Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:ughhhh she took him back. Post back when he ruins your credit and you're headed for divorce so we can say we told you so.
Op here. I did not take him back. I packed up all of his stuff (except for a few items that I'm choosing to keep!). I don't know where he's staying right now, but he is picking up everything this weekend (7/15). I can't live with or have a future with a liar. I thought about taking him back, we met up and talked for 3hrs. I found out a lot of other stuff (abusive childhood, has always felt inferior to other people), but it still doesn't excuse the lying and making up stuff to perpetuate the lie. If he would have come clean sometime during the first 6 months, I would fee different. Almost 3 years later, no, it's too late.
Anonymous wrote:You marry this person, you only have yourself to blame. This is not a little red flag, this is a red house!
Op here. Thank you. This has been emotionally draining, and moving his stuff out was physically draining. When I walk around the house and just look at how different it is, how quiet it is, it breaks my heart thinking of the life I THOUGHT was ahead. Very sad, but the feelings of betrayal are so much stronger that I knew the trust was completely gone. I actually feel sorry for him. He is very broken, he is struggling, he has been asking for forgiveness and another chance. I just can't do it. Have to move on. Have to heal my heart somehow
Op here. Thank you. This has been emotionally draining, and moving his stuff out was physically draining. When I walk around the house and just look at how different it is, how quiet it is, it breaks my heart thinking of the life I THOUGHT was ahead. Very sad, but the feelings of betrayal are so much stronger that I knew the trust was completely gone. I actually feel sorry for him. He is very broken, he is struggling, he has been asking for forgiveness and another chance. I just can't do it. Have to move on. Have to heal my heart somehowAnonymous wrote:Op here. I did not take him back. I packed up all of his stuff (except for a few items that I'm choosing to keep!). I don't know where he's staying right now, but he is picking up everything this weekend (7/15). I can't live with or have a future with a liar. I thought about taking him back, we met up and talked for 3hrs. I found out a lot of other stuff (abusive childhood, has always felt inferior to other people), but it still doesn't excuse the lying and making up stuff to perpetuate the lie. If he would have come clean sometime during the first 6 months, I would fee different. Almost 3 years later, no, it's too late.
OP, it is so very clear from this update that you did the absolute right thing. Putting the lying aside, the fact that this man was about to marry you and kept such significant aspects of his life a secret from you (abusive childhood, inferiority complex) speaks volumes about how disastrous of a marriage this would have been.
I don't know you, but am very happy that you decided to end it. Honestly, I wasn't expecting it since it takes such a strong woman to do that so close to a wedding date. Congratulations!![]()
Anonymous wrote:Op here, yes, but, it's packed in his stuff, he'll have to unpack everything to find it! I told him that it's packed up with his belongings.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:ughhhh she took him back. Post back when he ruins your credit and you're headed for divorce so we can say we told you so.
Op here. I did not take him back. I packed up all of his stuff (except for a few items that I'm choosing to keep!). I don't know where he's staying right now, but he is picking up everything this weekend (7/15). I can't live with or have a future with a liar. I thought about taking him back, we met up and talked for 3hrs. I found out a lot of other stuff (abusive childhood, has always felt inferior to other people), but it still doesn't excuse the lying and making up stuff to perpetuate the lie. If he would have come clean sometime during the first 6 months, I would fee different. Almost 3 years later, no, it's too late.
Did you return the ring?
Op here. I did not take him back. I packed up all of his stuff (except for a few items that I'm choosing to keep!). I don't know where he's staying right now, but he is picking up everything this weekend (7/15). I can't live with or have a future with a liar. I thought about taking him back, we met up and talked for 3hrs. I found out a lot of other stuff (abusive childhood, has always felt inferior to other people), but it still doesn't excuse the lying and making up stuff to perpetuate the lie. If he would have come clean sometime during the first 6 months, I would fee different. Almost 3 years later, no, it's too late.
Op here, yes, but, it's packed in his stuff, he'll have to unpack everything to find it! I told him that it's packed up with his belongings.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:ughhhh she took him back. Post back when he ruins your credit and you're headed for divorce so we can say we told you so.
Op here. I did not take him back. I packed up all of his stuff (except for a few items that I'm choosing to keep!). I don't know where he's staying right now, but he is picking up everything this weekend (7/15). I can't live with or have a future with a liar. I thought about taking him back, we met up and talked for 3hrs. I found out a lot of other stuff (abusive childhood, has always felt inferior to other people), but it still doesn't excuse the lying and making up stuff to perpetuate the lie. If he would have come clean sometime during the first 6 months, I would fee different. Almost 3 years later, no, it's too late.
Did you return the ring?