So true for me...but birth control is going to mute it so get off the birth control and make your husband get a vasectomy.

Good for you all ladies in your 40s with healthy libidos.

My DW, sadly (42) has a very low libido. And although she has willingly kept up with my healthy libido, things are stalling big time for her. Never initiates, never masturbates, etc.

I am 42. For the past couple years I have noticed an increase in my sex drive. Dh has always been high drive but I think I may have surpassed him. I hope he doesn’t slow down as this horny feeling is all consuming.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has not lost any sex drive. He’s 58. However, he is just now having troubles having an orgasm. That never was a problem before. He does have some health issues.

51 year old wife. No loss on my part either, although exhaustion from lack of sleep (perimenopause) puts a damper on it. But it’s not a physiological reduction yet.

Do you have children? If so were you younger or older when you had them?

Four kids. Youngest is 12.

Off topic, but your husband was 46 when he had a newborn? I can't imagine. I get tired just looking at pictures of myself during the years when I had a newborn running around -- and I was in my early 30s!

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has not lost any sex drive. He’s 58. However, he is just now having troubles having an orgasm. That never was a problem before. He does have some health issues.

51 year old wife. No loss on my part either, although exhaustion from lack of sleep (perimenopause) puts a damper on it. But it’s not a physiological reduction yet.

Do you have children? If so were you younger or older when you had them?

Four kids. Youngest is 12.

Anonymous wrote:My husband has not lost any sex drive. He’s 58. However, he is just now having troubles having an orgasm. That never was a problem before. He does have some health issues.

51 year old wife. No loss on my part either, although exhaustion from lack of sleep (perimenopause) puts a damper on it. But it’s not a physiological reduction yet.

My DH is in his mid-60's and if he has too much to drink (not drunk!) he too has trouble getting an orgasm. He had a little too much wine last night and while his stamina was amazing he wasn't able to finish before he wore me out. I'm certainly not complaining because I had two O's but I was disappointed for him.

Anonymous wrote:Put it to you this way. If your early 40s wife has an “oops” pregnancy, has been on a “business trip”, and you are not sure about the timing....

Omg - hahaha!

Put it to you this way. If your early 40s wife has an “oops” pregnancy, has been on a “business trip”, and you are not sure about the timing....

Anonymous wrote:I’d echo the above. This is when wives get antsy and cheat.

It is also when men start giving up effort due to feeling secure that their wives won’t leave because “who wants a woman that age.”

I'm 48. I had a tubal ligation and an ablation about two years ago. I feel great. I've always enjoyed and wanted sex. Now, I have no periods, and I know there is zero chance of getting pregnant.

I still fear diseases, though, and I crave the intimacy and the love of a long-term relationship and monogamous relationship.

It's unfortunate that so many men let themselves go, that there are so many pot-bellies and flabby or weak arms on men.

And then when men age, they will sometimes insult women their age about our looks, blaming our looks for their erectile dysfunction.

To answer your question, yes, I have more freedom and more sexual desire. I would prefer a man my own age, who is reasonably fit and attractive, and who is secure enough is his body to not put down my body.

Anonymous wrote:48, single mom with a kid, and my high libido is even higher now. I still wake up with wet dreams, sometimes twice per night or once in the day, once at night. I work out regularly too.

Sounds fun!
Exercise increases the blood flow and the mental state, smart!

Anonymous wrote:49 y.o. single mom here. I'd say age 41-47 were the horniest, but hormones are still going strong.

Favorite restaurant?
I enjoy lunch at the 'Y'.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 42 and my libido feels way higher than it did when I was younger. I'm not in a relationship at the moment u unfortunately.

Please PM me, I can help!

40 DW and the last one year my libido has really gone super high. Unfortunately my DH is resisting adventure and is so poor in foreplay. We have it 2* a week. I wish it was more but I can’t tell him bcoz we have some emotional distance. I wish he could get out and dirty with me but he is in his comfort zone. Meanwhile I mastubate occasionally to cool off.

Anonymous wrote:My husband has not lost any sex drive. He’s 58. However, he is just now having troubles having an orgasm. That never was a problem before. He does have some health issues.

51 year old wife. No loss on my part either, although exhaustion from lack of sleep (perimenopause) puts a damper on it. But it’s not a physiological reduction yet.

Do you have children? If so were you younger or older when you had them?