Anonymous wrote:My only issue with names that people use is that they should know the meaning and origin of the name. If you are not white, and you name your daughter Clara, Claire, Blanca, Bianca, or Blanche, which all mean white, to me that is odd. If you are not of European descent and you name your daughter Brittany, that is also odd. Don't make up silly "African" names.
Check spelling!
Don't be afraid to walk away from family names, this is a brand new baby who deserves their own identity.

There area a lot of Clara’s, Blanca’s in Latin America, those names sound much better in Spanish than in English. The same goes for Alicia, which is a Spainish name.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm AA in my 40s grew up middle class, private schools, lived with both married parents in a single family house in NYC suburbs. I have a unique name that is south Asian. Some may say it's ghetto. I would say try not to judge me, but if you really must why not judge me by what I have named my children. That is something I actually had a say in.

How is a south asian name ghetto, and why did your parents give you a south asian name if you're not south asian?

I was named after a friend. I didn't know you could only name your children certain names from your own culture. Since we are AA and were taken from our country, enslaved and stripped of our heritage what do you think they should have named me?

Got em'

What country were YOU, personally, kidnapped from? By whom? When? Have you reported it to the police? Who enslaved YOU? What “heritage” were YOU “stripped” of? Or are you describing something some long-dead person did to some other long-dead person? And if the latter, how in the world is any living person responsible to YOU for anything? Lots of long-dead people were abused by other long-dead people. Ask the Irish. Or the Chinese. Living in somebody else’s past is a sure way to never get anywhere in your own life.

NP. You....missed the point. I would help you but, you don't want to know the point, you want to shout down the black person so just stay in your hole.

A black woman reading this thinking you are still pathetic af for your continued need for validation by “whote ppl.” Honestly who cares what the whole race thinks. Dang, come back to the hood and get a hug.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm AA in my 40s grew up middle class, private schools, lived with both married parents in a single family house in NYC suburbs. I have a unique name that is south Asian. Some may say it's ghetto. I would say try not to judge me, but if you really must why not judge me by what I have named my children. That is something I actually had a say in.

How is a south asian name ghetto, and why did your parents give you a south asian name if you're not south asian?

I was named after a friend. I didn't know you could only name your children certain names from your own culture. Since we are AA and were taken from our country, enslaved and stripped of our heritage what do you think they should have named me?

Got em'

What country were YOU, personally, kidnapped from? By whom? When? Have you reported it to the police? Who enslaved YOU? What “heritage” were YOU “stripped” of? Or are you describing something some long-dead person did to some other long-dead person? And if the latter, how in the world is any living person responsible to YOU for anything? Lots of long-dead people were abused by other long-dead people. Ask the Irish. Or the Chinese. Living in somebody else’s past is a sure way to never get anywhere in your own life.

I believe the message she was trying to convey is that 1) her parents, who in all likelihood had no access to Ancestry.com at the time of her birth and did not know their family’s heritage with it being erased during slavery and all, didn’t want to just arbitrarily pick a random African culture to identity with when naming their daughter so they instead named her after a dear family friend. 2) I think she was saying that it is rather rude to insinuate that AA’s are not allowed to select names for their children outside of their racial heritage considering as previously mentioned AA’s heritage was comprised having been brought here and stripped of their identities and given new names by their slavemasters. And 3) I think she was sarcastically suggesting that since it is part of white heritage to disregard AA cultures/identities and take it upon themselves to just rename/rebrand AA’s as they see fit, what do you think she should be named Mr/Mrs white property owner?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, there are trashy white names too:
Katelyn
Tristan
Crystal
Heather
Track
Brandon
Jolene
Sue Ellen
Polly
Holly
Tiffany

Most of these are normal names. Only Track (running track?) and Polly (the parrot?) sound weird to me. No one would be judged for the other names.

Polly is an adorable name, definitely ripe for a comeback. And if you think Crystal or Sue Ellen are normal names, I wonder who you associate with!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, there are trashy white names too:
Katelyn
Tristan
Crystal
Heather
Track
Brandon
Jolene
Sue Ellen
Polly
Holly
Tiffany

Most of these are normal names. Only Track (running track?) and Polly (the parrot?) sound weird to me. No one would be judged for the other names.

Not to be unkind, but I agree with the PP. Sadly, I would negatively prejudge anyone with one of these names, other than a 50 year old Heather.

