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Anonymous wrote:“ Black people are only taking him to task now because we do not want to look bad in the eyes from white people.” I disagree, black women have been #muterkelly for a long time. I do truly wonder though... are you black?

You took the words right out of my mouth.

+1000. A white person wrote that post and the only people fooled are other white people. Black people, especially black women, have been pushing to hold R. Kelly responsible for years. As a previous post mentioned, white A&R people are behind R. Kelly and always have been because he is perceived as a hitmaker. Not one of the record companies that have long backed him are black owned or black run. And not one of the platforms still streaming and selling his music are black owned or black run. As long as white people do not care about black children while making a buck off a pedophile’s songs, R. Kelly will remain powerful.

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Anonymous wrote:Black children are not viewed as innocent. As a society we must change this.
We also need to stand by black women and create momentum of protecting black girls.

x10000

How do we start to do this? I ask as a black woman—how do we change the station of black women in our society?
We have a 7yo. A lot of our educational and enrichment choices have been made with a goal of insulating and preparing her for a lot of societal dangers. I know we can’t shelter her completely, though.

I don’t have a good answer for this. As a society in the US, Black women are viewed as objects. For starters there needs to be a mass rebellion by famous people to stop the way black women are portrayed in the music industry. I know there have been fits and starts over time, but it’s 2019, get serious. And why did people like JayZ, Gaga, Celine, and Dave Chappell refuse to participate in this story when they’ve already been publicly critical of Kelly? Why was it just John Legend and Charlagnme that we’re strong enough to do it?

[b]There are non- profits supporting women around the world to build their own businesses as its demonstrated that if women are supported, the village/family overall does better. Where is that same approach here? Many of these are US based non-profits.

And where we can show strong successful black women as role models, why aren’t we? I know Alyssa Milano was assaulted and that she is the one that revved up the #metoo movement on Twitter. But what about the women that started #muterkelly, in a documentary about him, and how black women are treated, why weren’t those women doing the PSA instead of Alyssa?

Anonymous wrote:Lady Gaga apologized for doing a collaboration with him, and pulled their song from streaming services. She said, ""I stand behind these women 1000 percent, believe them, know they are suffering and in pain, and feel strongly that their voices should be heard and taken seriously," Gaga said. "What I am hearing about the allegations against R. Kelly is absolutely horrifying and indefensible."

https://people.com/music/lady-gaga-breaks-silence-working-with-r-kelly-sexual-assault/

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Anonymous wrote:This story has been going on for years but the music industry still embraces him. Didn't he do a duet with Lady Gaga? Plenty of people, blacks and whites, buy his music and attend his concerts. If he had done this to young white girls he'd be in jail. why haven't people like Oprah taken him to task?

How telling that you think “people like Oprah”—black people—should take him to task when you admit all races support his music. Has it occurred to you that white people, too, have a responsibility to these black girls and have failed miserably? The only people who have spoken out are black people, even though whites run his record company, own Spotify and Apple and other platforms, and control distribution. The real question is why white people are so heartless and racist that you feel no responsibility here.

In the thread about the preacher inappropriately touching Ariana Grande at Aretha Franklin’s funeral and cracking the Taco Bell joke, it was stated a number of times that white people needed to stay out of it because it was being ‘handled’ by the black community.

But now that people are wondering how R Kelly was able to get away with his behavior for so long (as if his entourage that aided him were not black just all white people around him all the time) the tune is how come white people aren’t more involved.

Which is it? If’s non black person calls out a black man on inappropriate behavior, they are racist. If a non black person doesn’t call out a black man’s behavior, they are racist.

Why do white people always think this childish, unintelligent “damned if you do/don’t” whine is such a clever response? PP pointed out specific ways in which white people have helped prop up and enrich R Kelly, and your response is that a preacher at Aretha’s funeral blah blah blah. Stay on topic and stop dodging valid points.

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Anonymous wrote:This story has been going on for years but the music industry still embraces him. Didn't he do a duet with Lady Gaga? Plenty of people, blacks and whites, buy his music and attend his concerts. If he had done this to young white girls he'd be in jail. why haven't people like Oprah taken him to task?

How telling that you think “people like Oprah”—black people—should take him to task when you admit all races support his music. Has it occurred to you that white people, too, have a responsibility to these black girls and have failed miserably? The only people who have spoken out are black people, even though whites run his record company, own Spotify and Apple and other platforms, and control distribution. The real question is why white people are so heartless and racist that you feel no responsibility here.

In the thread about the preacher inappropriately touching Ariana Grande at Aretha Franklin’s funeral and cracking the Taco Bell joke, it was stated a number of times that white people needed to stay out of it because it was being ‘handled’ by the black community.

