Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, ripped jeans are not appropriate professional office attire ever (vs. working in retail selling ripped jeans, in which case go for it).

Second, why are you listening to a podcast on your nano during work hours? Is it work-related?

really have to wonder what position she holds and what agency this is that allows that.

Anonymous wrote:First, ripped jeans are not appropriate professional office attire ever (vs. working in retail selling ripped jeans, in which case go for it).

Second, why are you listening to a podcast on your nano during work hours? Is it work-related?

Anonymous wrote:Shade would be, "did you get lost on your way to Ultrabar?"

Anonymous wrote:Once, the intern in the office came in with ripped jeans and I asked her if they were ripped on purpose.

Anonymous wrote:I work in a federal government office. Today, I'm wearing jeans, a dressy shirt, and warm/fuzzy boots. The jeans have knee holes, but they are not overly ripped. They're cute! (I am not dressed outside of my agency's approved dress code.)

I am listening to a podcast on my nano, and I walked to an elevator bay where there was another lady--an older lady. I know her (though, not well), and we work for the same office/directorate. She's asked me for help on something before, so I know she knows who I am. She has never been overly friendly.

We wait a few minutes for the elevator. After we're on the elevator, I hear her say, "Excuse me, miss! Miss!" (through the sound of the podcast I'm listening to).

I remove the ear bud, and tell her I'm sorry, I didn't hear her at first.

She said, "What office do you work for that lets you dress so casually?" I just looked at her dumbfounded. It definitely seemed like she was insulting me. I stared at her and sputtered from being caught of guard. She repeated her question--no smile, not friendly. I stared at her, shook my head, remained quiet, and walked out of the elevator once the door opened.

You guys, we work for the same office, so it definitely seemed like a bit of shade. Maybe I'm crazy, though.

Anonymous wrote:You were incredibly rude, OP. When someone asks you a question, you answer, and when you feel it comes with judgement, you are allowed to be short instead of courteous. But failing to answer and shaking your head is grossly offensive.

This person really wants to confirm which office, even if she previously thought you both worked for the same office, because she can't believe that they would let you wear that crap to work. Yes, she's judging, but she also asked you a question and you need to answer.

You do not come to work with ripped jeans.
You do not walk in the corridors with ear buds.
You answer questions.
You say please and thank you.

Where on earth do you come from that you don't know these basic social skills?

Anonymous wrote:I suppose I'm old-fashioned, but I don't think "knee holes" are appropriate office wear.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are few things more annoying than white people who don't know how to use slang properly.

The woman asked you a direct question and stated that she thought you were casually dressed. That is not shade. It might be annoying or rude, but it is not shade.

Shade is subtle, not actually stated. If she had remarked "I prefer to dress professionally, but your jeans are nice," THAT would be shade. That sentence implies, without saying, that she thinks you are sloppy. It requires an inference and is even extra shady because it is masked as a compliment.

Understand?

Now, go forth and use the term properly.

I'm not white, Ms. Loud and Wrong.

Thanks for the tip on the proper use of shade. It's good to see you get something right.

Anonymous wrote:Jeans with holes? I don't care how "cute", I wouldn't wear those even to the office picnic. (I'm a fed too)

Anonymous wrote:There are few things more annoying than white people who don't know how to use slang properly.

The woman asked you a direct question and stated that she thought you were casually dressed. That is not shade. It might be annoying or rude, but it is not shade.

Shade is subtle, not actually stated. If she had remarked "I prefer to dress professionally, but your jeans are nice," THAT would be shade. That sentence implies, without saying, that she thinks you are sloppy. It requires an inference and is even extra shady because it is masked as a compliment.

Understand?

Now, go forth and use the term properly.