Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t use the diarrhea excuse as PP suggests.

This would -pardon the pun-backfire on me w my MIL. She loves nothing more than to ask probing personal health related questions to close family members, bonus points if it’s something intensely private, like conception or birth-related.
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So if I told MIL I had diarrhea, she’d launch into a rapid fire line of questions; was it something I ate, did I need to use her bathroom right now, do I want x New Age essential oil, vitamin, OTC med, what have I eaten in the last 72 hours, I’m probably dehydrated/too thin/too fat/when was my last doctor visit, could I have celiac, cancer, the stomach flu...

This is my MIL about everything. We can't say something as simple as we went to baseball last night with having her go full inquisition on us. Who went with us, where did we sit, did we have fun, who played, what did we eat, was it easy to get to the game, we're there any giveaways, blah blah blah. Because apparently saying "I bet that was nice" is just too difficult.

It's a conversation. I understand OP's gripe but this level of complaining about MILs (and no, I'm not one, although I do have one) is ridiculous. My MIL would be closer to the 2x pp if I expressed a medical issue like diarrhea but it would be out of an over-developed sense of motherly concern for me. MILs canNOT win on this board.

When my DH is the one terming it the grand inquisition, and is frustrated that his mother has no sense of boundaries, I don't think it's a DIL who doesn't enjoy conversing with MIL. Imagine this level of prying about every little detail about everything in your life. DH and I lived away far for a reason. She up and decided to move 90 minutes from us 2 years ago. We politely do one day a month with her, which leaves us emotionally exhausted and contemplating a move to a remote village in Nepal.

Ohh boohoo poor you

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t use the diarrhea excuse as PP suggests.

This would -pardon the pun-backfire on me w my MIL. She loves nothing more than to ask probing personal health related questions to close family members, bonus points if it’s something intensely private, like conception or birth-related.
U
So if I told MIL I had diarrhea, she’d launch into a rapid fire line of questions; was it something I ate, did I need to use her bathroom right now, do I want x New Age essential oil, vitamin, OTC med, what have I eaten in the last 72 hours, I’m probably dehydrated/too thin/too fat/when was my last doctor visit, could I have celiac, cancer, the stomach flu...

This is my MIL about everything. We can't say something as simple as we went to baseball last night with having her go full inquisition on us. Who went with us, where did we sit, did we have fun, who played, what did we eat, was it easy to get to the game, we're there any giveaways, blah blah blah. Because apparently saying "I bet that was nice" is just too difficult.

It's a conversation. I understand OP's gripe but this level of complaining about MILs (and no, I'm not one, although I do have one) is ridiculous. My MIL would be closer to the 2x pp if I expressed a medical issue like diarrhea but it would be out of an over-developed sense of motherly concern for me. MILs canNOT win on this board.

When my DH is the one terming it the grand inquisition, and is frustrated that his mother has no sense of boundaries, I don't think it's a DIL who doesn't enjoy conversing with MIL. Imagine this level of prying about every little detail about everything in your life. DH and I lived away far for a reason. She up and decided to move 90 minutes from us 2 years ago. We politely do one day a month with her, which leaves us emotionally exhausted and contemplating a move to a remote village in Nepal.

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Hope your kids do the same thing to you one day! Karmas a bitch you know.

Why do some people INSIST you do something that you don't want to do. Just leave it alone. Gosh.
MIL always does that. About many things. Pies, cookies, especially with things she loves. I myself don't eat much sweets, so just leave it alone. It's every time we see each other.
The more they insist, the more I get annoyed and hate it. So, I just start ignoring it. Or make the answer really abrupt. No, I don't want to. Because I don't feel like it. Just stop!

So, just ignore it. If you have to be rude, just say, why do you insist I go into the pool, I don't want to. Just leave it at that. If you want to be nice, just say, yeah, i rather sit here and talk to you. Or if you go in with me, I'll go in too, knowing they won't go it.

So, op, have you tried any of these suggestions? Any of them work?

This is easy. Do not pack your suit. If your spouse nags you about not bringing your suit then tell him that if he is going to nag you about it, you just won't go. Yell him you don't want to get in the cold water and don't want to be nagged about it. If he wants you to come, he needs to lay off trying g to make you swim when you don't want to.

Just get in the fing pool. It's like a few times a year. Your children would probably like this. Women who sit around the swimming pool because they don't want to have wet hair baffle me.

Anonymous wrote:I would stop going. They sound incredibly annoying.

+1

Send DH and the kids while you do something you enjoy.

“No thanks, guys-I’m like you-I don’t enjoy getting in”

They will either argue that they love it-in which case you insist they get in- or they will throw out random reasons they can’t get in-in which case you smile and say “we all have our reasons, i guess”.

Or do the bush/bikini thing with a visible tampon string hanging out.

Grow out your bush and then wear a really tiny bikini bottom. That will teach them.

I don't get it.

"No" is a complete sentence. That is all that is needed.

Just tell them you have a skin disease that contagious in water.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t use the diarrhea excuse as PP suggests.

This would -pardon the pun-backfire on me w my MIL. She loves nothing more than to ask probing personal health related questions to close family members, bonus points if it’s something intensely private, like conception or birth-related.
U
So if I told MIL I had diarrhea, she’d launch into a rapid fire line of questions; was it something I ate, did I need to use her bathroom right now, do I want x New Age essential oil, vitamin, OTC med, what have I eaten in the last 72 hours, I’m probably dehydrated/too thin/too fat/when was my last doctor visit, could I have celiac, cancer, the stomach flu...

This is my MIL about everything. We can't say something as simple as we went to baseball last night with having her go full inquisition on us. Who went with us, where did we sit, did we have fun, who played, what did we eat, was it easy to get to the game, we're there any giveaways, blah blah blah. Because apparently saying "I bet that was nice" is just too difficult.

It's a conversation. I understand OP's gripe but this level of complaining about MILs (and no, I'm not one, although I do have one) is ridiculous. My MIL would be closer to the 2x pp if I expressed a medical issue like diarrhea but it would be out of an over-developed sense of motherly concern for me. MILs canNOT win on this board.

When my DH is the one terming it the grand inquisition, and is frustrated that his mother has no sense of boundaries, I don't think it's a DIL who doesn't enjoy conversing with MIL. Imagine this level of prying about every little detail about everything in your life. DH and I lived away far for a reason. She up and decided to move 90 minutes from us 2 years ago. We politely do one day a month with her, which leaves us emotionally exhausted and contemplating a move to a remote village in Nepal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t use the diarrhea excuse as PP suggests.

This would -pardon the pun-backfire on me w my MIL. She loves nothing more than to ask probing personal health related questions to close family members, bonus points if it’s something intensely private, like conception or birth-related.
U
So if I told MIL I had diarrhea, she’d launch into a rapid fire line of questions; was it something I ate, did I need to use her bathroom right now, do I want x New Age essential oil, vitamin, OTC med, what have I eaten in the last 72 hours, I’m probably dehydrated/too thin/too fat/when was my last doctor visit, could I have celiac, cancer, the stomach flu...

This is my MIL about everything. We can't say something as simple as we went to baseball last night with having her go full inquisition on us. Who went with us, where did we sit, did we have fun, who played, what did we eat, was it easy to get to the game, we're there any giveaways, blah blah blah. Because apparently saying "I bet that was nice" is just too difficult.

It's a conversation. I understand OP's gripe but this level of complaining about MILs (and no, I'm not one, although I do have one) is ridiculous. My MIL would be closer to the 2x pp if I expressed a medical issue like diarrhea but it would be out of an over-developed sense of motherly concern for me. MILs canNOT win on this board.