Anonymous wrote:I get it.

I think is ALWAYS a disservice to your first kids to have more with a second/third spouse.

It’s not about money.

And it’s a disservice to your first child to ever have a second? Same principle at work: division of time and money.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]you are batshit crazy!

My boyfriend has been separated for two years and will be divorced soon.

His ex wife is a controlling bitch who alienates him from his daughter and tries to limit his custody so she can maximize her CS.

Well she's got another thing coming because now I'm pregnant and we will have our own family. He doesn't have to cry every night from missing his child bc I will give him another one.

Oh and the ex wife kept saying that he better not have another kid. Bye bitch. [/quote]

Hello, my worst nightmare!
-OP[/quote]

No matter what you think, your child will not replace his first child. And any man who will distance himself from his children from his first marriage isn’t much of a father or the type of man you should want.
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Please work on your reading skills. He WANTS a relationship with his child but his ex has worked through the court system to alienate him from his child to the point that he only sees the child a few days a month so that she can be primary parent to maximize her child support. He has been battling for 50/50 custody for the past two years. You greedy bitches who just want the man's money at any expense whether it's through duping him to get a vasectomy under false pretenses to ripping an highly involved father away from his child to benefit yourself financially are a piece work.

Oh and for what it's worth I agree with the poster who thinks that the OP might have some kind of personality disorder because my boyfriends ex is a certified narcissist.[/quote]

He certainly has a type.

Anonymous wrote:My DH has one. His idea once we were done. At the time I was very happy because I was like “yay don’t have to worry about second family if we divorce!” Still Happily married 10 years later. I thought most people thought this way...

Man here I also got one after kid 2. Oddly enough my wife mentioned the scenario of what if we divorce and I want more kids. Never crossed my mind. Was on top of hers.

We morphed into one of those hall pass couples and it's very freeing.

Pay attention, Ladies. DCUM has been especially enlightening about male attitudes this week.
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Men marry for sex.

We sure as hell don’t marry for no sex.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]you are batshit crazy!

My boyfriend has been separated for two years and will be divorced soon.

His ex wife is a controlling bitch who alienates him from his daughter and tries to limit his custody so she can maximize her CS.

Well she's got another thing coming because now I'm pregnant and we will have our own family. He doesn't have to cry every night from missing his child bc I will give him another one.

Oh and the ex wife kept saying that he better not have another kid. Bye bitch. [/quote]

Hello, my worst nightmare!
-OP[/quote]

No matter what you think, your child will not replace his first child. And any man who will distance himself from his children from his first marriage isn’t much of a father or the type of man you should want.
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Please work on your reading skills. He WANTS a relationship with his child but his ex has worked through the court system to alienate him from his child to the point that he only sees the child a few days a month so that she can be primary parent to maximize her child support. He has been battling for 50/50 custody for the past two years. You greedy bitches who just want the man's money at any expense whether it's through duping him to get a vasectomy under false pretenses to ripping an highly involved father away from his child to benefit yourself financially are a piece work.

Oh and for what it's worth I agree with the poster who thinks that the OP might have some kind of personality disorder because my boyfriends ex is a certified narcissist.

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Anonymous wrote:OP has to think about her children. If you think it's in their best interest to encourage him to get a vasectomy, do it.

If OP were actually thinking about her kids, she would not have had more children than she can support all by herself.

Pay attention, Ladies. DCUM has been especially enlightening about male attitudes this week.

Any nudes you send him, he will share with his buddies.
Men marry for sex.
Be able to support any kids he fathers with you all on your own.

Keep ‘em coming, guys. This is going to spare a lot of women.

And this thread also shows how many females view men and quite frankly it's terrifying.

Pay attention men:

You are a walking wallet. Any woman you marry will make sure you pay her way for the rest of your working life. Of course cough cough it's for the children.

As a man you cannot have any say over her fertility or her body however she will feel like she can have a say over yours.

Forget honesty, you will be manipulated and lied to for her to achieve the result best suited for HER.

You actually don’t know how child support works, do you?

