Anonymous wrote:Alimony is a real concern. If you make $180K and your mate makes $50K (male or female) there is a chance that down the road you will pay if, for example, you get married and it doesn’t work.

Call me shallow but we both have to have something to lose in the same magnitude. If I made $160 (female) and my spouse made $120, I would be fine, no worries. If he made 60k, I would take pause.

Plus as a female you have to be careful to have a spouse who is supportive of your career. In my case, the more successful I become the more insecure my spouse gets. Sad but true. It pains me but it’s true. Everyone sees it and I was probably last to notice.

Holy crap! You're dating and you're already concerned with alimony? Don't get married.

Anonymous wrote:Alimony is a real concern. If you make $180K and your mate makes $50K (male or female) there is a chance that down the road you will pay if, for example, you get married and it doesn’t work.

Call me shallow but we both have to have something to lose in the same magnitude. If I made $160 (female) and my spouse made $120, I would be fine, no worries. If he made 60k, I would take pause.

Plus as a female you have to be careful to have a spouse who is supportive of your career. In my case, the more successful I become the more insecure my spouse gets. Sad but true. It pains me but it’s true. Everyone sees it and I was probably last to notice.

Unfortunately, many women "lose respect" for their husbands If they begin to outearn them. Men know this, so they become insecure.

Anonymous wrote:I know I am going to be scrutinized and shamed for this, but hear me out. I am trying online dating, and I make high salary ( 180k). I am getting messages from guys that have their salaries listed, and it's a huge difference. I don't expect a rich guy, but is it wrong to screen a guy to make at least over 50k a year? I grew up with little money as a child, and I do not want to my future children to grow up like that. Do I need a reality check? I do not have any crazy requirements for height, profession, age, etc. All I am looking for is someoem within 10 years of my age, attractive to me, fit ( dad bod, okay), and what's marriage and kids.

Not at all - but don’t be mad when he “expects” a 9/10 Woman - which you aren’t. So sore, dump the guys for a guy with a high salary, but don’t get butthurt when he dumps you for the better looking woman.

Alimony is a real concern. If you make $180K and your mate makes $50K (male or female) there is a chance that down the road you will pay if, for example, you get married and it doesn’t work.

Call me shallow but we both have to have something to lose in the same magnitude. If I made $160 (female) and my spouse made $120, I would be fine, no worries. If he made 60k, I would take pause.

Plus as a female you have to be careful to have a spouse who is supportive of your career. In my case, the more successful I become the more insecure my spouse gets. Sad but true. It pains me but it’s true. Everyone sees it and I was probably last to notice.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, so people exchange salaries on the first couple of dates (or even in the dating app). How... mercantile.

Some list their salary range on their profile. It's also not that hard to find out if you look at their education level and profession.

When I was online dating, I preferred people who didn’t list st all, because I found it modest. DH and I didn’t share salaries until we were almost engaged, although PP is right: income and earning potential are totally obvious from a person’s education, current job, and work ethic.

It depends. Before marriage, dated a number of rodeo clowns. Not only does the pay vary widely, but there are built-in expenses that they have to pay for themselves such as clown clothes, make-up, flappy shoes, and various joke props like rubber noses, squirting flowers. etc. It may not sound like much, but can add up. Then again, when they make a name for themselves and have gained some attention, the money situation can improve quickly. It's also hard to tell who is destined for the big time and who, although great, really is not. Just because you run around waving your arms and interacting not only with the bull but with the crowd and really doing a great job doesn't mean you will succeed and I have seen really lame clowns, who barely did anything, end up really successful.

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Anonymous wrote:Op is a loser.

Op is a loser because she wants a high income earner? Funny you're calling her a loser considering most women on this board are SAHMs who live off of their husbands income. Op makes more than most of you on this board. For women like us, we know that a man can only add to our success, he can never become it.

Nope not because she has a high income. She comes across as dumb and shallow. She's made so many posts about this. High income doesn't equal intelligence.

When you make 180k a year, you have figured out something in life. There's nothing shallow about wanting your equivalent.

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Anonymous wrote:Op is a loser.

Op is a loser because she wants a high income earner? Funny you're calling her a loser considering most women on this board are SAHMs who live off of their husbands income. Op makes more than most of you on this board. For women like us, we know that a man can only add to our success, he can never become it.

Nope not because she has a high income. She comes across as dumb and shallow. She's made so many posts about this. High income doesn't equal intelligence.

Anonymous wrote:If I make 45k from tax free treasury bonds in my trust fund, am I good enough?

LOL, love it. People here are so shortsighted with their lists of requirements.

Anonymous wrote:Teachers are underpaid, overworked, and unhappy about their jobs. They're also overrepresented on Match, which I assume means you'd be expected to follow instructions, you get graded on your performance, and if your grade drops you get the boot.

Underpaid? They are the highest paid union workers. Teachers are overpaid. Our kids are learning nothing in school but becoming entitled whiny brats.

Op here. Most teachers are democrats. That's a deal breaker. I need a conservative or mostly conservative.

Teachers are underpaid, overworked, and unhappy about their jobs. They're also overrepresented on Match, which I assume means you'd be expected to follow instructions, you get graded on your performance, and if your grade drops you get the boot.

IMHO, income is transient. For dating, income does not matter. Marriage, it can be an issue.

Let me turn this around. I make 180K. Is it ok to only want to date women who make more than me? Because I want a certain lifestyle. I really like the cars that are ID'd by series....

Or, I really want to make much more than the woman...because I want to feel like a woman and me feel like a man?

Both of those are creepy.

Me? I think a teacher is the perfect spouse, as they are reasonably intelligent, often have great stories (classrooms do that), and since I can not talk about my work (black stuff), that is good.

A teacher + my salary is quite comfortable. You see, it does not matter who makes what; it matters if you are comfortable.