Anonymous
03/05/2018 19:05
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We spanked occasionally, in the old fashioned "come over here and get over my lap" way.
Like someone said above, what it meant was that we ended up doing far less disciplining and punishing that we otherwise would have had to. It meant that we could be a lot more relaxed and have a lot more fun with our kids the other 99.8% of the time.
My youngest might still get a spanking occasionally, but it's very rare now.
I remember my dad telling me to “come over here and bend over my lap for your spanking.” The moment from that until I got to his lap were the most fearful moments of my life. It was terrifying to me. Much like I imagine it would fell to be walking to an execution. That’s how it feels from a child’s perspective.
That’s what I remember—NOT whatever behavior got me spanked.
The quest. Is whether you continued to commit the behavior that resulted in the spanking.
Yes. I continued the behavior but got better at just not getting caught.
But, same with grounding and other punishments too. I don't believe in spanking and have so far not let my husband do it but it is tempting at times.
Yup. I had parents who did talking, grounding, and privileges etc. I still was sneaky because I wanted to do what I wanted to do without their interference.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 19:03
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We spanked occasionally, in the old fashioned "come over here and get over my lap" way.
Like someone said above, what it meant was that we ended up doing far less disciplining and punishing that we otherwise would have had to. It meant that we could be a lot more relaxed and have a lot more fun with our kids the other 99.8% of the time.
My youngest might still get a spanking occasionally, but it's very rare now.
I remember my dad telling me to “come over here and bend over my lap for your spanking.” The moment from that until I got to his lap were the most fearful moments of my life. It was terrifying to me. Much like I imagine it would fell to be walking to an execution. That’s how it feels from a child’s perspective.
That’s what I remember—NOT whatever behavior got me spanked.
The quest. Is whether you continued to commit the behavior that resulted in the spanking.
Yes. I continued the behavior but got better at just not getting caught.
+1. I would still never dream of confiding in my parents or ever go to them after I made a mistake. I do attribute that, in large part, to being spanked and hit as a child.
If you knew you'd get grounded or something else, do you really think it would make a difference? Probably not.
You are wrong. It was the humiliation of being struck that caused me to be secretive - not the fact that it was punishment. You can tell your friends you got grounded - you can't tell them you have been hit. Huge difference.
You are wrong. My friends and I told each other if we got a spanking.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 18:50
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Husband started spanking DC even knowing I was against it. This is how he completely ruined my motherhood.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 18:11
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We spanked occasionally, in the old fashioned "come over here and get over my lap" way.
Like someone said above, what it meant was that we ended up doing far less disciplining and punishing that we otherwise would have had to. It meant that we could be a lot more relaxed and have a lot more fun with our kids the other 99.8% of the time.
My youngest might still get a spanking occasionally, but it's very rare now.
I remember my dad telling me to “come over here and bend over my lap for your spanking.” The moment from that until I got to his lap were the most fearful moments of my life. It was terrifying to me. Much like I imagine it would fell to be walking to an execution. That’s how it feels from a child’s perspective.
That’s what I remember—NOT whatever behavior got me spanked.
The quest. Is whether you continued to commit the behavior that resulted in the spanking.
Yes. I continued the behavior but got better at just not getting caught.
+1. I would still never dream of confiding in my parents or ever go to them after I made a mistake. I do attribute that, in large part, to being spanked and hit as a child.
If you knew you'd get grounded or something else, do you really think it would make a difference? Probably not.
You are wrong. It was the humiliation of being struck that caused me to be secretive - not the fact that it was punishment. You can tell your friends you got grounded - you can't tell them you have been hit. Huge difference.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 18:08
Subject: Re:In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Pow!!
Anonymous
03/05/2018 18:07
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
I preferred dad's spanking and done to mom's "disappointment " and telling me how much I embarrassed her. No daughter of hers should act like that. etc etc.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 18:01
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We spanked occasionally, in the old fashioned "come over here and get over my lap" way.
Like someone said above, what it meant was that we ended up doing far less disciplining and punishing that we otherwise would have had to. It meant that we could be a lot more relaxed and have a lot more fun with our kids the other 99.8% of the time.
My youngest might still get a spanking occasionally, but it's very rare now.
I remember my dad telling me to “come over here and bend over my lap for your spanking.” The moment from that until I got to his lap were the most fearful moments of my life. It was terrifying to me. Much like I imagine it would fell to be walking to an execution. That’s how it feels from a child’s perspective.
That’s what I remember—NOT whatever behavior got me spanked.
The quest. Is whether you continued to commit the behavior that resulted in the spanking.
Yes. I continued the behavior but got better at just not getting caught.
+1. I would still never dream of confiding in my parents or ever go to them after I made a mistake. I do attribute that, in large part, to being spanked and hit as a child.
If you knew you'd get grounded or something else, you would probably not confide in them either. Lets be real. Hitting isn't the greatest choice, but no punishment is wanted.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 17:58
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We spanked occasionally, in the old fashioned "come over here and get over my lap" way.
Like someone said above, what it meant was that we ended up doing far less disciplining and punishing that we otherwise would have had to. It meant that we could be a lot more relaxed and have a lot more fun with our kids the other 99.8% of the time.
My youngest might still get a spanking occasionally, but it's very rare now.
