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Anonymous wrote:The pretending-not-to-eat MIL...I have one of those, too. Is it a generational thing or an old people thing?

Ugh, me too! So annoying. Only mine is a "vegetarian" who lets herself "live a little" and have steak every once in a while. And fish! And chicken. And that hamburger...

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Anonymous wrote:I think the no clothes in front of grandma and grandpa totally depends on how close you all are. I would never do this in front of my parents, but we hardly see them. Some grandparents are around all time and are truly like immediate family. In our home with just us, my kids run around in their underwear at times.

But even then, walking around naked in front of immediate family? We're not talking about in bathing suits right? We're talking straight up naked?

I think the kids had underwear/bathing suits in the original post. But I can't see the problem with being fully naked if the kid is happy with it. It's just a human body!

Because the grandparents are unhappy with it, and they get a vote too. In fact, as the elders, their vote counts more.

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I am allergic to the smell of fresh coffee...just a delightful allergy to have. You think avoiding nuts is hard!

If it makes grandparents uncomfortable, put a shirt on. Your kids will survive wearing a shirt.

My family weekend at the beachhouse led to me seething with rage at my SIL and sending her texts that should never have been sent...but they were true!

I've never heard/read about anyone having a 'histamine' reaction to the sell of coffee. Are you sure you just aren't 'intolerant' of the smell? Do you have reactions to other smells?

No other smells. Just fresh coffee. I do have all kinds of other environmental allergies (trees, pollens, grass) as well as oral allergy syndrome, and allergies to about a dozen other things so I am not surprised my sysytem has a histamine reaction to coffee. It makes me sneeze repeatedly, nose gets itchy and runny and my eyes get red, itchy, and weepy.

When my other allergies are more reactive, so is my allergy and reaction to coffee.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. Someone denying "me" coffee would mean war.

I know, right? I totally sympathize with the nauseous pregnant lady. But dang I need my coffee. Take the pot outside and brew it on the balcony. Then bring it back inside and enjoy.

No way. Pregnant lady can go outside.

Oh, come on. You don't make a woman with morning sickness drag herself out of bed and away from the toilet, out onto the balcony while you brew your coffee inside like a big old jerk. Just take the pot outside, sit on the balcony enjoying the sunrise while your coffee brews next to you. You won't even have to get up to pour yourself a cup. Just sit there enjoying that salty sea air with the smell of fresh coffee wafting in the wind - absolute heaven.

So we should run an extension cord to the balcony to brew coffee and the rest of the house of 10+ adults should sit outside while the one person bothered by it sits inside? You're kidding right?

Use the outdoor outlet. Or run an extension cord. Brew the pot outside. People can come out and get a cup and go back inside. It is the brewing that is making the pregnant woman sick. So a small effort on your part to avoid that would be nice.

If pregnant woman is really getting that sick from ordinary smells, she should consider skipping this trip or staying at a condo or some other space nearby. It is incredibly inconsiderate to ask the entire house to be inconvenienced by her personal choices.

Good grief. Aren't you going on vacation with people that you like and care about? This particular woman has only asked that people not brew coffee in the morning - the smell makes her sick. She hasn't asked them to not scramble eggs, cook seafood, wear sunscreen around her or anything else like that. Brewing coffee out on the deck would be absolutely no big deal at all to me. Now if she started to rule out other cooking smells...that wouldn't be fair to everyone else and it might be time for her to find her own accommodations or even go home early.

Only asked? Coffee is a basic staple for most people, not something that people are willing to forego or be super inconvenienced about on vacation. Not to mention, I assume we're all paying to use the kitchen and basic facilities.

Have your coffee already. Just brew it on the deck so that you don't make the pregnant lady in your group vomit.

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I am allergic to the smell of fresh coffee...just a delightful allergy to have. You think avoiding nuts is hard!

If it makes grandparents uncomfortable, put a shirt on. Your kids will survive wearing a shirt.

My family weekend at the beachhouse led to me seething with rage at my SIL and sending her texts that should never have been sent...but they were true!

I've never heard/read about anyone having a 'histamine' reaction to the sell of coffee. Are you sure you just aren't 'intolerant' of the smell? Do you have reactions to other smells?

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. Someone denying "me" coffee would mean war.

