Anonymous
Post 05/17/2016 17:36     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
Personally, no. I know of one transgender coworker of my DH.

I have a couple of lesbian friends who like to dress in a masculine way, but they identify as female.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2016 17:33     Subject: Re:Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
Anonymous wrote:I work with kids, and yes, I've been exposed directly or indirectly to kids struggling with gender for many years. This is where we realize it's not a mental illness or a social construct. It's a real thing- and it doesn't look like Kaitlyn Jenner or drag queens, it's a bone fide development that starts very early with children who are dealing with gender identity. It's not as if they are rebelling at 13 or 16, it's something that's been in play since they were toddlers. Their parents have a really hard job in deciding what to do about hormone suppression at about 11 or 12 as well as dealing with their own emotions. It's not the schools job to decide what is correct regarding bathrooms. If the family is on board with this kid transitioning, it's not anybody's right to make decisions to supercede the familys decision for what this kid does in school because most of us HAVE NO IDEA of the thought process and trajectory that went into this. If people have a problem with it, I say educate yourself and make an effort to understand. If you can't, MYOB.


Thank you above poster for your thoughtful contribution to this thread.
Parent


Anonymous
Post 05/17/2016 17:19     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
Anonymous wrote:I'm curious about being transgender. Are they gay/lesbian also? Or does a man that transitions to a woman still prefer to date women?


Some are, some are not. Being trans and being gay or lesbian are not directly linked. Gender identity is who you (general you) are; sexual orientation is about who you are attracted to for dating/intimacy purposes.

Some MTF trans people (designated male at birth but their gender identity is female) prefer to date women, while others may be heterosexual, bisexual, or asexual, just like different cisgender (not trans, or in other words designated gender at birth matches gender identity) people could have any of those orientations.

Anonymous
Post 05/17/2016 16:47     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
So, to re-cap, they can't go to the bathroom? Not anywhere?
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2016 16:46     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
I'm curious about being transgender. Are they gay/lesbian also? Or does a man that transitions to a woman still prefer to date women?
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2016 16:41     Subject: Re:Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
I work with kids, and yes, I've been exposed directly or indirectly to kids struggling with gender for many years. This is where we realize it's not a mental illness or a social construct. It's a real thing- and it doesn't look like Kaitlyn Jenner or drag queens, it's a bone fide development that starts very early with children who are dealing with gender identity. It's not as if they are rebelling at 13 or 16, it's something that's been in play since they were toddlers. Their parents have a really hard job in deciding what to do about hormone suppression at about 11 or 12 as well as dealing with their own emotions. It's not the schools job to decide what is correct regarding bathrooms. If the family is on board with this kid transitioning, it's not anybody's right to make decisions to supercede the familys decision for what this kid does in school because most of us HAVE NO IDEA of the thought process and trajectory that went into this. If people have a problem with it, I say educate yourself and make an effort to understand. If you can't, MYOB.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2016 16:05     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
I know no one whom is trans-gender. I feel like a loser!
Also, and this is clearly NOT meant to inflame the crowd, where do the ACTUAL transgender prefer to go to the bathroom. I think every single person speaking on the topic, is NOT transgender. SO??
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2016 08:22     Subject: Re:Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
Yes, one is very close and then a few who are acquaintances.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2016 07:26     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes. But most of them you would never, ever know.


This just is not true. I have zero issue with trans*people and know quite a few so don't call me a bigot. This whole "you probably would never know" business though is just false.


Disagree. I know trans people and yes, some you could guess, some you could not. In my experience, seems to be how long the person has been using hormones. I have a friend who is a public school teacher (not DC) and no one knows. If you met this person, you'd never suspect.


Until they speak.

The voice never lies.


Last year, my spouse and I visited the city this friend lives in and they met for the first time. Spouse had heard about my friend but never saw/ met him, and said after, "wow, if you didn't know, you wouldn't know." I'm telling you, you would never know, voice included (though I agree voice can be a giveaway).
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2016 00:01     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes. But most of them you would never, ever know.


This just is not true. I have zero issue with trans*people and know quite a few so don't call me a bigot. This whole "you probably would never know" business though is just false.


Disagree. I know trans people and yes, some you could guess, some you could not. In my experience, seems to be how long the person has been using hormones. I have a friend who is a public school teacher (not DC) and no one knows. If you met this person, you'd never suspect.


Until they speak.

The voice never lies.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2016 23:58     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
2. One very close friend, and one acquaintance from college.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2016 20:36     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
Yes, 2. One transitioned from female to male during college. I think the people who don't know may have some suspicion, but only because he is 5'0 and only about 115 pounds.

Have another friend who is in the process of transitioning from male to female. It's fairly obvious she's in transitioning.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2016 20:23     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
Yes, very good friend. Knew him/her before/after. Same person, just looks different. Very close, dear friend who worried I would desert her after she changed gender. Why would I do that? I'd lose a great friend!!
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2016 20:22     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes. But most of them you would never, ever know.


This just is not true. I have zero issue with trans*people and know quite a few so don't call me a bigot. This whole "you probably would never know" business though is just false.


Disagree. I know trans people and yes, some you could guess, some you could not. In my experience, seems to be how long the person has been using hormones. I have a friend who is a public school teacher (not DC) and no one knows. If you met this person, you'd never suspect.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2016 13:27     Subject: Serious question: Does anyone actually know a trans gender person?
Did we need more traffic on the LGBTQ forum, so this got move out of the MoCo public school forum?