Anonymous wrote:Please stop hijacking OP's thread. Start your own discussion.

OP, how are you doing?

Anonymous wrote:Your anecdotal penis is incorrect. Affairs are no more about sex than rapes are. Affairs are about validation, ego stroke and soothing a tatter self esteem. There is no amount of "draining" that fixes a damaged man's need for attention.

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Anonymous wrote:Childhood upbringing and attachment styles are the biggest predictor of infidelity...


http://www.helenfisher.com/downloads/articles/INFIDELITY.pdf



http://www.shirleyglass.com/introduction.htm

You can read all of the books and articles you want but at the end of the day men want to have sex and some will cheat to get it.

Exactly... that is what the article says... men don't care if the wife is Halley Barry or Teen Mom... men cheat. Women trying to "affair proof" their marriage are getting sold a whole bunch of BS.

This is a little more nuanced. All men want to cheat, but some won't because they don't want to risk a good thing at home. Also, as a penis-owner, I can promise you that men's pursuit of strange is drastically altered when you are drained vs. full.

So there is no way to affair-proof a marriage but there are definitely things you can do to lower the risk (or raise the risk). It's like for men dealing with sexless marriages - you can do all the right things, be attentive, helpful and in great shape and still end up there, but it's also true that if you are rude fat jerk you are more likely to get there.

Your anecdotal penis is incorrect. Affairs are no more about sex than rapes are. Affairs are about validation, ego stroke and soothing a tatter self esteem. There is no amount of "draining" that fixes a damaged man's need for attention.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Childhood upbringing and attachment styles are the biggest predictor of infidelity...


http://www.helenfisher.com/downloads/articles/INFIDELITY.pdf



http://www.shirleyglass.com/introduction.htm

You can read all of the books and articles you want but at the end of the day men want to have sex and some will cheat to get it.

Exactly... that is what the article says... men don't care if the wife is Halley Barry or Teen Mom... men cheat. Women trying to "affair proof" their marriage are getting sold a whole bunch of BS.

This is a little more nuanced. All men want to cheat, but some won't because they don't want to risk a good thing at home. Also, as a penis-owner, I can promise you that men's pursuit of strange is drastically altered when you are drained vs. full.

So there is no way to affair-proof a marriage but there are definitely things you can do to lower the risk (or raise the risk). It's like for men dealing with sexless marriages - you can do all the right things, be attentive, helpful and in great shape and still end up there, but it's also true that if you are rude fat jerk you are more likely to get there.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Childhood upbringing and attachment styles are the biggest predictor of infidelity...


http://www.helenfisher.com/downloads/articles/INFIDELITY.pdf



http://www.shirleyglass.com/introduction.htm

You can read all of the books and articles you want but at the end of the day men want to have sex and some will cheat to get it.

Exactly... that is what the article says... men don't care if the wife is Halley Barry or Teen Mom... men cheat. Women trying to "affair proof" their marriage are getting sold a whole bunch of BS.

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Anonymous wrote:Childhood upbringing and attachment styles are the biggest predictor of infidelity...


http://www.helenfisher.com/downloads/articles/INFIDELITY.pdf



http://www.shirleyglass.com/introduction.htm

Interesting, the second link contains this quote:

I discovered that women’s infidelities were about unhappy marriages and falling in love with somebody else, and men’s infidelities were more about the desire for sexual excitement than because of an unhappy marriage.

But wait, this is the same author Shirley Glass who supposedly says that men don't cheat due to unsatisfying sexlife.

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Anonymous wrote:Childhood upbringing and attachment styles are the biggest predictor of infidelity...


http://www.helenfisher.com/downloads/articles/INFIDELITY.pdf



http://www.shirleyglass.com/introduction.htm

You can read all of the books and articles you want but at the end of the day men want to have sex and some will cheat to get it.

Anonymous wrote:Childhood upbringing and attachment styles are the biggest predictor of infidelity...


http://www.helenfisher.com/downloads/articles/INFIDELITY.pdf



http://www.shirleyglass.com/introduction.htm

Anonymous wrote:Childhood upbringing and attachment styles are the biggest predictor of infidelity...


http://www.helenfisher.com/downloads/articles/INFIDELITY.pdf



http://www.shirleyglass.com/introduction.htm

Anonymous wrote:I have a very hard time believing this.
A lot of googling so far has turned up nothing.
Can anybody sunstantiate this counter intuitive claim?

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Not sure why you are so defensive about the science behind the reality. But the reality is... men with no or little sex do NOT cheat more often than men with reasonable sex lives.

NP - Is there a citation to these scientific studies? I haven't read the whole thread, but all I saw was reference to a Shirley Glass book which, in turn, may have cited some studies.