Mom: 16
Me: 34

Anonymous wrote:Makes much more sense for each poster to just post the info and not have all readers extrapolate it.

But then they can’t complain.

40, 47

Makes much more sense for each poster to just post the info and not have all readers extrapolate it.

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Anonymous wrote:How old was your mother when she had a child as old as your oldest child?

How old are you?

Why is this important to know?

I am much older than my mother was when she had a kid who is the age of my oldest. I’ll also be much older when my first finishes high school. I’m trying to see if this is generally the norm.

Of course if you were much older than your mom was when you had your first...you will continue to be older than she was at every milestone of her oldest. So much easier to just ask the age of first birth for poster and her mom! I can't tell if you are just super high-maintenance or really bad at basic concepts of math.

Regardless, my mom had my older sister when she was 27. I was 36 when oldest DC was born.

Well...Op's question wasn't just "What age did you and your mother have your first baby". The question was how old are you and your oldest child now and what age was your mother when her oldest was also "X" age.

Except that it can all be extrapolated, and current age is irrelevant.

If you want to do the math and people give the age of the kid, sure you can extrapolate (My mom was 22, I was 34. My child is now 12 which makes me 46, my mom was 34 when her first born was 12). Op's question simply had the posters doing the math.

My mom was 45 with an 8 yo and I am 38 with an 8 yo.

My mom was 41 with a 10yo, I’m 39 with a 10yo

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Anonymous wrote:How old was your mother when she had a child as old as your oldest child?

How old are you?

Why is this important to know?

I am much older than my mother was when she had a kid who is the age of my oldest. I’ll also be much older when my first finishes high school. I’m trying to see if this is generally the norm.

Of course if you were much older than your mom was when you had your first...you will continue to be older than she was at every milestone of her oldest. So much easier to just ask the age of first birth for poster and her mom! I can't tell if you are just super high-maintenance or really bad at basic concepts of math.

Regardless, my mom had my older sister when she was 27. I was 36 when oldest DC was born.

Well...Op's question wasn't just "What age did you and your mother have your first baby". The question was how old are you and your oldest child now and what age was your mother when her oldest was also "X" age.

Except that it can all be extrapolated, and current age is irrelevant.

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Anonymous wrote:How old was your mother when she had a child as old as your oldest child?

How old are you?

Why is this important to know?

I am much older than my mother was when she had a kid who is the age of my oldest. I’ll also be much older when my first finishes high school. I’m trying to see if this is generally the norm.

Of course if you were much older than your mom was when you had your first...you will continue to be older than she was at every milestone of her oldest. So much easier to just ask the age of first birth for poster and her mom! I can't tell if you are just super high-maintenance or really bad at basic concepts of math.

Regardless, my mom had my older sister when she was 27. I was 36 when oldest DC was born.

Well...Op's question wasn't just "What age did you and your mother have your first baby". The question was how old are you and your oldest child now and what age was your mother when her oldest was also "X" age.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the question. My mom was 40 when she had her last child.

how old is your oldest child? How old was your mom when her oldest was the same age as your oldest? That’s the first number. The second number is your current age.

Your clarification is even more confusing. Why not just ask how old was your mom when she had her first child and how old were you when you had your first child--if that's what you want to know.

My mom's in her 80s, her oldest is in her 50s, my oldest is a teenager, and I'm in my 40s. So I think you want me to add the age of my oldest child to the year my sister was born than subtract the year my mother was born. The math isn't hard, I'm just trying to wrap my head around why you would word it that way.

I don’t want to know that. I want to know the ages of the mothers when they have kids their oldest kids’ ages. That’s different from wanting to know how old someone was when they had her first child.

Why? And it gets you the same info. This is a very weird thread.

No, it isn’t the same information. If your oldest is a teen, telling me she’s in her 80s now isn’t helpful.

Omg. Mom had first child at 30. I had first child at 32. Same info without the confusing nonsense about how old your oldetsbis now, blah blah blah. So weird!

This is a super weird thread and OP seems like a dick. My mom was 30 when I was born, I was 32 when I had my first child. So actually same ages as the other PP above me.

PP above, did your mom feel like she was super old when you were born? My mom always talks about being the last among her friends to have kids after trying for many years to get pregnant.

PP here - yes! But then she had her youngest at 40!

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the question. My mom was 40 when she had her last child.

how old is your oldest child? How old was your mom when her oldest was the same age as your oldest? That’s the first number. The second number is your current age.

Your clarification is even more confusing. Why not just ask how old was your mom when she had her first child and how old were you when you had your first child--if that's what you want to know.

My mom's in her 80s, her oldest is in her 50s, my oldest is a teenager, and I'm in my 40s. So I think you want me to add the age of my oldest child to the year my sister was born than subtract the year my mother was born. The math isn't hard, I'm just trying to wrap my head around why you would word it that way.

I don’t want to know that. I want to know the ages of the mothers when they have kids their oldest kids’ ages. That’s different from wanting to know how old someone was when they had her first child.

Why? And it gets you the same info. This is a very weird thread.

No, it isn’t the same information. If your oldest is a teen, telling me she’s in her 80s now isn’t helpful.

Omg. Mom had first child at 30. I had first child at 32. Same info without the confusing nonsense about how old your oldetsbis now, blah blah blah. So weird!

This is a super weird thread and OP seems like a dick. My mom was 30 when I was born, I was 32 when I had my first child. So actually same ages as the other PP above me.

PP above, did your mom feel like she was super old when you were born? My mom always talks about being the last among her friends to have kids after trying for many years to get pregnant.

36 and 48. She had me while in college.

Anonymous wrote:She died in childbirth. I birthed more than one. I guess I won?

I am so sorry, PP. that is incredibly hard.

Of course women have chosen to wait!

Please look at the rates of women working full time versus 30 and 40 years ago. Compare the percentage of college graduates. The more educated working woman is more likely to feel like she needs to/can afford to build up a nest egg before getting married and/or having kids. It’s one of the biggest reasons that fundamentalist communities limit education for women and keep them out of the workforce. The less education and ability to support herself, the more a woman will go along with beliefs that her only goal and use is as a brood mare. There are still many, many women having kids as teens and early 20s. DCUM is not representative of the socio-economic strata in this area, let alone the country or the world.

FWIW, I don’t have kids and won’t. My mother was barely 21 in 1985 when she had me. Her mother was 23 in 1963. Her mother was 22 in 1939. Her mother was 19 in 1908. None had more than a high school diploma when they got married, but all went to college while they had kids (including my great-great-grandmother). All made piss-poor choices in men, except my great-great-grandmother (Poppy encouraged her education). All were glad that they had their kids young and were young grandmothers, able to play on the floor with kids without having aches and pains. I have happy memories of growing up with five generations.

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Anonymous wrote:How old was your mother when she had a child as old as your oldest child?

How old are you?

Why is this important to know?

I am much older than my mother was when she had a kid who is the age of my oldest. I’ll also be much older when my first finishes high school. I’m trying to see if this is generally the norm.

Of course if you were much older than your mom was when you had your first...you will continue to be older than she was at every milestone of her oldest. So much easier to just ask the age of first birth for poster and her mom! I can't tell if you are just super high-maintenance or really bad at basic concepts of math.

Regardless, my mom had my older sister when she was 27. I was 36 when oldest DC was born.