Anonymous wrote:I am an early 40s out of shape single mom; do I stand a chance at all? Very accepting of different body types and the only 2 things I am looking for are sex and willingness to expose me to various experiences- from an interesting (not necessarily fancy) restaurant to a night at a resort/hotel, to a day of hiking plus lunch with a view.

I'd be happy to take you on a date to Crucible.

What does the custody agreement say?

My hope everyone would be adult enough to work within the custody agreement so that, for example, a dad could spend an extra day here or there with his kids.

Why should he give up his free time so that she can some?

Some what? Some more free time? He should be willing to trade time with her subject to the understanding that she would give up some free time we he needed her to do so.

Maybe he wants to date, too.

He should. Few men have the kids for greater periods of time than their former wifes so it is likely he already has time.

Why should he provide her with free babysitting so she can go get laid?

He could work with her (BTW - you do not "babysit" your own kids) so that she would take them when he needs it. Who cares what she does with her time? I could not care any less if my exDW banged the entire Redskins team along with the entire Cowboys team when the Cowboys came to town. It is called "divorce" for a reason and being bitter about her sex life is sign you are not over her.

If she wants free time, she should pay a sitter.

If I wanted more time with kids (when it worked within everyone's schedule) and she wanted a night without them (to bang whomever), why would I care as long she would do the same for me when I need a night without them? Maybe I need a night to bang the Redskins/Cowboy cheerleading teams and she would take the kids on my night since I did the same for her. I assure, my exDW does not care at all what I do with my time as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Kind of O/T but what do people think of single moms priorities other things (dating, career etc) over their children? Do we think that's great they're also focusing on themselves? Or do we judge and think they're a bad parent?

I have no respect for single moms who helicopter their children until age 25 then say "it's my time now--I want a relationship." I run into those far too often in on-line dating.

You see the same thing in marriages. Some women will prioritize their children at the expense of their marriage. As a single mom, I think it is important that my DC see me actively date and learn now to choose a healthy relationship.

Anonymous wrote:I am an early 40s out of shape single mom; do I stand a chance at all? Very accepting of different body types and the only 2 things I am looking for are sex and willingness to expose me to various experiences- from an interesting (not necessarily fancy) restaurant to a night at a resort/hotel, to a day of hiking plus lunch with a view.

Could you fit in a rowboat?

Anonymous wrote:Kind of O/T but what do people think of single moms priorities other things (dating, career etc) over their children? Do we think that's great they're also focusing on themselves? Or do we judge and think they're a bad parent?

I have no respect for single moms who helicopter their children until age 25 then say "it's my time now--I want a relationship." I run into those far too often in on-line dating.

If you share custody with your ex, you can find time to date if you want to. The key is wanting to date and believing it is important in your life. I get it if you are recently divorced, most people are just not ready.

I have my DD full-time and I still manage to actively date

Anonymous wrote:It is literally the case that any woman can find a man willing to have sex with her. It’s all about what you are looking for

Any woman can find a man willing to have sex with her if she looks hard enough. Depending on her looks and other things, either 999 men in a thousand are interested, or 1 in a thousand.

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Anonymous wrote:I am an early 40s out of shape single mom; do I stand a chance at all? Very accepting of different body types and the only 2 things I am looking for are sex and willingness to expose me to various experiences- from an interesting (not necessarily fancy) restaurant to a night at a resort/hotel, to a day of hiking plus lunch with a view.

Did I write this in my sleep? You are my twin

It's nice to know there are other moms like me.

I am at the upper limit of a healthy BMI but I am very tall. Don't like my mom belly

Good BMI sounds nice.

It is literally the case that any woman can find a man willing to have sex with her. It’s all about what you are looking for

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Anonymous wrote:I am an early 40s out of shape single mom; do I stand a chance at all? Very accepting of different body types and the only 2 things I am looking for are sex and willingness to expose me to various experiences- from an interesting (not necessarily fancy) restaurant to a night at a resort/hotel, to a day of hiking plus lunch with a view.

Did I write this in my sleep? You are my twin

It's nice to know there are other moms like me.

I am at the upper limit of a healthy BMI but I am very tall. Don't like my mom belly

Bo of you stand a great chance. I'm available and single if either of you are interested.

Anonymous wrote:I am an early 40s out of shape single mom; do I stand a chance at all? Very accepting of different body types and the only 2 things I am looking for are sex and willingness to expose me to various experiences- from an interesting (not necessarily fancy) restaurant to a night at a resort/hotel, to a day of hiking plus lunch with a view.

Did I write this in my sleep? You are my twin

It's nice to know there are other moms like me.

I am at the upper limit of a healthy BMI but I am very tall. Don't like my mom belly

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taketothebank wrote:For the single moms - what is preventing your exDH (or child's father) from spending time with his kid and giving you some free time?

What does the custody agreement say?
Why should he give up his free time so that she can have some? Maybe he wants to date, too.
Why should he provide her with free babysitting so she can go get laid?

If she wants free time, she should pay a sitter.

It’s not “providing free babysitting”. It’s called parenting your child. You know, the one you helped create?

Yes, and we reached an agreement that specifies when each of us will do that. If she wants to go on a date when I have the kids, great, have fun. That is when she should schedule all her dates. She should not schedule her dates for nights when she has the kids, then expect me to pick up the slack. Not happening. Among other things, that's when I will schedule my own date nights.

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taketothebank wrote:For the single moms - what is preventing your exDH (or child's father) from spending time with his kid and giving you some free time?

What does the custody agreement say?
Why should he give up his free time so that she can have some? Maybe he wants to date, too.
Why should he provide her with free babysitting so she can go get laid?

If she wants free time, she should pay a sitter.

It’s not “providing free babysitting”. It’s called parenting your child. You know, the one you helped create?

Anonymous wrote:I am an early 40s out of shape single mom; do I stand a chance at all? Very accepting of different body types and the only 2 things I am looking for are sex and willingness to expose me to various experiences- from an interesting (not necessarily fancy) restaurant to a night at a resort/hotel, to a day of hiking plus lunch with a view.

How many pounds out of shape is the question.

I am an early 40s out of shape single mom; do I stand a chance at all? Very accepting of different body types and the only 2 things I am looking for are sex and willingness to expose me to various experiences- from an interesting (not necessarily fancy) restaurant to a night at a resort/hotel, to a day of hiking plus lunch with a view.