49 here with an 11 year old

50 here with a 12 year old.

Anonymous wrote:52 with 7 year old twins.

Sometimes I feel ancient, but overall I'm holding my own.

Wow. I'm 53 with 7 year old twins. Whodathunkit?

52 with 7 year old twins.

Sometimes I feel ancient, but overall I'm holding my own.

Anonymous wrote:Both DH and I are 53 and we have 9 yr old twins. My son found out how old I am and now calls me old lady and quite frankly it hurts especially since I'm not aging as well as I'd hoped to be.

9 year olds call anyone over 25 old. Don't let it bother you.

Anonymous wrote:I shared this thread with my husband to get his opinions. His father was 40 when husband was born and died when husband was only 32. He misses his dad tremendously and would love it if he were still around. Your kids don’t care if you “traveled, and really got well established in your career” before you decided to have them. They would prefer that you be alive.

The “old parent” movement is just wrong. You people spend thousands and thousands on fertility treatments, drop the kids at daycare, pat yourself on the back for “having it all”, then drop dead when your kids are in their 20s.

Rant over.

No, you've drawn the wrong conclusion. If you're going to make a terrible inference, you should say that anyone whose parents died young should not have children. My parents are alive and well at 86 and 92 (my father will be 93 in 3 weeks). I had children late and am in great health. I'm 53 with 7 year old twins and I do more with my kids than many of my peers who are 15-20 years younger than me. I go roller-skating with my kids, play at the parks and take them plenty of places. We have much more disposable income than many of the parents we know in their 30's, so we can go to fun places and we can make better choices for our kids because money is as much of an impediment as it is for younger peers.

Many of the people I've known who died young also had parents who died young. I knew a guy who was a healthy guy. He was a former marine, still in great shape. He died of a heart attack at age 50. Surprising until we found out his father died of a heart attack at 45.

Anonymous wrote:Both DH and I are 53 and we have 9 yr old twins. My son found out how old I am and now calls me old lady and quite frankly it hurts especially since I'm not aging as well as I'd hoped to be.

I'm forty with a 9-year old who called me old recently. Nine year olds can be jerks to be quite honest.

^^PP here. Also to the poster who is telling us that being an older parent is wrong. Life is a crapshoot. My mother found out she had cancer when she was 23 when she got pregnant. She had a therapeutic abortion beck in the early 60's, went through chemo and several surgeries and then went into remission and the doctors told her it was ok to try to get pregnant with me. She did and I was born in '68. The cancer came back and she died in 1974. My husband's parents had him when they were 25 and his dad died at 49 (colon cancer) and his mom (ovarian cancer) died at 60. My husband was 23 when his dad died and 35 when his mom died.

We have an (adopted) 21 month old. We are 50 and 52.

Both DH and I are 53 and we have 9 yr old twins. My son found out how old I am and now calls me old lady and quite frankly it hurts especially since I'm not aging as well as I'd hoped to be.

I'm 51 and DH is 56. We have an 8 year old.

My buddy who was 50 when his kid hit kindergarten was youngest Dad in the class.

Anonymous wrote:I shared this thread with my husband to get his opinions. His father was 40 when husband was born and died when husband was only 32. He misses his dad tremendously and would love it if he were still around. Your kids don’t care if you “traveled, and really got well established in your career” before you decided to have them. They would prefer that you be alive.

The “old parent” movement is just wrong. You people spend thousands and thousands on fertility treatments, drop the kids at daycare, pat yourself on the back for “having it all”, then drop dead when your kids are in their 20s.

Rant over.

lol

I had my first at 38 and my second at 42. one-shot deal both times, no fertility treatments

My thousands of dollars are in the bank, waiting to be used toward college tuition.

never had daycare - had a nanny in the morning and prior to our nanny, had Mom and SIL watch them

healthier now than i was in my 20s

I have friends who did spend thousands on fertility treatments - older parents who are fantastic b/c they HAVE lived life before bringing a kid into the world. You have one (bitter) perspective that not everyone shares, which only illustrates how immature you are.

Anonymous wrote:Have any of your kids brought up the fact that you are older parents?

no

By comparison, I'm apparently much more fun than some of the younger parents. (from my kids' mouths)

I am 56 and Father dead 40 years. Big deal. He was a grouch anyhow