Anonymous wrote:My new girlfriend a couple months disclosed to me that she was a sugar daddy a couple of years ago. I was shocked as she doesn't seem the type. She is smart, educated, good values, doesn't sleep around, etc. We didn't have sex until 5 dates. I'm a little repulsed by this new information. I like her and I am even beginning to fall in love with her, but this new information has me second guessing dating her. She isn't a slut. She only had one sugar baby who helped pay for grad school. I know we all have a past, but I'm not sure this is something I can ever get past.

How does one get one of these?

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Anonymous wrote:My advice OP: I'd probably forgive and forget on this issue. Don't ever throw it back in her face if you are having an argument. Consider getting a pre-nup. Beware of any woman who views sex with you as transactional.

My advice is don't marry a whore even if she signs a pre-nup.

You can forget she was a whore if you need to. Be sure, however, that she will never forget she was a whore.

Dude, you have issues.

LOL yeah "don't marry a whore" is an issue I have. How shameful! My other "issues" include not marrying drug abusers, alcoholics, or the mentally ill. What can I say, I simply value myself highly enough not to want to date (let alone agree to a legally binding commitment with) seriously damaged women. After all, there are millions of women in this area you could potentially marry, and I dare say the majority of them have never been whores, so why would you want to marry one of the few who has been a whore?

BFD!!! Don't be such a dishrag, bro.

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Anonymous wrote:My advice OP: I'd probably forgive and forget on this issue. Don't ever throw it back in her face if you are having an argument. Consider getting a pre-nup. Beware of any woman who views sex with you as transactional.

My advice is don't marry a whore even if she signs a pre-nup.

You can forget she was a whore if you need to. Be sure, however, that she will never forget she was a whore.

Dude, you have issues.

Anonymous wrote:My advice OP: I'd probably forgive and forget on this issue. Don't ever throw it back in her face if you are having an argument. Consider getting a pre-nup. Beware of any woman who views sex with you as transactional.

My advice is don't marry a whore even if she signs a pre-nup.

You can forget she was a whore if you need to. Be sure, however, that she will never forget she was a whore.

Bet she had a loose anus

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Anonymous wrote:Was it a formal sugar daddy relationship, like someone she sought out for that on a website, or just a generous older guy that she dated who wanted to pay for stuff for her?

Op here. She described it as a fwb type relationship. She was 27 and he was 35. I am not jealous, btw. I make very good money.

Does she support herself now? Is she self-sufficient? I think the thing that would worry me the most is that she is obviously not opposed to that type of relationship, so how do you know that you aren't being set up to be sugar daddy #2? I'm sure she made sugar daddy #1 feel like she was into him.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. The guy was young as well ( in 30's). I know some people don't see it as prostitution but I do.

NP here. I'm a woman, and I agree with you.

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She is smart, educated, good values, doesn't sleep around, etc.

I don't think those words mean what you think they mean.

Smart: She figured out a way to parlay the value of her vagina into cash.
Educated: Anyone can eke out a degree somewhere these days.
Good values: Except for the bit about prostitution.
Doesn't sleep around: Business 101 - Don't give away a product people are willing to pay for. It devalues your brand.

+1,000,000 LMAO! Good one!

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Anonymous wrote:I feel for you Buddy. DW had a FWB when I met her. They broke up but it bothered me.

This would bother me also but I avoid these issues by not asking about them. I assume any woman I am involved with, as with me, actually had a life before we met.

Yeah but some of them have less sordid past histories than others.

But hey if it doesn't bother you to kiss the lips that ate a thousand dicks, go for it.

Anonymous wrote:I feel for you Buddy. DW had a FWB when I met her. They broke up but it bothered me.

This would bother me also but I avoid these issues by not asking about them. I assume any woman I am involved with, as with me, actually had a life before we met.

My advice OP: I'd probably forgive and forget on this issue. Don't ever throw it back in her face if you are having an argument. Consider getting a pre-nup. Beware of any woman who views sex with you as transactional.

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Anonymous wrote:All women are prostitutes unless they are too ugly to pull it off. Get over it people, it's really not a big deal.

Agreed. Exchanging money/security for sex is as old as humanity and ingrained in us by evolution.

And men are too horny and ugly to get it for free. They have to pay for it one way or the other. They are not known as the fairer sex, are they?

OP, if you think that it was prostitution then you should break it off. It is just not fair on you or your girlfriend to continue this relationship.

I personally do not have any judgement around relationships between single and consenting adults. I feel we can never know the true nature of their relationship. I also feel that the sexual past of your partner or spouse is not your business unless there is a health risk or it is something illegal. What you do have a right to is loyalty for the duration of your relationship or marriage.

DH and I, both were virgins when we married and have only been with each other for the past 30 years. I am very religious and moral and belong to a very conservative culture. So, I am not coming from a place where I had the same experience as your girlfriend.

Anonymous wrote:All women are prostitutes unless they are too ugly to pull it off. Get over it people, it's really not a big deal.

Agreed. Exchanging money/security for sex is as old as humanity and ingrained in us by evolution.