Anonymous wrote:Jewish teens don't get tattoos because they know we don't play around. Gentile kids get tattoos because kids know they can walk all over you without consequence.

Anonymous wrote:Jewish teens don't get tattoos because they know we don't play around. Gentile kids get tattoos because kids know they can walk all over you without consequence.

Anonymous wrote:Total control freak mom. He's 19. Take a breath and move on. It could be worse. He could be working for Trump

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Anonymous wrote:So my 19 YO DS has spent much of the summer in summer courses so he can graduate on time, but came home for two weeks on Sunday for the break between summer and fall classes.

He surprised us by telling us he got a tattoo a week ago. Which was completely unexpected - he never told us he was considering it or even really expressed interest in trying (outside a phase back when he was 16).

He knows me and DH don't like tattoos. They are the destruction of the human body that will, outside expensive laser removal, fixtures on the body. They also Mark a person, fairly or unfairly, as a part of the underclass, mostly associated with drugs, alcohol, and living a risky lifestyle I think most parents hope their kids never have to deal with.

I know that isn't my son - he is a smart, highly capable young man who has excelled in both school and work environments. But I just think he got wrapped up in the excitement (apparently him and several friends went and got tattoos together so I think it was just peer pressure).

At this point both me and DH are angry and hurt - DS knew our views on this well. Which is probably why he didn't tell us he was considering this action.

I'm at a loss as to what to do. My view is to stop supporting him (we pay for part of tuition + rent him an apartment off campus. I would offer to pay for room + board in official school housing, as I've always believed it was our duty as parents to provide food and housing for our kids if they can't do so themselves, but in my opinion if he sees himself as mature enough to desecrate his body, he is old enough to be responsible for his own education and spending money (which he already funds). If he can't afford school, or is unwilling to take out loans to cover his education, he knows there will always be a place at our table and a bed waiting for him at home. But I am not comfortable or in a position to pay for an apartment with "friends" who would suggest he get a tattoo.

DH thinks I'm being too harsh, but I just think DS knew what our response would be and should have considered that before getting the tattoo without even mentioning it to us.

This has got to be a troll post. What king of freaking moron would actually react like this IRL?

But, on the off chance that someone like this has actually made it to adulthood without choking on their own tongue trying to drink a Slurpee, here's some advice for you: Unless your son got swastikas or an MS-13 on his forehead, your need to STFU and get a life. And therapy. Lots and lots of therapy. Idiot.

Anonymous wrote:Jewish teens don't get tattoos because they know we don't play around. Gentile kids get tattoos because kids know they can walk all over you without consequence.

Anonymous wrote:OP here -

I'm sorry I come across as being unreasonable, but I am just angry and unsure what to do.

My reasoning behind pulling our funding for college is that this incredibly immature decision makes his degree worthless. Having a tattoo makes him unhirable outside crappy restaurant jobs. No professional setting would hire him, so why should we spend thousands of dollars on a worthless piece of paper? If he's happy being a tattooed thug working as a server then that's fine, but I'm not okay with throwing more of our money towards his now-worthless degree.

Plus, while we can afford to cover his education, personally I feel like the money would be better kept in a savings account for his two younger siblings who have not thrown their employment future in the gutter.

Again, ideally, I would love to see him grow up, get some loans, and should he get lme and DH would likely be willing to pay for those loans once they come due, assuming he comes to his senses and removed the tattoos.

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Anonymous wrote:lady, unless the tattoo is a swastika (or maybe a known gang symbol in a visible place), it will have roughly zero effect on his hireability. people with tattoos that I have interacted with in the last week include: prosecutors at DOJ, partner at a BigLaw firm, associates at a BigLaw firm, my kids' pediatrician, a couple of nurses, my landlord, my real estate agent, 3 different IT people, including the guy running the section, an old friend from college (who now runs a multimillion dollar business), a middle school teacher, my husband (a small business owner), a preschool teacher, and two friends from back home who are now a nurse and the other does something in publishing. And the only reason I noticed is because I'm paying attention to such things lately because I might get one myself (government lawyer).

now, I'm going to caveat that some of those are more unusual than others. I don't know many other BigLaw partners with a full sleeve, but this guy does. and that's probably the only preschool teacher I've run across with a tattoo. also, face and neck tattoos are more frowned upon generally. and tattoos with problematic content could be legit jobkillers if they are visible. So, no swastikas or naked boobs on his neck? he's fine.

Lol. Where do you live? Tattooine? Tatooville? Tatoo Town? I call troll. There is no way you know that many professionals with such a range of jobs with tattoos.