Anonymous wrote:Funny. I'm a native East Coaster with half of my family on West Coast, and I'll say the most passive-aggressive region of the country is...

..the Upper Midwest.

"Minnesota Nice" is complete BS. It's passive-aggressive behavior and backstabbing behavior perfected.

Lived in the Twin Cities for four years.

Anonymous wrote:The DMV is one of the most passive aggressive places on earth. So i’m not sure what the original poster is talking about.

Anonymous wrote:Oh lord let me tell you what its like being Puerto Rican in Seattle lol

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Anonymous wrote:East coaster that worked on the west coast for a min.
It made me so much more aggressive and confrontational. I literally wanted to punch everyone in the face.
But yoga also makes me angry.
So...yeah.

This is what I'm worried about. I recently moved to the Pacific NW and, while i've lived in LA also, people here seem to be be west coast passive aggression x10. Everyone just seems so... easily offended and downright crazy to me. Like something that would be NBD on the east coast becomes a huge deal here. I have a friend who lives in Seattle and she was telling me how, if her cart happens to be in the way of how someone is walking (as in, not blocking the aisle, just on her side of the aisle that they are walking through) instead of going around, they will stop and literally stare at her, like glaring at her, waiting for her to move for them. Having been here, I can totally imagine that. It's a very weird set of social codes that, to me, seems to be built on a bedrock of wanting to feel angry/aggrieved. And... it's working on me! I feel annoyed and upset every time I leave my apartment, which is not a problem I've ever had before. And, of course, I'm a very upfront person, so my instinct is to address it, but any Pacific NWer that I have seen have someone ask about their passive aggression... just denies that this kind of environment exists. It's just "I think everyone is super pleasant"- so you are made out to be crazy.

Sorry, I didn't mean to rant. But it worries me because I can feel it make me more of a miserable, confrontational person because of the constant passive aggression over things that are truly so irrelevant and minor. And I worry that I made a huge mistake moving here.

...or you could try to be less clueless and move your cart over so people can pass. East coasters are rude and entitled. If you start treating other people like humans with feelings too, you might be surprised at the responses you get.

NP here. I have lived all along the east coast and the "need to make a statement" ie: leaving cart in the way, staying in the way, glaring at people who "challenge" you (whether or not they really are doing that), being a general rude, high maintenance PITA (but poorly feigning ignorance), is absolutely specific to the D.C. area. You won't notice unless you have different points of reference, and have lived elsewhere for enough time. Don't get me started on the driving, which makes other parts of the country "known" for bad driving, look good.

100% agree. People often seem so angry and put-out here.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up on the left coast, have lived on the east one for two decades now.

When I moved out here, I was taken aback at how East Coast people brag about themselves. I went to school here, I had this grade point, I am this accomplished, tell me about yourself so I may one-up you, etc. Do that on the west coast and people think you're an asshole. They don't tell you that, but that's what they think of you.

On the west coast, your whole goal is to look like you're barely working when you are busting your ass behind the scenes. You might have gotten a 102 by acing the extra credit on the exam, but when anyone asks how did on the test, you just say, "I did okay." You DO NOT tell them your actual score, compare notes, and boast about yourself. It is not done.

So yes, west coast people think east coast people are mostly assholes. We won't tell you that, though.

Good, no reason for you to visit the east coast then....

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Anonymous wrote:East coaster that worked on the west coast for a min.
It made me so much more aggressive and confrontational. I literally wanted to punch everyone in the face.
But yoga also makes me angry.
So...yeah.

This is what I'm worried about. I recently moved to the Pacific NW and, while i've lived in LA also, people here seem to be be west coast passive aggression x10. Everyone just seems so... easily offended and downright crazy to me. Like something that would be NBD on the east coast becomes a huge deal here. I have a friend who lives in Seattle and she was telling me how, if her cart happens to be in the way of how someone is walking (as in, not blocking the aisle, just on her side of the aisle that they are walking through) instead of going around, they will stop and literally stare at her, like glaring at her, waiting for her to move for them. Having been here, I can totally imagine that. It's a very weird set of social codes that, to me, seems to be built on a bedrock of wanting to feel angry/aggrieved. And... it's working on me! I feel annoyed and upset every time I leave my apartment, which is not a problem I've ever had before. And, of course, I'm a very upfront person, so my instinct is to address it, but any Pacific NWer that I have seen have someone ask about their passive aggression... just denies that this kind of environment exists. It's just "I think everyone is super pleasant"- so you are made out to be crazy.

