Good luck getting him on a plane and an airline that will accept him when they see his condition at the airport. My MIL was denied boarding at Dulles for abdominal pains due to a kidney stone that had already passed the day before (she was a bit of a drama queen). They wouldn’t issue her a boarding pass, and this was years ago before all the stories you read re passengers being kicked off planes for much less.

It’s time to stand your ground. Don’t move him.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Update is that DH is going to fly with FIL after DH's trial is over. Apparently now there are some planes that have domestic first class with seats that lay flat, so they are booked on one of those for the longer flight. The connecting flight is pretty short.

It's still going to be terrible, and I'm kind of hoping something happens to prevent them from going at all, but this is where things are at the moment.

OP keeps changing the story. Careful OP, you are beginning to sound like a troll.

I agree. Selective answering of questions, continually changing details...

Where is your father in law to be buried when he dies?

If on the east coast then you will have the added headache of having the casket flown back and two funeral homes etc.

If he will be buried in California and the doctor gave the all clear then maybe make peace and let the BIL and SIL do their thing.

You have probably gone far and beyond most daughter in laws already. Support your husband to say bye to his dad
And then get some mental rest you probably need.

Just make sure on whichever coast you line up the funeral home, cemetery, casket, etc. on average it’s 3-4K for the burial plot, 2k for the liner and the opening of the ground. Can be as high as 4K. and stone can be 2k.

So make the calls. Your talking 10k set aside from that 80k
Plus casket and funeral home costs.

Estimate 15k. You need to have a written agreement with west coast family that they split the cost evenly.

Put everything in writing. and both families sign.

This will save you nasty money grubbing later with cheap sil.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Update is that DH is going to fly with FIL after DH's trial is over. Apparently now there are some planes that have domestic first class with seats that lay flat, so they are booked on one of those for the longer flight. The connecting flight is pretty short.

It's still going to be terrible, and I'm kind of hoping something happens to prevent them from going at all, but this is where things are at the moment.

What airline has domestic lay flat seats? That would make cross country red eyes for work much more palatable. I haven’t seen this service.

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Anonymous wrote:First class. See if you can pay to upgrade him.

My dad has a medical problem and, unasked by anyone, I bought him a $2000 AED for his home (he lives in a rural area far from first responders). There's no amount of money I wouldn't spend for my dad's safety, well being and comfort. Spring for the upgrade.

Is that a defib machine? I hope he lives with someone.

+1 Even if he recognizes that he's having a heart attack and manages to get to the AED in time, it takes a couple of minutes to unpack it and turn it on, remove shirt, peel off stickers, etc even when you know what you're doing (and there's not too much hair that would require shaving), and then someone still needs to push the button if it says to shock.