Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is such an odd thread. OP, if your expenses are so minimal (no mortgage or other debt, no private school tuition or childcare, etc.), how are you possibly spending 20% of your DH's 7-figure income each year (and what are you spending $10k a month on)?
Also, I don't get the whole "if you're working, you do what you want with your money." DH and I both work and I would never think that my income is for my own personal use- as several PPs have said, all of our income is family income. I don't think being a SAHM matters at all. I am totally with your DH- I would be really annoyed if my DH (whether he worked or not) insisted on giving money away to his family (and, particularly, demanded that we give more, even after we already supported them). You are basically choosing your family of origin over your own children- very strange.
We are mostly on the same page and have an overall good marriage. If I asked for a brand new $120k Range Rover or $200k Aston Martin, DH would probably get me one. I don't have a Hermes bag but he would gladly buy me a 10k bag. As I mentioned multiple times already, I did not mention my family to DH yesterday. I have not mentioned buying my brother a car. Maybe I will ask him and he will simply say yes. The allocated fund per month was just a fleeting thought.
Anonymous wrote:I don't buy the OP's husband makes high six figures, but how do you allow a family member with a disability to live with other people? That seems odd to me.
I think a few people got it right earlier, there is fraud going on here with the brother. Also, the OP says if she wanted a very nice car, her husband would buy it without question. That is downright ridiculous. I think the OP started asking for small things and built up and now knows she can get away with anything she wants.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think you are already swimming in the money you have gotten. I'm a SAHM and I get like an iota of what you get, and I have no idea where the money we're supposedly saving is going. I too am afraid to ask for more, but I think you have it pretty good.
This thread totally started wrong. I should not have mentioned our HHI or my disabled brother. What I wanted to know was whether SAHMs received money from their DH since SAHMs don't earn an income. I was hoping some SAHMs woupld chime in and say their DH put $X into their retirement account or receive $Y per month to use as they please (mani/pedi, gifts, going out).
I started the conversation with DH last night. Did not mention my family at all. Think DH suspects I want to be able to spend money on that childhood friend. If I wanted to go on a girlfriend getaway to Europe with a friend, DH would have no problem with it. If I was willing to stay at a 4 star hotel instead of a 5 star hotel but pay for my friend's plane ticket, I want to be able to have that option. I would rather have a budget per month or year to do as I please.
Anonymous wrote:This is such an odd thread. OP, if your expenses are so minimal (no mortgage or other debt, no private school tuition or childcare, etc.), how are you possibly spending 20% of your DH's 7-figure income each year (and what are you spending $10k a month on)?
Also, I don't get the whole "if you're working, you do what you want with your money." DH and I both work and I would never think that my income is for my own personal use- as several PPs have said, all of our income is family income. I don't think being a SAHM matters at all. I am totally with your DH- I would be really annoyed if my DH (whether he worked or not) insisted on giving money away to his family (and, particularly, demanded that we give more, even after we already supported them). You are basically choosing your family of origin over your own children- very strange.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think you are already swimming in the money you have gotten. I'm a SAHM and I get like an iota of what you get, and I have no idea where the money we're supposedly saving is going. I too am afraid to ask for more, but I think you have it pretty good.
This thread totally started wrong. I should not have mentioned our HHI or my disabled brother. What I wanted to know was whether SAHMs received money from their DH since SAHMs don't earn an income. I was hoping some SAHMs woupld chime in and say their DH put $X into their retirement account or receive $Y per month to use as they please (mani/pedi, gifts, going out).
I started the conversation with DH last night. Did not mention my family at all. Think DH suspects I want to be able to spend money on that childhood friend. If I wanted to go on a girlfriend getaway to Europe with a friend, DH would have no problem with it. If I was willing to stay at a 4 star hotel instead of a 5 star hotel but pay for my friend's plane ticket, I want to be able to have that option. I would rather have a budget per month or year to do as I please.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think you are already swimming in the money you have gotten. I'm a SAHM and I get like an iota of what you get, and I have no idea where the money we're supposedly saving is going. I too am afraid to ask for more, but I think you have it pretty good.
This thread totally started wrong. I should not have mentioned our HHI or my disabled brother. What I wanted to know was whether SAHMs received money from their DH since SAHMs don't earn an income. I was hoping some SAHMs woupld chime in and say their DH put $X into their retirement account or receive $Y per month to use as they please (mani/pedi, gifts, going out).
I started the conversation with DH last night. Did not mention my family at all. Think DH suspects I want to be able to spend money on that childhood friend. If I wanted to go on a girlfriend getaway to Europe with a friend, DH would have no problem with it. If I was willing to stay at a 4 star hotel instead of a 5 star hotel but pay for my friend's plane ticket, I want to be able to have that option. I would rather have a budget per month or year to do as I please.
Anonymous wrote:I think you are already swimming in the money you have gotten. I'm a SAHM and I get like an iota of what you get, and I have no idea where the money we're supposedly saving is going. I too am afraid to ask for more, but I think you have it pretty good.