Anonymous wrote:I can't believe I read 8 pages of anonymous posters encouraging a woman they have never met to divorce because she found a naked picture of another woman on her DH's phone.

I think they’re encouragimg divorce because the DH lied about a picture she saw on his phone, and worse tried to gaslight her that what she saw didn’t exist...

Yes, Op, I suspect many of us feel for you. Take care of yourself

I'm sorry for what you're going through, OP.

Gosh, even if my DH was running around with 'just' porn on his phone, I wouldn't want to be married to him.

And that he denied it and said you made it up? If this is a real post and not a troll, you need to divorce him ASAP. Tell him you could have been convinced to stay with the photos but gaslighting is psychological abuse, in some ways even more damaging than physical abuse.

You need to leave him.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe I read 8 pages of anonymous posters encouraging a woman they have never met to divorce because she found a naked picture of another woman on her DH's phone.

You’re misconstruing the many posts asking for space/ a night off for filing divorce papers.

+1 In addition most are just as concerned about the fact that her husband told her a bold faced lie.

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe I read 8 pages of anonymous posters encouraging a woman they have never met to divorce because she found a naked picture of another woman on her DH's phone.

You’re misconstruing the many posts asking for space/ a night off for filing divorce papers.

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe I read 8 pages of anonymous posters encouraging a woman they have never met to divorce because she found a naked picture of another woman on her DH's phone.

Hey, whatever will get her to shut up.

I can't believe I read 8 pages of anonymous posters encouraging a woman they have never met to divorce because she found a naked picture of another woman on her DH's phone.

he's watching porn divorce him

OP, he is gaslighting you, trying to get you believe you didn’t see what you saw. Now he will take his activities underground. You need to go to one of the infidelity websites mentioned above and read about the 180. You need to give yourself distance to decide how to proceed while you investigate further. Consider putting a VAR (voice activated recorder) under his car seat, to catch any incriminating conversations he might have in his car. You need to know what’s going on in your own marriage.

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Stop jumping at the bit to convict the guy when you're not even sure a crime has been committed.

The words “conviction” and “crime” have no place here. Husband had nudes that do not seem to be porn. Instead of explaining that they came from an innocent source, he lied. It’s now his job to prove his innocence and explain his reason for lying. If he can’t, the explanation for why is obvious. OP isn’t a jury, she’s a woman who deserves respect from her spouse, and isn’t getting it.

You mean like she was respectful of her spouses’ right to privacy.
Guess he doesn’t deserve that.

Not really anymore. Trust but verify

Oh not really anymore but how about in the first place?

Good ideas. Look to see if the boss has a social media account.

I still can't believe idiots send naked pics of themselves. Ceases to amaze me, but if I confirmed that was his boss I'd get a hold of that photo. She would wish she never did that.

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Stop jumping at the bit to convict the guy when you're not even sure a crime has been committed.

The words “conviction” and “crime” have no place here. Husband had nudes that do not seem to be porn. Instead of explaining that they came from an innocent source, he lied. It’s now his job to prove his innocence and explain his reason for lying. If he can’t, the explanation for why is obvious. OP isn’t a jury, she’s a woman who deserves respect from her spouse, and isn’t getting it.

You mean like she was respectful of her spouses’ right to privacy.
Guess he doesn’t deserve that.

Not really anymore. Trust but verify

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Anonymous wrote:

Stop jumping at the bit to convict the guy when you're not even sure a crime has been committed.

The words “conviction” and “crime” have no place here. Husband had nudes that do not seem to be porn. Instead of explaining that they came from an innocent source, he lied. It’s now his job to prove his innocence and explain his reason for lying. If he can’t, the explanation for why is obvious. OP isn’t a jury, she’s a woman who deserves respect from her spouse, and isn’t getting it.

You mean like she was respectful of her spouses’ right to privacy.
Guess he doesn’t deserve that.

Op, did you find the pictures in his text messages or in his photo folder? Perhaps the photos can be retrieved in the cloud, if there is one. For ex, my iPhone, iPad and Mac are all connected and a iMessage or photo on one goes on My cloud and can be retrieved on the other devices. I am not too tech savvy but I bet there is a way to find the photo of it is on the cloud, maybe even if he deleted it on his phone.

Is there a way you can also determine if the woman is in fact his boss? Did you see her face? If so look online to see if her picture is anywhere to compare (company website, etc).

I would totally lose my mind if this happened to me, i am really sorry. Treating you like you’re stupid and saying nothing is on his phone is awful. Did you ask him over the phone or in person?