But now that people are wondering how R Kelly was able to get away with his behavior for so long (as if his entourage that aided him were not black just all white people around him all the time) the tune is how come white people aren’t more involved.

Which is it? If’s non black person calls out a black man on inappropriate behavior, they are racist. If a non black person doesn’t call out a black man’s behavior, they are racist.

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Anonymous wrote:“ Black people are only taking him to task now because we do not want to look bad in the eyes from white people.” I disagree, black women have been #muterkelly for a long time. I do truly wonder though... are you black?

You took the words right out of my mouth.

Anonymous wrote:To the parent trying to insulate her daughter from the harm in this world, I wish you much love and lots of luck and support. I hope we white people can recognize that there is a structure in this country. A structure of discrimination and favor and as white people, we were given a brick to add to the structure (by virtue of being favored...my family could get home loans and build some wealth, schools were nurturing - I literally have a story of the great divide of child treatment in white schools versus majority black schools.. in 3rd gradeI fall asleep at story time and the teacher instructs the class to be quiet and let me sleep, my black friend in 3rd grade dozes at her desk and the teacher wraps her knuckles 5 times, very traumatizing for my studious, eager-to-please wonderful and kind friend, anyway, that is another story) but, as white people we get a brick to lay , and we get to choose what to do with that brick... add to the division and disparity or use the brick to tear that down?

Anonymous wrote:To the parent trying to insulate her daughter from the harm in this world, I wish you much love and lots of luck and support. I hope we white people can recognize that there is a structure in this country. A structure of discrimination and favor and as white people, we were given a brick to add to the structure (by virtue of being favored...my family could get home loans and build some wealth, schools were nurturing - I literally have a story of the great divide of child treatment in white schools versus majority black schools.. in 3rd gradeI fall asleep at story time and the teacher instructs the class to be quiet and let me sleep, my black friend in 3rd grade dozes at her desk and the teacher wraps her knuckles 5 times, very traumatizing for my studious, eager-to-please wonderful and kind friend, anyway, that is another story) but, as white people we get a brick to lay , and we get to choose what to do with that brick... add to the division and disparity or use the brick to tear that down?

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Anonymous wrote:This story has been going on for years but the music industry still embraces him. Didn't he do a duet with Lady Gaga? Plenty of people, blacks and whites, buy his music and attend his concerts. If he had done this to young white girls he'd be in jail. why haven't people like Oprah taken him to task?

How telling that you think “people like Oprah”—black people—should take him to task when you admit all races support his music. Has it occurred to you that white people, too, have a responsibility to these black girls and have failed miserably? The only people who have spoken out are black people, even though whites run his record company, own Spotify and Apple and other platforms, and control distribution. The real question is why white people are so heartless and racist that you feel no responsibility here.

I agree with the PP. Black people are only taking him to task now because we do not want to look bad in the eyes from white people. However, sexual assaulting girls and rampant misogyny are embraced in the black community. Black men in general have profited off of abusing our women and girls for years. When folks came out years ago about the denigration of black women and girls from black men specifically those within the music industry folks cried racism. I was told on this very forum a few years ago, "Well it is our culture and it is art." As a crisis counselor who has spent years working with black families I have heard far too many times, "We do not want to see another brother going to jail." This is not just about the POS R. Kelly is about the culture at large which refuses to protect black girls from predators especially when those predators are black men. You know how many black women have been sexually assaulted as girls by men in their family, community, or in church? I have lost count. The black community looks the other way and blames the victim of abuse. When it comes time to prosecute these men who assault children people rally around the predators and give them protection. Often times in the black community when our girls are assaulted she is the one who is ostracized. It is disheartening black women and girls do not have a voice. The abuse within the black community especially our girls and even our boys are not giving justice because our society has embrace black men being sexually violent.

Now black folks want to act like we care about our girls. It's BS! Those of us who have been on the frontlines fighting these monsters for years were ignored. If anything, it took going outside of the black community for some of us advocates to get justice. We need to seriously stop protecting black men who prey on women and girls. We need to stop excusing their degenerate behavior and blaming racism for the reason why they behave the way that they do. Other so call "good black men" need to call other black men to task and speak out for their daughters, sisters, and mothers. It is beyond despicable how years of covering up sexual abuse within the black community has damaged so many black women who were abused as children. Folks only care now because it is a celebrity that many people worshipped, but this tragedy goes further than just R. Kelly. We can no longer continue pointing the finger at white people. There are many R. Kellys within our communities, churches, and in some cases families. The real question is, "Are black people going to step up and work with law enforcement to turn in the sexual predators that they know? Are black people going to continue financially supporting black people (entertainers, those within the church, etc.) who are abusers? Are other black men going to call out child predators who harassed children? Or are they going blame the victim? Protecting child predators has gone for years within the black community this is not new. Families don't even report abuses in many cases and many black girls suffer in silence. Turn these monsters in and denounce them from our community. Who cares if they go to jail. So many people knew about R. Kelly, but they turned a blind eye.