It stops at 18 in the vast majority of cases. 21 in a few states and DC. Unless your kids with that ex-wife are a decade or more apart in age, CS is going to be a short obligation on your part and a brief benefit for her and the kids.

It is also typically a low sum unless you are a multi-millionaire (and we know YOU and most of your audience aren’t) so hardly enough to fully support the exwife and kids.

And unless you stopped having at kids at age 50, paying even 18 years of child support won’t be for the rest of your working life. Let’s be honest that you were never going to be able to retire early anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:OP has to think about her children. If you think it's in their best interest to encourage him to get a vasectomy, do it.

If OP were actually thinking about her kids, she would not have had more children than she can support all by herself.

Pay attention, Ladies. DCUM has been especially enlightening about male attitudes this week.

Any nudes you send him, he will share with his buddies.
Men marry for sex.
Be able to support any kids he fathers with you all on your own.

Keep ‘em coming, guys. This is going to spare a lot of women.

And this thread also shows how many females view men and quite frankly it's terrifying.

Pay attention men:

You are a walking wallet. Any woman you marry will make sure you pay her way for the rest of your working life. Of course cough cough it's for the children.

As a man you cannot have any say over her fertility or her body however she will feel like she can have a say over yours.

Forget honesty, you will be manipulated and lied to for her to achieve the result best suited for HER.

Anonymous wrote:My DH has one. His idea once we were done. At the time I was very happy because I was like “yay don’t have to worry about second family if we divorce!” Still Happily married 10 years later. I thought most people thought this way...

Yes we think it. But we keep it to ourselves and don't try to force or manipulate anyone into getting surgery and becoming effectively sterile.

No one would be ok with a man forcing a woman to get her tubes tied ever. All people need body autonomy. And consent matters.

My DH has one. His idea once we were done. At the time I was very happy because I was like “yay don’t have to worry about second family if we divorce!” Still Happily married 10 years later. I thought most people thought this way...

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Anonymous wrote:you are batshit crazy!

My boyfriend has been separated for two years and will be divorced soon.

His ex wife is a controlling bitch who alienates him from his daughter and tries to limit his custody so she can maximize her CS.

Well she's got another thing coming because now I'm pregnant and we will have our own family. He doesn't have to cry every night from missing his child bc I will give him another one.

Oh and the ex wife kept saying that he better not have another kid. Bye bitch.

Hello, my worst nightmare!
-OP

No matter what you think, your child will not replace his first child. And any man who will distance himself from his children from his first marriage isn’t much of a father or the type of man you should want.

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Anonymous wrote:I absolutely would if you could convince him. You want your kids to always be #1 in his life. Or at least 2 & 3 if he’s the type to place a new woman over his kids.

You people are truly, truly sick.

Hi, New Woman!

Try again. I’ve been cheated on and my ex got the woman pregnant. I’m just not a sick psychopath.

Well, you obviously didn’t learn from the experience. If your ex had a vasectomy, you would have been dealing with cheating instead of cheating AND a pregnancy.

No PP just thinks its morally wrong to try to control someone else's fertility. His body - his choice.

Now if you want to scare him OP- remind him if he has kids with another woman he won't be able to retire until that kid is out of college.

That's an poor threat. Men live to work, and most know they will be worked to death especially if they wind up with a divorce.

Childish thoughts.

Anonymous wrote:I get it.

I think is ALWAYS a disservice to your first kids to have more with a second/third spouse.

It’s not about money.

Then what about? And why a disservice?

I get it.

I think is ALWAYS a disservice to your first kids to have more with a second/third spouse.

It’s not about money.

Anonymous wrote:you are batshit crazy!

My boyfriend has been separated for two years and will be divorced soon.

His ex wife is a controlling bitch who alienates him from his daughter and tries to limit his custody so she can maximize her CS.

Well she's got another thing coming because now I'm pregnant and we will have our own family. He doesn't have to cry every night from missing his child bc I will give him another one.

Oh and the ex wife kept saying that he better not have another kid. Bye bitch.

Hello, my worst nightmare!
-OP