Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I believe inheritances should be shared. DH and I are a team!! We share,

Spoken like someone who has never inherited anything. My spouse and I are happily marrried, and I share my annual distributions but my trust is protected in the event of dovorce. The idea of him cheating on me then assuming that he has the right to the money that my Mom slaved away to amass and protect makes me sick.

I did inherit 2 million and I shared with DH. He better share his with me when the time comes. Yes, my parents worked for that money but DH and I share everything.

THis is the best thread for a long time. Just what I needed after the dystopian nightmare of the last week.

OP is a piece of work and now has to face her consequences. I think her DH is more concerned about the daughter than OP is and will make sure DD inherits the remainder or a reasonable portion of it later.

She did leave out her gift of chlamydia.

Anonymous wrote:OMG. Crazy. OP, for your sake, I would ask Jeff to remove the thread for your privacy. As entertaining as it was.

OP is the one who posted most of the details, so apparently she isn't too worried about privacy.

OMG. Crazy. OP, for your sake, I would ask Jeff to remove the thread for your privacy. As entertaining as it was.

OP here. Taking discussion off line. I can not vent here with DH (and it was DH) reading on here.

Your lawyer is correct.

To OP's DH: does she know that you found this thread?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I inherited about 100k. Nothing compared to some, but we used half to pay for me to go to grad school (i'm now working in that field) and the other half is our emergency fund. So we shared, but in a way that benefited the whole family. I feel like if it were 1 million, we would do the same.

Yeah. That doesn't compare to someone with a 10 million dollar trust. Believe me, you wouldn't want to fork over 5 million to someone who cheated on you and broke up your family. Many people get bonuses way larger than your inheritance.

Ahh, DCUM

The point was you can't compare how you feel about 100k vs 10 million when it comes to a cheating spouse taking half.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I believe inheritances should be shared. DH and I are a team!! We share,

Spoken like someone who has never inherited anything. My spouse and I are happily marrried, and I share my annual distributions but my trust is protected in the event of dovorce. The idea of him cheating on me then assuming that he has the right to the money that my Mom slaved away to amass and protect makes me sick.

NP here - Don't assume that those who want to share have never inherited anything. I shared my inheritance. I handle all of our finances, and I definitely agree with the sentiment that DH and I are a team and we share.

This is an interesting thread. I need to talk to an estate planner and find out if I can place a condition in my will that DC cannot co-mingle his inherited funds upon marriage. He is such a gentle soul, and does not have the untrusting, survivor instincts I needed to amass the small fortune he will inherit one day.

You usually can't control the use of the money after you die. Obviously a trust can have certain conditions in place before the recipient is given the money. But, once that person has the money? It's hard to enforce from the grave.

Create an irrevocable trust. It's not fair to require that they don't commingle the money- what if they had some terrrible medical event or something? You could also leave the trust intact but either just gift your son 28k per year (assuming you are married), or 56k per year of you wanted to gift both people.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I inherited about 100k. Nothing compared to some, but we used half to pay for me to go to grad school (i'm now working in that field) and the other half is our emergency fund. So we shared, but in a way that benefited the whole family. I feel like if it were 1 million, we would do the same.

Yeah. That doesn't compare to someone with a 10 million dollar trust. Believe me, you wouldn't want to fork over 5 million to someone who cheated on you and broke up your family. Many people get bonuses way larger than your inheritance.

Ahh, DCUM

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I believe inheritances should be shared. DH and I are a team!! We share,

Spoken like someone who has never inherited anything. My spouse and I are happily marrried, and I share my annual distributions but my trust is protected in the event of dovorce. The idea of him cheating on me then assuming that he has the right to the money that my Mom slaved away to amass and protect makes me sick.

NP here - Don't assume that those who want to share have never inherited anything. I shared my inheritance. I handle all of our finances, and I definitely agree with the sentiment that DH and I are a team and we share.

This is an interesting thread. I need to talk to an estate planner and find out if I can place a condition in my will that DC cannot co-mingle his inherited funds upon marriage. He is such a gentle soul, and does not have the untrusting, survivor instincts I needed to amass the small fortune he will inherit one day.

You usually can't control the use of the money after you die. Obviously a trust can have certain conditions in place before the recipient is given the money. But, once that person has the money? It's hard to enforce from the grave.

I inherited about $700k from my dad. I've kept it in my name, primarily because I'm a sahm and that's my security should something happen to dh. I'm sure we'll use part of it for a house downpayment in the future, but for now, I prefer to control it. I handle the finances anyway, don't see any point in putting his name on the account.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I believe inheritances should be shared. DH and I are a team!! We share,

Spoken like someone who has never inherited anything. My spouse and I are happily marrried, and I share my annual distributions but my trust is protected in the event of dovorce. The idea of him cheating on me then assuming that he has the right to the money that my Mom slaved away to amass and protect makes me sick.

NP here - Don't assume that those who want to share have never inherited anything. I shared my inheritance. I handle all of our finances, and I definitely agree with the sentiment that DH and I are a team and we share.

This is an interesting thread. I need to talk to an estate planner and find out if I can place a condition in my will that DC cannot co-mingle his inherited funds upon marriage. He is such a gentle soul, and does not have the untrusting, survivor instincts I needed to amass the small fortune he will inherit one day.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I'm naive to believe you, but if you are really her husband you have all of my empathy and respect.

Way to take the high road with a shitty person.

+1. Your DW sounds like the type of person who would threaten to tell your daughter, as part of an effort to get more money/avoid getting a job. There's that desperation thing again.