Anonymous wrote:Virtue signaling is so obnoxious.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm black and live in neighborhood near yours. There are several BLM signs around us in the yards of people who are not black. Doesn't bother me in the slightest. I'm glad people feel strongly enough about the message to identify themselves as believing in it.

That said, people will form opinions of you that you don't like and if your husband doesn't feel comfortable with that, that matters too.

We're also gentrifiers, though I guess being black cancels out the impact of that. But having kids changes what you have to consider and I could understand if your husband is coming at it from that angle, even if he doesn't articulate it that way. It's kinda ironic that I don't feel that my kid, young as he is, is entirely safe around gentrifiers.

So put up the sign because it sends a message to moms like me. Don't do it if it makes your own family uncomfortable. They're more important, and there are other ways.

No. Being black doesn't cancel out the impact of that. As a white non-gentrifier you are just as bad. You are pricing people out of their homes and doing the same thing. Own it.

Um...I did. Difference is that I don't give a sh*t about what you or anyone else thinks about where I choose to buy a house.

Faulty assumption 1) I care or anyone else did until you decided to post that your skin color cancels out YOUR impact of gentrification (hint: it doesn't)

Faulty assumption 2) that white gentrifies care what other people think

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Anonymous wrote:What will become of these signs when owners sell and move to Arlington for "better schools?"

They will get the sign that has messages in multiple languages -- that no one in their lilly white neighborhoods can read.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm black and live in neighborhood near yours. There are several BLM signs around us in the yards of people who are not black. Doesn't bother me in the slightest. I'm glad people feel strongly enough about the message to identify themselves as believing in it.

That said, people will form opinions of you that you don't like and if your husband doesn't feel comfortable with that, that matters too.

We're also gentrifiers, though I guess being black cancels out the impact of that. But having kids changes what you have to consider and I could understand if your husband is coming at it from that angle, even if he doesn't articulate it that way. It's kinda ironic that I don't feel that my kid, young as he is, is entirely safe around gentrifiers.

So put up the sign because it sends a message to moms like me. Don't do it if it makes your own family uncomfortable. They're more important, and there are other ways.

No. Being black doesn't cancel out the impact of that. As a white non-gentrifier you are just as bad. You are pricing people out of their homes and doing the same thing. Own it.

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Anonymous wrote:We have the sign that reads:
IN THIS HOUSE
WE BELIEVE:
BLACK LIVES MATTER
WOMEN'S RIGHTS ARE HUMAN RIGHTS
NO HUMAN IS ILLEGAL
LOVE IS LOVE
KINDNESS IS EVERYTHING

Why you so stupid to have this shit?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm black and live in neighborhood near yours. There are several BLM signs around us in the yards of people who are not black. Doesn't bother me in the slightest. I'm glad people feel strongly enough about the message to identify themselves as believing in it.

That said, people will form opinions of you that you don't like and if your husband doesn't feel comfortable with that, that matters too.

We're also gentrifiers, though I guess being black cancels out the impact of that. But having kids changes what you have to consider and I could understand if your husband is coming at it from that angle, even if he doesn't articulate it that way. It's kinda ironic that I don't feel that my kid, young as he is, is entirely safe around gentrifiers.

So put up the sign because it sends a message to moms like me. Don't do it if it makes your own family uncomfortable. They're more important, and there are other ways.

No. Being black doesn't cancel out the impact of that. As a white non-gentrifier you are just as bad. You are pricing people out of their homes and doing the same thing. Own it.

Um...I did. Difference is that I don't give a sh*t about what you or anyone else thinks about where I choose to buy a house.

Faulty assumption 1) I care or anyone else did until you decided to post that your skin color cancels out YOUR impact of gentrification (hint: it doesn't)

Faulty assumption 2) that white gentrifies care what other people think

Anonymous wrote:What will become of these signs when owners sell and move to Arlington for "better schools?"

Anonymous wrote:What will become of these signs when owners sell and move to Arlington for "better schools?"

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm black and live in neighborhood near yours. There are several BLM signs around us in the yards of people who are not black. Doesn't bother me in the slightest. I'm glad people feel strongly enough about the message to identify themselves as believing in it.

That said, people will form opinions of you that you don't like and if your husband doesn't feel comfortable with that, that matters too.

We're also gentrifiers, though I guess being black cancels out the impact of that. But having kids changes what you have to consider and I could understand if your husband is coming at it from that angle, even if he doesn't articulate it that way. It's kinda ironic that I don't feel that my kid, young as he is, is entirely safe around gentrifiers.

So put up the sign because it sends a message to moms like me. Don't do it if it makes your own family uncomfortable. They're more important, and there are other ways.

No. Being black doesn't cancel out the impact of that. As a white non-gentrifier you are just as bad. You are pricing people out of their homes and doing the same thing. Own it.

Um...I did. Difference is that I don't give a sh*t about what you or anyone else thinks about where I choose to buy a house.

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Anonymous wrote:Virtue signaling is so obnoxious.

+1

Criticizing "virtue signaling" is just another form of virtue signaling. What, you want a pat on the back?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you need a sign on your front lawn to support a cause? More effective would be to volunteer or DO something rather than a shallow sign of status.

I agree that only having a yard sign is not enough. But I don't think that OP is suggesting that having a yard sign is her only form of activism.

Having a yard sign or bumper sticker or button or whatever is a very easy, very cheap, very small thing. But, I don't think it's harmful.

Actually, it IS harmful. Studies have found that people use small things like Facebook posts, signs, etc as moral self licensing- because they did a "good" thing, they rationalize later doing a bad thing. See PP on this thread- they put a sign up, so that justifies them not actually DOING something, like sending their kid to the school in their district and then fighting for improvements in the school. Much easier to do what's best for your own kid, then put up a sign to absolve your guilt.

If white people want to feel guilty about the treatment of black people in this country, that's totally fine with me, but don't do something trivial and then pat yourself on the back. Putting up a BLM sign is pretty much the modern day "I have a black friend".

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm black and live in neighborhood near yours. There are several BLM signs around us in the yards of people who are not black. Doesn't bother me in the slightest. I'm glad people feel strongly enough about the message to identify themselves as believing in it.

That said, people will form opinions of you that you don't like and if your husband doesn't feel comfortable with that, that matters too.

We're also gentrifiers, though I guess being black cancels out the impact of that. But having kids changes what you have to consider and I could understand if your husband is coming at it from that angle, even if he doesn't articulate it that way. It's kinda ironic that I don't feel that my kid, young as he is, is entirely safe around gentrifiers.

So put up the sign because it sends a message to moms like me. Don't do it if it makes your own family uncomfortable. They're more important, and there are other ways.

No. Being black doesn't cancel out the impact of that. As a white non-gentrifier you are just as bad. You are pricing people out of their homes and doing the same thing. Own it.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm black and live in neighborhood near yours. There are several BLM signs around us in the yards of people who are not black. Doesn't bother me in the slightest. I'm glad people feel strongly enough about the message to identify themselves as believing in it.

That said, people will form opinions of you that you don't like and if your husband doesn't feel comfortable with that, that matters too.

We're also gentrifiers, though I guess being black cancels out the impact of that. But having kids changes what you have to consider and I could understand if your husband is coming at it from that angle, even if he doesn't articulate it that way. It's kinda ironic that I don't feel that my kid, young as he is, is entirely safe around gentrifiers.

So put up the sign because it sends a message to moms like me. Don't do it if it makes your own family uncomfortable. They're more important, and there are other ways.