Anonymous wrote:My first grader has asked me why some kids in his class turn 7 at the same time as the kids in the older grade. What am I supposed to tell him? His mom thinks he’s shy?

The other kids are noticing.

You tell them that they missed the birthday cut off or their parents thought they were dumb and held them back. (seriously you say you don't know). My child is a year younger than some of his friends. You are right they do comment, especially at birthday parties.

Without an academic or behavioral reason, yes. Too many people using it to give their kid an edge over normally aged classmates.

Anonymous wrote:My first grader has asked me why some kids in his class turn 7 at the same time as the kids in the older grade. What am I supposed to tell him? His mom thinks he’s shy?

The other kids are noticing.

I've actually noticed the opposite. My kids (4th and 5th grade) and their friends look up to the older (redshirted) kids. They wish they were the oldest kids.

Anonymous wrote:My first grader has asked me why some kids in his class turn 7 at the same time as the kids in the older grade. What am I supposed to tell him? His mom thinks he’s shy?

The other kids are noticing.

Tell him the truth.

My first grader has asked me why some kids in his class turn 7 at the same time as the kids in the older grade. What am I supposed to tell him? His mom thinks he’s shy?

The other kids are noticing.

Bottom line it teaches kids that they aren’t good enough and/ or the rules don’t apply to them. Neither are good messages. Pick your poison or don’t redshirt.

Bad tone and a billion typos. Sorry, that was me and my damn phone. I’ll go away now ?

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Trust funder here , we do public and they go on time. Frankly if they, with two educated parents and world travel and hugely varied experiences aren't "mature" enough for K, I've failed. Ironically its just such kids who are routinely redshirted.

Pure arrogance. I taught school. There are plenty of great parents with immature kids. I don't think you know the meaning of the term.

What do you expect? Started life on third base and thinks she hit a home run.

Not at all. I find it a real challenge to balance the desire to give and the desire to make them earn, I want them to have work ethic and know how to personally succeed- just like you I’m sure! Money is a challenge and a blessing, but please don’t overlook the challenge part. To me, being born on third base (like most DCUM children are, frankly) and then steal home really feels wrong. Poor kids have to go to school to get services. Rich kids spend another year in expensive preschools and on vacations and in extracurriculars. I don’t know more or feel superior or anything because o money, but it does present me with a lot more options. The PP asked about private school and I was attempting to point out that some people actually do consider private an indulgent luxury for wealthy kids with every advantage.

My tone was wrong. Apologies.

As to immaturity I thought we were all redshirting because of hard math.
Or wait no, because children come in different sizes and smaller kids need another year because they are small.
Or no wait is it immaturity? So, staying home with Mom matures more than a kid more than school would. Seems backwards, but sure.

I think it’s cheating, but what do you care what I think?

The only thing I wish the schools would do would be to monitor school achievement and the achievement gap by both growth and age of children. I think some trends might be uncovered if test scores and grades were determinate on a child's age and past intelligence level.

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Anonymous wrote:If redshirting is cheating, what about tutors? Afterall, not all families can afford them for their kid. Also, how about therapy. Not everyone gets that or can afford it. Seriously, when you are giving your child what they need to succeed in this world and it doesn't violate the rules, which red shirting does not in many places, then it's not cheating. What a crazy idea that you would withhold something that benefits your child just because everyone else doesn't do it.

What about private school?! Talk about cheating...

Trust funder here , we do public and they go on time. Frankly if they, with two educated parents and world travel and hugely varied experiences aren't "mature" enough for K, I've failed. Ironically its just such kids who are routinely redshirted.

I am LMAO. You are clueless!

Anonymous wrote:I think it's cheating too and it annoys me that kids are held back. I was an August baby and did very well in school, despite being a tad slower in Kindergarten. I have an August baby too and will not hold her back.

Well, if YOU had a certain experience, that must mean EVERYONE ELSE will have the same experience, right?

You must have been standing behind the door on the day they discussed logic, oh brilliant one.

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Trust funder here , we do public and they go on time. Frankly if they, with two educated parents and world travel and hugely varied experiences aren't "mature" enough for K, I've failed. Ironically its just such kids who are routinely redshirted.

Pure arrogance. I taught school. There are plenty of great parents with immature kids. I don't think you know the meaning of the term.

What do you expect? Started life on third base and thinks she hit a home run.

Trust funder here , we do public and they go on time. Frankly if they, with two educated parents and world travel and hugely varied experiences aren't "mature" enough for K, I've failed. Ironically its just such kids who are routinely redshirted.

Pure arrogance. I taught school. There are plenty of great parents with immature kids. I don't think you know the meaning of the term.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If redshirting is cheating, what about tutors? Afterall, not all families can afford them for their kid. Also, how about therapy. Not everyone gets that or can afford it. Seriously, when you are giving your child what they need to succeed in this world and it doesn't violate the rules, which red shirting does not in many places, then it's not cheating. What a crazy idea that you would withhold something that benefits your child just because everyone else doesn't do it.

What about private school?! Talk about cheating...

Trust funder here , we do public and they go on time. Frankly if they, with two educated parents and world travel and hugely varied experiences aren't "mature" enough for K, I've failed. Ironically its just such kids who are routinely redshirted.

Well, your whole life is based on cheating, so, next!