I know, right? I totally sympathize with the nauseous pregnant lady. But dang I need my coffee. Take the pot outside and brew it on the balcony. Then bring it back inside and enjoy.

No way. Pregnant lady can go outside.

Oh, come on. You don't make a woman with morning sickness drag herself out of bed and away from the toilet, out onto the balcony while you brew your coffee inside like a big old jerk. Just take the pot outside, sit on the balcony enjoying the sunrise while your coffee brews next to you. You won't even have to get up to pour yourself a cup. Just sit there enjoying that salty sea air with the smell of fresh coffee wafting in the wind - absolute heaven.

So we should run an extension cord to the balcony to brew coffee and the rest of the house of 10+ adults should sit outside while the one person bothered by it sits inside? You're kidding right?

Use the outdoor outlet. Or run an extension cord. Brew the pot outside. People can come out and get a cup and go back inside. It is the brewing that is making the pregnant woman sick. So a small effort on your part to avoid that would be nice.

If pregnant woman is really getting that sick from ordinary smells, she should consider skipping this trip or staying at a condo or some other space nearby. It is incredibly inconsiderate to ask the entire house to be inconvenienced by her personal choices.

Good grief. Aren't you going on vacation with people that you like and care about? This particular woman has only asked that people not brew coffee in the morning - the smell makes her sick. She hasn't asked them to not scramble eggs, cook seafood, wear sunscreen around her or anything else like that. Brewing coffee out on the deck would be absolutely no big deal at all to me. Now if she started to rule out other cooking smells...that wouldn't be fair to everyone else and it might be time for her to find her own accommodations or even go home early.

Only asked? Coffee is a basic staple for most people, not something that people are willing to forego or be super inconvenienced about on vacation. Not to mention, I assume we're all paying to use the kitchen and basic facilities.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. Someone denying "me" coffee would mean war.

I know, right? I totally sympathize with the nauseous pregnant lady. But dang I need my coffee. Take the pot outside and brew it on the balcony. Then bring it back inside and enjoy.

No way. Pregnant lady can go outside.

Oh, come on. You don't make a woman with morning sickness drag herself out of bed and away from the toilet, out onto the balcony while you brew your coffee inside like a big old jerk. Just take the pot outside, sit on the balcony enjoying the sunrise while your coffee brews next to you. You won't even have to get up to pour yourself a cup. Just sit there enjoying that salty sea air with the smell of fresh coffee wafting in the wind - absolute heaven.

So we should run an extension cord to the balcony to brew coffee and the rest of the house of 10+ adults should sit outside while the one person bothered by it sits inside? You're kidding right?

Use the outdoor outlet. Or run an extension cord. Brew the pot outside. People can come out and get a cup and go back inside. It is the brewing that is making the pregnant woman sick. So a small effort on your part to avoid that would be nice.

If pregnant woman is really getting that sick from ordinary smells, she should consider skipping this trip or staying at a condo or some other space nearby. It is incredibly inconsiderate to ask the entire house to be inconvenienced by her personal choices.

Good grief. Aren't you going on vacation with people that you like and care about? This particular woman has only asked that people not brew coffee in the morning - the smell makes her sick. She hasn't asked them to not scramble eggs, cook seafood, wear sunscreen around her or anything else like that. Brewing coffee out on the deck would be absolutely no big deal at all to me. Now if she started to rule out other cooking smells...that wouldn't be fair to everyone else and it might be time for her to find her own accommodations or even go home early.

Anonymous wrote:All this talk about underwear brings to mind how women would not walk around their FIL etc. in a modest bra and panties but will walk in the room wearing a bikini. WTH is the difference?

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I am allergic to the smell of fresh coffee...just a delightful allergy to have. You think avoiding nuts is hard!

If it makes grandparents uncomfortable, put a shirt on. Your kids will survive wearing a shirt.

My family weekend at the beachhouse led to me seething with rage at my SIL and sending her texts that should never have been sent...but they were true!

I've never heard/read about anyone having a 'histamine' reaction to the sell of coffee. Are you sure you just aren't 'intolerant' of the smell? Do you have reactions to other smells?

I am allergic to the smell of fresh coffee...just a delightful allergy to have. You think avoiding nuts is hard!

If it makes grandparents uncomfortable, put a shirt on. Your kids will survive wearing a shirt.