I remember my dad telling me to “come over here and bend over my lap for your spanking.” The moment from that until I got to his lap were the most fearful moments of my life. It was terrifying to me. Much like I imagine it would fell to be walking to an execution. That’s how it feels from a child’s perspective.
That’s what I remember—NOT whatever behavior got me spanked.
The quest. Is whether you continued to commit the behavior that resulted in the spanking.
Yes. I continued the behavior but got better at just not getting caught.
+1. I would still never dream of confiding in my parents or ever go to them after I made a mistake. I do attribute that, in large part, to being spanked and hit as a child.
If you knew you'd get grounded or something else, do you really think it would make a difference? Probably not.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 17:57
Subject: Re:In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Would anyone strike an elderly parent or even a dog to teach them? Spanking is bullying. Nothing more.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 17:55
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We spanked occasionally, in the old fashioned "come over here and get over my lap" way.
Like someone said above, what it meant was that we ended up doing far less disciplining and punishing that we otherwise would have had to. It meant that we could be a lot more relaxed and have a lot more fun with our kids the other 99.8% of the time.
My youngest might still get a spanking occasionally, but it's very rare now.
I remember my dad telling me to “come over here and bend over my lap for your spanking.” The moment from that until I got to his lap were the most fearful moments of my life. It was terrifying to me. Much like I imagine it would fell to be walking to an execution. That’s how it feels from a child’s perspective.
That’s what I remember—NOT whatever behavior got me spanked.
The quest. Is whether you continued to commit the behavior that resulted in the spanking.
Yes. I continued the behavior but got better at just not getting caught.
+1. I would still never dream of confiding in my parents or ever go to them after I made a mistake. I do attribute that, in large part, to being spanked and hit as a child.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 17:53
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We spanked occasionally, in the old fashioned "come over here and get over my lap" way.
Like someone said above, what it meant was that we ended up doing far less disciplining and punishing that we otherwise would have had to. It meant that we could be a lot more relaxed and have a lot more fun with our kids the other 99.8% of the time.
My youngest might still get a spanking occasionally, but it's very rare now.
I remember my dad telling me to “come over here and bend over my lap for your spanking.” The moment from that until I got to his lap were the most fearful moments of my life. It was terrifying to me. Much like I imagine it would fell to be walking to an execution. That’s how it feels from a child’s perspective.
That’s what I remember—NOT whatever behavior got me spanked.
The quest. Is whether you continued to commit the behavior that resulted in the spanking.
Yes. I continued the behavior but got better at just not getting caught.
But, same with grounding and other punishments too. I don't believe in spanking and have so far not let my husband do it but it is tempting at times.
Being grounded wasn't humiliating. Being hit was humiliating. Being made to cry out in physical pain at the hands of the people who would fix my "boo-boos" is an enduring memory. It is truly lazy parenting.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 17:36
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We spanked occasionally, in the old fashioned "come over here and get over my lap" way.
Like someone said above, what it meant was that we ended up doing far less disciplining and punishing that we otherwise would have had to. It meant that we could be a lot more relaxed and have a lot more fun with our kids the other 99.8% of the time.
My youngest might still get a spanking occasionally, but it's very rare now.
I remember my dad telling me to “come over here and bend over my lap for your spanking.” The moment from that until I got to his lap were the most fearful moments of my life. It was terrifying to me. Much like I imagine it would fell to be walking to an execution. That’s how it feels from a child’s perspective.
That’s what I remember—NOT whatever behavior got me spanked.
You say no and refuse. Worst case they physically put you there.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 17:35
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We spanked occasionally, in the old fashioned "come over here and get over my lap" way.
Like someone said above, what it meant was that we ended up doing far less disciplining and punishing that we otherwise would have had to. It meant that we could be a lot more relaxed and have a lot more fun with our kids the other 99.8% of the time.
My youngest might still get a spanking occasionally, but it's very rare now.
I remember my dad telling me to “come over here and bend over my lap for your spanking.” The moment from that until I got to his lap were the most fearful moments of my life. It was terrifying to me. Much like I imagine it would fell to be walking to an execution. That’s how it feels from a child’s perspective.
That’s what I remember—NOT whatever behavior got me spanked.
The quest. Is whether you continued to commit the behavior that resulted in the spanking.
Yes. I continued the behavior but got better at just not getting caught.
But, same with grounding and other punishments too. I don't believe in spanking and have so far not let my husband do it but it is tempting at times.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 17:35
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Anonymous wrote:LOL...so many fragile white people here. Damn.
Normally I would say that is pretty racist but it is pretty funny...then again I was the kid who refused to comply and smacked back.
Anonymous
03/05/2018 17:25
Subject: In case anyone still thinks spanking is okay
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We spanked occasionally, in the old fashioned "come over here and get over my lap" way.
Like someone said above, what it meant was that we ended up doing far less disciplining and punishing that we otherwise would have had to. It meant that we could be a lot more relaxed and have a lot more fun with our kids the other 99.8% of the time.
My youngest might still get a spanking occasionally, but it's very rare now.
I remember my dad telling me to “come over here and bend over my lap for your spanking.” The moment from that until I got to his lap were the most fearful moments of my life. It was terrifying to me. Much like I imagine it would fell to be walking to an execution. That’s how it feels from a child’s perspective.
That’s what I remember—NOT whatever behavior got me spanked.
The quest. Is whether you continued to commit the behavior that resulted in the spanking.
Yes. I continued the behavior but got better at just not getting caught.