Anonymous wrote:I judge anything starting with La, Sha and ending in qua, isha

Just like I judge little Susan, Beth, Timmy, Tommy,

I'm going to name my kid Susanisha Labethqua just to confuse you.

We have a surname that’s disproportionately popular among black people, though we’re white (I’m Jewish!) and I had to veto several nice Old Testament boys’ names. “Isaiah Washington” isn’t going to get as many job interviews as “Isaiah Smith” (let alone “Isaiah Liebowitz-Chang”). I don’t blame you for picking white-sounding names. But it sucks that this is how the world is.

Anonymous wrote:What about Madison, a very white name, that was never used as a first name until the movie Splash's mermaid heroine took it off a street sign in NYC. Is that low class, trailer parky? If not, is it only because Daryl Hannah in a Ron Howard movie is middle brow enough?

Madison is a made up name. Yuck.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm AA in my 40s grew up middle class, private schools, lived with both married parents in a single family house in NYC suburbs. I have a unique name that is south Asian. Some may say it's ghetto. I would say try not to judge me, but if you really must why not judge me by what I have named my children. That is something I actually had a say in.

How is a south asian name ghetto, and why did your parents give you a south asian name if you're not south asian?

I was named after a friend. I didn't know you could only name your children certain names from your own culture. Since we are AA and were taken from our country, enslaved and stripped of our heritage what do you think they should have named me?

Got em'

What country were YOU, personally, kidnapped from? By whom? When? Have you reported it to the police? Who enslaved YOU? What “heritage” were YOU “stripped” of? Or are you describing something some long-dead person did to some other long-dead person? And if the latter, how in the world is any living person responsible to YOU for anything? Lots of long-dead people were abused by other long-dead people. Ask the Irish. Or the Chinese. Living in somebody else’s past is a sure way to never get anywhere in your own life.

I judge anything starting with La, Sha and ending in qua, isha

Just like I judge little Susan, Beth, Timmy, Tommy,

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Anonymous wrote:I'm AA in my 40s grew up middle class, private schools, lived with both married parents in a single family house in NYC suburbs. I have a unique name that is south Asian. Some may say it's ghetto. I would say try not to judge me, but if you really must why not judge me by what I have named my children. That is something I actually had a say in.

How is a south asian name ghetto, and why did your parents give you a south asian name if you're not south asian?

I was named after a friend. I didn't know you could only name your children certain names from your own culture. Since we are AA and were taken from our country, enslaved and stripped of our heritage what do you think they should have named me?

Got em'

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Anonymous wrote:Yep. White people can give their kids all kinds of "unconventional" names and it's not judged as being low class, uneducated, etc. But when black people do it, it's "ghetto."

Honestly, I don't care if people want to name their kids Karsynne or DeMarcus but it should be judged in the same way (or not judged at all). The double standard when it comes to this type of stuff is ridicilous.

It's not a double standard. We also judge Kody and Destiny.

Oh, and I'm also judging the Europeans naming their kids Janine and Madison. Basically anything that signals lower socioeconomic class stands out.

Janine?

My thoughts exactly! That name has been around for generations and doesn't strike me as lower class at all.

Only when it's pronounced like juh-nine-uh

Janine is like Jolene.

My only issue with names that people use is that they should know the meaning and origin of the name. If you are not white, and you name your daughter Clara, Claire, Blanca, Bianca, or Blanche, which all mean white, to me that is odd. If you are not of European descent and you name your daughter Brittany, that is also odd. Don't make up silly "African" names.
Check spelling!
Don't be afraid to walk away from family names, this is a brand new baby who deserves their own identity.

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Anonymous wrote:Yep. White people can give their kids all kinds of "unconventional" names and it's not judged as being low class, uneducated, etc. But when black people do it, it's "ghetto."

Honestly, I don't care if people want to name their kids Karsynne or DeMarcus but it should be judged in the same way (or not judged at all). The double standard when it comes to this type of stuff is ridicilous.

It's not a double standard. We also judge Kody and Destiny.

Oh, and I'm also judging the Europeans naming their kids Janine and Madison. Basically anything that signals lower socioeconomic class stands out.

Janine?

My thoughts exactly! That name has been around for generations and doesn't strike me as lower class at all.

Only when it's pronounced like juh-nine-uh