Anonymous wrote:See the recent NYT Magazine article “I’m a Veteran With PTSD. The Medication I Take Makes Dating Difficult”. May not be your friend’s issue, but it is interesting reading nonetheless.

Modern pilots don't get PTSD.

Dr. OP seems to have vanished. Either she's a er dr, or her guy all of a sudden decided to hit it.

The feet thing rings a bell for me.
Someone I know would act similar. Turns out he has a foot fetish and likes to incorporate it every time
He also enjoys sex but has shame about the foot fetish and has been rejected for it before
Why don’t you ask him to rub
Your feet again and see if that turns things up.

OP, I can totally see this being frustrating. I'd take him at his word, that he's going slow for whatever reason - what he perceived as rejection initially, fear of getting too involved considering young kid, ED, who knows. I'd suggest hanging out somewhere romantic for your next date - evening walk along the river with wine, that kind of thing - and try to kiss him. If he flat out rejects, then you should just ask what the deal is.

Bottom line is I'd give him one more chance and make the first move.

Anonymous wrote:He was touching your feet. That is pretty intimate. In my eyes. Not sexy intimate. But touching somebody's feet is ... I wouldn't do it unless I was having sex with them.

I agree - head on lap stroking someone's hair is right up there.

OP: Just ask him. Ask him what's up. Tell him that you would like to have sex with him, and ask him if he'd like to have sex with you.

Life is too short for these games.

He was touching your feet. That is pretty intimate. In my eyes. Not sexy intimate. But touching somebody's feet is ... I wouldn't do it unless I was having sex with them.

Anonymous wrote:ED is possible, but unless it just started, he probably could easily deal with it via a pill.

Not necessarily. The desire has to be there for the pill to work. If he has low T, then all the pills in the world won't give him a woody.

NP here I'm about the same age as OP's friend and after six dates with the most recent being at her place with her daughter gone for the night plus wine and snacks outdoors you can be sure I'd have great expectations of something physical happening. That's about as nice a set up as I can imagine and I'd love to meet someone like OP. But I know that won't happen! If I were OP I'd draw a line in the sand with this guy. Is he interested in a relationship that has a physical/romantic element or not and if not why not. There is a ton of speculation about what his problem might be and the only one who can determine that is OP. I wouldn't drop him until I knew.

I don't have anything new to add, other than, I recently went out with a guy and he was unable to perform. 50 yrs old. He took care of me in many other ways, and I did not care. Still new enough that nothing was "expected." If it happens often, we may need to discuss. I got the impression he was frustrated and he blamed it on drinking.

As for this guy -- if he's married, he'd still want to kiss you. Six dates is a lot with your schedule. Whatever the issue is, if you want more, you need to initiate the "more," or understand that you both want different things and he is not the right guy for you. All of the positives don't make him the proper fit for you. You want a romantic relationship and he is not there yet. For whatever reason. If it was date three, that's one thing. But you're beyond that AND you've already brought up the subject.

I think it’s the new climate(metoo). Man are just backing off.. they do not want to come off as a creepy guy.

Where are all the women who want a man to “date” them for 6 months before they are comfortable with physical intimacy?

See the recent NYT Magazine article “I’m a Veteran With PTSD. The Medication I Take Makes Dating Difficult”. May not be your friend’s issue, but it is interesting reading nonetheless.

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Anonymous wrote:ED for sure. So embarrassing when they don't give you a heads up. Lol!

I had the same thing happen to me. Like really? Own your own shit.

Wow, sorry it "happened to you." How traumatic it must have been for you. Rest assured that it was 1000x worse for the guy who has to live with the humiliation and embarrassment, and your no doubt clueless reaction. Why on Earth do some women insist on making ED about themselves and somehow being the victims? Do you ever think about how other people are affected by situations or it all about you?

Also, ED is not like losing a limb, where you either have it or you don't. It's a gradual thing that can periodically appear and is often impacted by medication and anxiety. I doubt very much that any man would knowingly put himself into this situation.

Actually, OP's boyfriend DID experience ED with a woman, and she reacted the PP did. Now, he's super nervous about it.

You have to remember women are the bomb and can get any man they want with a snap of their fingers. So if a man is not aggressivel sexually it has to be the man who has a problem. This thread just shows how clueless women are about men and how they do not care what the man thinks.

Go to LegalZoom and print out a Sexual Consent Waiver. Sign it and have it notarized, then present it to him. Keep a copy for yourself.