physical problems that would be evident at home and checkups. Isn't it? So I can't say 100% certainty that he's raping her.

There are many kids who go for yearly physicals whose sexual abuse is not seen because doctors are not checking for it. An exam for sexual assault is not a typical physical. There are many girls who are raped and no one realizes it for YEARS until they have a baby at 11.

Anonymous wrote:She is 10. If he's raping her every night she would have physical problems that would be evident at home and checkups. Isn't it? So I can't say 100% certainty that he's raping her.

Anonymous wrote:She is 10. If he's raping her every night she would have physical problems that would be evident at home and checkups. Isn't it? So I can't say 100% certainty that he's raping her.

Anonymous wrote:She is 10. If he's raping her every night she would have physical problems that would be evident at home and checkups. Isn't it? So I can't say 100% certainty that he's raping her.

Anonymous wrote:Geez, people. Of course I'm not letting him abuse her. What kind of person do you think I am? I have a child the same age.

I found out the number to call already.

For what it's worth the parents are good, middle class parents who love their kids so I'm surprised they haven't acted on it.