Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 22:35     Subject: Re:Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

So many people go without sex for various reasons... Deployed, illness, etc... It's not a basic need.


LOL if you think people on deployment don't have sex you reeeeeaaaaally don't know much about the military.


Some do... Some don't ... Both can function.

If you think 3 months without water is the same as 3 months without sex, you're ignorant.

I guess you think it's okay for all the spouses of deployed military to get free hall passes? It's Not!


Military wife here. We've had 3 deployments that lasted over 12 months each. I can assure you I had NO sex during those times. And since I'm not the spouse in the military this was not a result of my own lifestyle choice.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 22:34     Subject: Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

If you don't want to feel your partner is entitled to sex, why even get married? Marriage is a partnership. "I don't want to" is kind of a valid reason, but your marriage won't ever succeed with an attitude like that. By continuously refusing physical intimacy, you are betraying your spouse and your vows. You are rejecting the person who pledged to spend the rest of their life with you.

If you just had a baby or otherwise don't feel up to it right then, it's understandable. To deprive your spouse for long periods of time just because you don't feel like it is wrong. If my guy told me to get over it and deal when I asked him for financial contributions, help with child rearing, or general life stuff, I'd be over than shit quickly. Marriage is a pledge. Part of that pledge is physical and emotional intimacy.

If you don't simply want to make your partner feel loved and wanted, then your selfishness is going to ruin your marriage.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 22:27     Subject: Re:Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If marriage doesn't entitle a man to sex, remind me why any man would agree to it?

If I gotta work for it anyway, might as well sleep around and avoid any chance of getting screwed in a divorce.


Enjoy dying alone.


Is that something to be afraid of?


Yes.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 22:23     Subject: Re:Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If marriage doesn't entitle a man to sex, remind me why any man would agree to it?

If I gotta work for it anyway, might as well sleep around and avoid any chance of getting screwed in a divorce.


Enjoy dying alone.


Enjoy living alone.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 21:05     Subject: Re:Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If marriage doesn't entitle a man to sex, remind me why any man would agree to it?

If I gotta work for it anyway, might as well sleep around and avoid any chance of getting screwed in a divorce.


Enjoy dying alone.


Is that something to be afraid of?
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 21:05     Subject: Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Has OP commented once?
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 21:04     Subject: Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a young woman, I don't get it. Like did you get married solely thinking you would get laid regularly? Cause that just seems so... dumb. Messed up. Awful.

Then they put pressure on their wives, who dont feel like having sex, and try to coerce or pressure them into it. Why? Because the dude wants to have sex.

I see so much outrage about Brock Turner and no one seems to be talking about this different aspect of rape culture which is that husbands are entitled to their wives bodies? When they want it?

And it's so bizarre to me. Like.... how is this a thing? In today's modern world?

Women are still expected to lie back and think of England? For reals?


Men are entitled too it because sex is a basic need, like eating and sleeping. Marriage is a contract. Included in the contract is a pledge to have sex regularly.


you do know sex is not a basic need, right?


It is for normally functioning adults. I realize deviancy exists, but an adult to not consider sex to be a basic human need is not normal.


People cannot live without food, water, or oxygen. Many, many people in the world live without sex.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 20:56     Subject: Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Anonymous wrote:Why do men "give" women orgasms, but women don't "give" men orgasms? Do women have any control over their lives?


You are doing it wrong if your woman is not giving you an O.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 20:55     Subject: Re:Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If marriage doesn't entitle a man to sex, remind me why any man would agree to it?

If I gotta work for it anyway, might as well sleep around and avoid any chance of getting screwed in a divorce.


Enjoy dying alone.


We all die alone.


No. My best friend H just died with family and friends there to care for him ... He was sick for 5 years, tons of family and friends helped care for him and he died surrounded by friends and family.

My uncle, who was divorced and lived "the awesome single life", lived in nursing home for the last 3 years of his life and nobody by his side.

You have to earn community.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 20:50     Subject: Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Why do men "give" women orgasms, but women don't "give" men orgasms? Do women have any control over their lives?
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 20:10     Subject: Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a young woman, I don't get it. Like did you get married solely thinking you would get laid regularly? Cause that just seems so... dumb. Messed up. Awful.

Then they put pressure on their wives, who dont feel like having sex, and try to coerce or pressure them into it. Why? Because the dude wants to have sex.

I see so much outrage about Brock Turner and no one seems to be talking about this different aspect of rape culture which is that husbands are entitled to their wives bodies? When they want it?

And it's so bizarre to me. Like.... how is this a thing? In today's modern world?

Women are still expected to lie back and think of England? For reals?


Men are entitled too it because sex is a basic need, like eating and sleeping. Marriage is a contract. Included in the contract is a pledge to have sex regularly.


you do know sex is not a basic need, right?


Maybe for YOU it isnt but orgasms make a body feel good and I need them regularly.

-- signed woman who loves sex


And you do know you can have an Orgasm WITHOUT having "sex" with your husband? As can he?


If getting off alone is better for you than with your partner, then he sucks at sex.


Not really. Most women can't get off through vaginal intercourse.


That statistic is for vaginal intercourse absent any other form of stimulation such as hands and tongue. If your partner is capable of stimulating you only through vaginal intercourse, then yes, he sucks at sex (or you suck at communicating with him about your sexual needs).
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 19:57     Subject: Re:Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If marriage doesn't entitle a man to sex, remind me why any man would agree to it?

If I gotta work for it anyway, might as well sleep around and avoid any chance of getting screwed in a divorce.


Enjoy dying alone.


We all die alone.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 19:55     Subject: Re:Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Anonymous wrote:If marriage doesn't entitle a man to sex, remind me why any man would agree to it?

If I gotta work for it anyway, might as well sleep around and avoid any chance of getting screwed in a divorce.


Enjoy dying alone.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 19:53     Subject: Re:Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

If marriage doesn't entitle a man to sex, remind me why any man would agree to it?

If I gotta work for it anyway, might as well sleep around and avoid any chance of getting screwed in a divorce.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2016 19:10     Subject: Re:Why do so many men feel entitled to sex within a marriage?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

So many people go without sex for various reasons... Deployed, illness, etc... It's not a basic need.


LOL if you think people on deployment don't have sex you reeeeeaaaaally don't know much about the military.


Some do... Some don't ... Both can function.

If you think 3 months without water is the same as 3 months without sex, you're ignorant.

I guess you think it's okay for all the spouses of deployed military to get free hall passes? It's Not!


A military relationship is so much different some in the same household for three months with no expectation of sex with SO.


Living in the same house is not changing your biological need.


Its imperative to procreation sounds like a humans need it.