Anyone who coverup the abuse of children or anyone for that matter should be prosecuted and held accountable for protecting predators. When this R. Kelly saga is over the black community will go back to living in denial by blaming white people for these uncivilized creatures like R Kelly and their inhumane behavior. It's so sickening that we refuse to protect our children especially our girls!

Thank you. This post is brutally honest.

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Anonymous wrote:This story has been going on for years but the music industry still embraces him. Didn't he do a duet with Lady Gaga? Plenty of people, blacks and whites, buy his music and attend his concerts. If he had done this to young white girls he'd be in jail. why haven't people like Oprah taken him to task?

How telling that you think “people like Oprah”—black people—should take him to task when you admit all races support his music. Has it occurred to you that white people, too, have a responsibility to these black girls and have failed miserably? The only people who have spoken out are black people, even though whites run his record company, own Spotify and Apple and other platforms, and control distribution. The real question is why white people are so heartless and racist that you feel no responsibility here.

I agree with the PP. Black people are only taking him to task now because we do not want to look bad in the eyes from white people. However, sexual assaulting girls and rampant misogyny are embraced in the black community. Black men in general have profited off of abusing our women and girls for years. When folks came out years ago about the denigration of black women and girls from black men specifically those within the music industry folks cried racism. I was told on this very forum a few years ago, "Well it is our culture and it is art." As a crisis counselor who has spent years working with black families I have heard far too many times, "We do not want to see another brother going to jail." This is not just about the POS R. Kelly is about the culture at large which refuses to protect black girls from predators especially when those predators are black men. You know how many black women have been sexually assaulted as girls by men in their family, community, or in church? I have lost count. The black community looks the other way and blames the victim of abuse. When it comes time to prosecute these men who assault children people rally around the predators and give them protection. Often times in the black community when our girls are assaulted she is the one who is ostracized. It is disheartening black women and girls do not have a voice. The abuse within the black community especially our girls and even our boys are not giving justice because our society has embrace black men being sexually violent.

Now black folks want to act like we care about our girls. It's BS! Those of us who have been on the frontlines fighting these monsters for years were ignored. If anything, it took going outside of the black community for some of us advocates to get justice. We need to seriously stop protecting black men who prey on women and girls. We need to stop excusing their degenerate behavior and blaming racism for the reason why they behave the way that they do. Other so call "good black men" need to call other black men to task and speak out for their daughters, sisters, and mothers. It is beyond despicable how years of covering up sexual abuse within the black community has damaged so many black women who were abused as children. Folks only care now because it is a celebrity that many people worshipped, but this tragedy goes further than just R. Kelly. We can no longer continue pointing the finger at white people. There are many R. Kellys within our communities, churches, and in some cases families. The real question is, "Are black people going to step up and work with law enforcement to turn in the sexual predators that they know? Are black people going to continue financially supporting black people (entertainers, those within the church, etc.) who are abusers? Are other black men going to call out child predators who harassed children? Or are they going blame the victim? Protecting child predators has gone for years within the black community this is not new. Families don't even report abuses in many cases and many black girls suffer in silence. Turn these monsters in and denounce them from our community. Who cares if they go to jail. So many people knew about R. Kelly, but they turned a blind eye.

Anyone who coverup the abuse of children or anyone for that matter should be prosecuted and held accountable for protecting predators. When this R. Kelly saga is over the black community will go back to living in denial by blaming white people for these uncivilized creatures like R Kelly and their inhumane behavior. It's so sickening that we refuse to protect our children especially our girls!

Thank you. This post is brutally honest.

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Anonymous wrote:This story has been going on for years but the music industry still embraces him. Didn't he do a duet with Lady Gaga? Plenty of people, blacks and whites, buy his music and attend his concerts. If he had done this to young white girls he'd be in jail. why haven't people like Oprah taken him to task?

How telling that you think “people like Oprah”—black people—should take him to task when you admit all races support his music. Has it occurred to you that white people, too, have a responsibility to these black girls and have failed miserably? The only people who have spoken out are black people, even though whites run his record company, own Spotify and Apple and other platforms, and control distribution. The real question is why white people are so heartless and racist that you feel no responsibility here.

Anonymous wrote:“ Black people are only taking him to task now because we do not want to look bad in the eyes from white people.” I disagree, black women have been #muterkelly for a long time. I do truly wonder though... are you black?