Sorry, OP. I feel like it doesn’t change much in elementary school. We moved to a new school when my oldest was in 2nd grade. I remember signing up to help with the Halloween party - showed up and all the other moms were wearing matching Pink Lady costumes, with full hair & makeup done. They hadn’t even bothered to let me know to wear a costume.

Anonymous wrote:I live in DC and recently visited a SAHM friend who lives in the suburbs. She explained the trend right now is to screen print your own matchy t-shirts. She had made them for her family to wear on a trip but OP's story sounds like a totally legit project.

This is big fir trips to Disney in particular. Never seen in at a random local birthday party though.

Anonymous wrote:Do you point out that you are "high earning" when you meet other moms?

I love you.

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Anonymous wrote:How matching are we talking about here for the mom outfits? Like they all wore blue or they all wore the exact same Lilly Pulitzer dress? How weird I think this is depends on your answer.

Generally I get why you feel left out, but at least you were invited to the party!

OP here. They literally all had on the exact same print yoga pant and same black shirt with print "lets party". All moms and all of their daughters matched. It was just kind of sad to be left out like that. I haven't experienced that in a long time! I know its petty and not a big deal, but it did hurt and i was surprised we are making cliques at age THREE

What. I have a soon to be third grader and live in DC, and I have never seen anything like this--not even one kid and mom dressed alike. Where is this foolishness taking place, OP?

This sounds like Highland Park, IL. Not DC.

Just ignore these moms and make your own friends.

Gosh, the matching t-shirts is a hilarious and sad detail.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like my 4 year old's ballet class, where moms in their late 30s and 40s refer to each other as "we are best friends", and discuss how life was so interesting for the in high school because they were 2 blondes and a brunette and were best friends. And they still wear sweatshirts from their high school......

LOL!!!! I hate the ballet class waiting room scene. I am in my 30s. I don't refer to people as my "best friend" anymore.