i met mine at 38 and had kids at 41 and 43, with medical assistance. it felt like the last possible moment to have kids, i don’t regret it at al. i feel like i am seriously the luckiest person in the world.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend got married at 44, had 2 IVF babies - at 46 and 48.

Those are donor egg babies. There are only a handful of own egg pregnancies from IVF over 46 that have ever worked in the history of time.
I would bet my life savings those were from a donor.

This. My RE told me that he things Hollywood does such an injustice to women lying about having babies at 50. Maybe they froze their eggs a long time ago, but they weren’t natural pregnancies.

I made the post about the friend. That's really interesting - I have never gotten into the details (other than knowing they were some kind of fertility assisted births). Now I wonder if they are donor eggs or if she froze eggs beforehand. They don't seem to have a ton of money so both seem a bit unexpected but you never know.

No we do know. Biology dictates she did not have two
Oops babies at 46 and 48.

It's more likely to have oops babies at 46 and 48 than IVF babies unless the IVF is donor egg or the eggs were frozen at least 10+ years ago.
Own egg IVF almost never works after age 44 because old eggs are very fragile and can't take the lab manipulation. IVF success rates are microscopically low at 45 and
I think the oldest IVF (own egg) cycle of all-time is something like 47.

The technology to freeze eggs was only refined with the past 10 years. Prior to that it was done without much success at all. It's also usually only done on eggs under age 35. So if a woman had successful IVF at 46 and 48 anytime in recent years it's guaranteed she did donor egg (or donor embryo) IVF. The technology wasn't there to freeze her eggs when she was young enough to have eggs that were viable for freezing (and as stated above she's too old for own-egg IVF).

That said, this whole schema will change in the years to come because there is a growing cohort of women who are freezing their eggs in their 20s and 30s and the technology for freezing eggs has vastly improved---giving an almost 100% successful thaw rate! We'll start to see a lot of own (frozen) egg babies by women in their 40's and 50's in the years to come.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend got married at 44, had 2 IVF babies - at 46 and 48.

Those are donor egg babies. There are only a handful of own egg pregnancies from IVF over 46 that have ever worked in the history of time.
I would bet my life savings those were from a donor.

This. My RE told me that he things Hollywood does such an injustice to women lying about having babies at 50. Maybe they froze their eggs a long time ago, but they weren’t natural pregnancies.

I made the post about the friend. That's really interesting - I have never gotten into the details (other than knowing they were some kind of fertility assisted births). Now I wonder if they are donor eggs or if she froze eggs beforehand. They don't seem to have a ton of money so both seem a bit unexpected but you never know.

No we do know. Biology dictates she did not have two
Oops babies at 46 and 48.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend got married at 44, had 2 IVF babies - at 46 and 48.

Those are donor egg babies. There are only a handful of own egg pregnancies from IVF over 46 that have ever worked in the history of time.
I would bet my life savings those were from a donor.

This. My RE told me that he things Hollywood does such an injustice to women lying about having babies at 50. Maybe they froze their eggs a long time ago, but they weren’t natural pregnancies.

I made the post about the friend. That's really interesting - I have never gotten into the details (other than knowing they were some kind of fertility assisted births). Now I wonder if they are donor eggs or if she froze eggs beforehand. They don't seem to have a ton of money so both seem a bit unexpected but you never know.

The odds are against her for getting both a new husband and a bio kid. Not impossible, just not probable. However, the only thing that is time-dependent of the two is the bio kid, given her age. She needs to find a reputable RE and get going on the ART rollercoaster, but have a plan, ex. If it doesn’t work after 2 rounds of ivf that’s it, before she ruins herself financially. This way even if it doesn’t work out, she’ Know she’s given it a go. And even if it doesn’t work out, if she wants to be a parent badly enough, she will be. It might not be how she envisioned it, her child might come to her through adoption, donor eggs, or by marriage, but it will happen. The husband...well, with the baby pressure off, she’ll be free to date and look at the other person as a person and not as a means to an end. Best of luck to your friend. It’s a terrible stressful situation, but it too shall pass.

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Anonymous wrote:My friend got married at 44, had 2 IVF babies - at 46 and 48.

Those are donor egg babies. There are only a handful of own egg pregnancies from IVF over 46 that have ever worked in the history of time.
I would bet my life savings those were from a donor.

This. My RE told me that he things Hollywood does such an injustice to women lying about having babies at 50. Maybe they froze their eggs a long time ago, but they weren’t natural pregnancies.

Also, having worked in an infertility clinic---there are many hundreds of successful donor IVF cycles that are done each year in the DC area. Almost no one tells ANYONE they did a donor cycle. They don't tell their parents, their sisters, their very best friend in the entire world.
It is the norm to pass it off as regular IVF or natural conception (and I would to if I was doing a donor cycle---way, way, way too much judgment out there).

Anonymous wrote:My friend got married at 44, had 2 IVF babies - at 46 and 48.

Those are donor egg babies. There are only a handful of own egg pregnancies from IVF over 46 that have ever worked in the history of time.
I would bet my life savings those were from a donor.

I’ll share my story. Married at 38 and unsure if we wanted kids. Decided to give it a try at age 41 and ended up having our only at age 42. First one, no previous pregnancies or miscarriages. No IVF. I never had fertility issues - very regular, normal cycles. Do I feel luck? Very. Lots of friends who have encountered fertility challenges both in their 30’s and 40’s. Can it happen? Yes. Is it the norm? No. I wish your friend the best and hope things work out for her.

My colleague had her first baby at 47. Donor egg.

I wouldn't plan on it. Why not adopt? Or use donor eggs? This person sounds too rigid in their life plan, should have really tried to accomplish this earlier if this was the issue.

I do know people who easily or accidentally got pregnant in their 40s but one of two things were at play - they had other kids (proven fertility, and usually family history of late age pregnancy) or it was completely accidental and they weren't trying. Any time trying is involved, I think the stress of that can keep it from happening.

I know lots and lots of people who had their first easily in the late 30s but there is a big decline starting at 40 and she's already halfway there to completely infertile (usually 45 is a hard and fast age for that, earlier for most people).