My family weekend at the beachhouse led to me seething with rage at my SIL and sending her texts that should never have been sent...but they were true!

Anonymous wrote:I am allergic to the smell of fresh coffee...just a delightful allergy to have. You think avoiding nuts is hard!

If it makes grandparents uncomfortable, put a shirt on. Your kids will survive wearing a shirt.

My family weekend at the beachhouse led to me seething with rage at my SIL and sending her texts that should never have been sent...but they were true!

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. Someone denying "me" coffee would mean war.

I know, right? I totally sympathize with the nauseous pregnant lady. But dang I need my coffee. Take the pot outside and brew it on the balcony. Then bring it back inside and enjoy.

No way. Pregnant lady can go outside.

Oh, come on. You don't make a woman with morning sickness drag herself out of bed and away from the toilet, out onto the balcony while you brew your coffee inside like a big old jerk. Just take the pot outside, sit on the balcony enjoying the sunrise while your coffee brews next to you. You won't even have to get up to pour yourself a cup. Just sit there enjoying that salty sea air with the smell of fresh coffee wafting in the wind - absolute heaven.

So we should run an extension cord to the balcony to brew coffee and the rest of the house of 10+ adults should sit outside while the one person bothered by it sits inside? You're kidding right?

Use the outdoor outlet. Or run an extension cord. Brew the pot outside. People can come out and get a cup and go back inside. It is the brewing that is making the pregnant woman sick. So a small effort on your part to avoid that would be nice.

If pregnant woman is really getting that sick from ordinary smells, she should consider skipping this trip or staying at a condo or some other space nearby. It is incredibly inconsiderate to ask the entire house to be inconvenienced by her personal choices.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. Someone denying "me" coffee would mean war.

I know, right? I totally sympathize with the nauseous pregnant lady. But dang I need my coffee. Take the pot outside and brew it on the balcony. Then bring it back inside and enjoy.

No way. Pregnant lady can go outside.

Oh, come on. You don't make a woman with morning sickness drag herself out of bed and away from the toilet, out onto the balcony while you brew your coffee inside like a big old jerk. Just take the pot outside, sit on the balcony enjoying the sunrise while your coffee brews next to you. You won't even have to get up to pour yourself a cup. Just sit there enjoying that salty sea air with the smell of fresh coffee wafting in the wind - absolute heaven.

So we should run an extension cord to the balcony to brew coffee and the rest of the house of 10+ adults should sit outside while the one person bothered by it sits inside? You're kidding right?

Use the outdoor outlet. Or run an extension cord. Brew the pot outside. People can come out and get a cup and go back inside. It is the brewing that is making the pregnant woman sick. So a small effort on your part to avoid that would be nice.

Sorry, you're wrong. I would not be inconveniencing the whole house over someone's deliberate choice to get pregnant.

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Anonymous wrote:Wait. Someone denying "me" coffee would mean war.

I know, right? I totally sympathize with the nauseous pregnant lady. But dang I need my coffee. Take the pot outside and brew it on the balcony. Then bring it back inside and enjoy.

No way. Pregnant lady can go outside.

Oh, come on. You don't make a woman with morning sickness drag herself out of bed and away from the toilet, out onto the balcony while you brew your coffee inside like a big old jerk. Just take the pot outside, sit on the balcony enjoying the sunrise while your coffee brews next to you. You won't even have to get up to pour yourself a cup. Just sit there enjoying that salty sea air with the smell of fresh coffee wafting in the wind - absolute heaven.

So we should run an extension cord to the balcony to brew coffee and the rest of the house of 10+ adults should sit outside while the one person bothered by it sits inside? You're kidding right?

Use the outdoor outlet. Or run an extension cord. Brew the pot outside. People can come out and get a cup and go back inside. It is the brewing that is making the pregnant woman sick. So a small effort on your part to avoid that would be nice.

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL sent an advance email outlining all the rules for the long weekend getaway at their river house with extended family. It included a dress code for lunches and dinners that stated explicitly that no shorts were permitted. All males were to wear long pants and collared shirts to meals.

At a river house? I didn't know there were such things as river houses. But being from Missouri, I'm picturing something like what Huck Finn lived in before he ran away. At least, I'm thinking canoes and kayaks and fishing and kids catching tadpoles and crawdads. Seriously, where is this house located, and how posh is it that you must dress for lunch?