Sorry, I didn't mean to rant. But it worries me because I can feel it make me more of a miserable, confrontational person because of the constant passive aggression over things that are truly so irrelevant and minor. And I worry that I made a huge mistake moving here.

...or you could try to be less clueless and move your cart over so people can pass. East coasters are rude and entitled. If you start treating other people like humans with feelings too, you might be surprised at the responses you get.

NP here. I have lived all along the east coast and the "need to make a statement" ie: leaving cart in the way, staying in the way, glaring at people who "challenge" you (whether or not they really are doing that), being a general rude, high maintenance PITA (but poorly feigning ignorance), is absolutely specific to the D.C. area. You won't notice unless you have different points of reference, and have lived elsewhere for enough time. Don't get me started on the driving, which makes other parts of the country "known" for bad driving, look good.

Anonymous wrote:I grew up on the left coast, have lived on the east one for two decades now.

When I moved out here, I was taken aback at how East Coast people brag about themselves. I went to school here, I had this grade point, I am this accomplished, tell me about yourself so I may one-up you, etc. Do that on the west coast and people think you're an asshole. They don't tell you that, but that's what they think of you.

On the west coast, your whole goal is to look like you're barely working when you are busting your ass behind the scenes. You might have gotten a 102 by acing the extra credit on the exam, but when anyone asks how did on the test, you just say, "I did okay." You DO NOT tell them your actual score, compare notes, and boast about yourself. It is not done.

So yes, west coast people think east coast people are mostly assholes. We won't tell you that, though.

Anonymous wrote:The DMV is one of the most passive aggressive places on earth. So i’m not sure what the original poster is talking about.

Anonymous wrote:I (native Northern Virginian) do not respond well to passive-aggression. If someone were to stare at my cart expecting me to move it, they are welcome to stare the whole gosh darn cotton-pick in' day. If they do not use their words, how am I supposed to know what they want? I am not a mind reader. If they want to behave like an adult and use their words, however, I am happy to move. Duh.

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Anonymous wrote:East coaster that worked on the west coast for a min.
It made me so much more aggressive and confrontational. I literally wanted to punch everyone in the face.
But yoga also makes me angry.
So...yeah.

This is what I'm worried about. I recently moved to the Pacific NW and, while i've lived in LA also, people here seem to be be west coast passive aggression x10. Everyone just seems so... easily offended and downright crazy to me. Like something that would be NBD on the east coast becomes a huge deal here. I have a friend who lives in Seattle and she was telling me how, if her cart happens to be in the way of how someone is walking (as in, not blocking the aisle, just on her side of the aisle that they are walking through) instead of going around, they will stop and literally stare at her, like glaring at her, waiting for her to move for them. Having been here, I can totally imagine that. It's a very weird set of social codes that, to me, seems to be built on a bedrock of wanting to feel angry/aggrieved. And... it's working on me! I feel annoyed and upset every time I leave my apartment, which is not a problem I've ever had before. And, of course, I'm a very upfront person, so my instinct is to address it, but any Pacific NWer that I have seen have someone ask about their passive aggression... just denies that this kind of environment exists. It's just "I think everyone is super pleasant"- so you are made out to be crazy.

Sorry, I didn't mean to rant. But it worries me because I can feel it make me more of a miserable, confrontational person because of the constant passive aggression over things that are truly so irrelevant and minor. And I worry that I made a huge mistake moving here.

...or you could try to be less clueless and move your cart over so people can pass. East coasters are rude and entitled. If you start treating other people like humans with feelings too, you might be surprised at the responses you get.