Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It is not fair to your kids to bathe them so infrequently, as they have no choice in the matter. When they get older they will likely be made fun of in school, and good luck getting them to practice good hygiene once they get to middle school and have to deal with body odor. You seriously can't take 5 minutes to dip them in the bathtub and wash them up?
This is not at all what happened with my kids. They also only took one or two baths a week up until puberty. Once they hit middle school they went from showering once or twice a week to showering once or twice a day, without me reminding them. It just happens -- by the end of middle school they wanted to look and feel good. (This also extended to their wardrobes which went from 100% athletic wear to real clothes.)
It really is okay to let younger kids not shower every day and it is probably better for them. It doesn't mean that they won't have good hygiene as young adults.
My mom sounded exactly like your mom. And yes, once I hit middle school I started showering a lot more often. You know why? Because I started to become horrendously bullied about my appearance and lack of hygiene (which I didn't know I was supposed to have). A kind fellow middle-schooler pulled me aside and told me that I shouldn't have dirt under my fingernails and that I probably needed to wash my hair more frequently. I had to start learning the basics of hygiene myself. I also started asking for "real" clothes because my little-girl, age-inappropriate wardrobe was the subject of significant teasing as well.
So yeah. You're probably right that they "naturally" started on their own -- because their unforgiving peers have pointed out to them that they don't know the basics. Kids are cruel about these things.
I have taught my kids good hygiene habits from the start. They will never go through what I did.