Anonymous wrote:OP, sorry for all the completely rude and attacking responses you have received. I'm still giving you the benefit of the doubt and going with my initial impression, which is that you are well-intentioned. If you read through the thread and screen out the haters, there is some really good advice. Think it through and decide what you think might work. And then just be patient - a lot of women are telling you things will return to normal.

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Anonymous wrote:Lack of sex starting to cause issues/fights?

More like too many unattractive, bad habits to want to have sex w/you.

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Poor wife, she finally has the child she wants but stuck with this problem. He has 2 hands and should leave her alone.

[slow clap] -- You didn't read the part where DW was the one who was mad because OP didn't want to have sex with her?

You must not read the parts where OP continuously changes his story, deflects, and gets extremely angry when posters call him out?

Example of this continuously changing story. And maybe a quote that shows his extreme anger? I've read pretty closely, and his account has held together pretty well. I've noticed some exasperation with posters who chastised him for doing things he had already said he was not doing or for not doing things he had already said he was doing.

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Anonymous wrote:Lack of sex starting to cause issues/fights?

More like too many unattractive, bad habits to want to have sex w/you.

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Poor wife, she finally has the child she wants but stuck with this problem. He has 2 hands and should leave her alone.

+2.

I find the lack of self awareness on his part particularly amusing.

He certainly didn't major in psychology did he....

Why the ellipses? Did you get attacked by a bear? Hope you escape and are able to finish your thought.

Do you not understand how ellipses work? You really thought it was notable that someone used them?

I do understand how ellipses work. It's a series of dots that indicates omission of a word, sentence, or section from a text. Just wondering what the missing text was and what caused PP to trail off like that.

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Anonymous wrote:Lack of sex starting to cause issues/fights?

More like too many unattractive, bad habits to want to have sex w/you.

#1
Poor wife, she finally has the child she wants but stuck with this problem. He has 2 hands and should leave her alone.

+2.

I find the lack of self awareness on his part particularly amusing.

He certainly didn't major in psychology did he....

Why the ellipses? Did you get attacked by a bear? Hope you escape and are able to finish your thought.

Do you not understand how ellipses work? You really thought it was notable that someone used them?

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Anonymous wrote:Lack of sex starting to cause issues/fights?

More like too many unattractive, bad habits to want to have sex w/you.

#1
Poor wife, she finally has the child she wants but stuck with this problem. He has 2 hands and should leave her alone.

[slow clap] -- You didn't read the part where DW was the one who was mad because OP didn't want to have sex with her?

You must not read the parts where OP continuously changes his story, deflects, and gets extremely angry when posters call him out?

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Anonymous wrote:If the problem is really that your wife is unhappy and anxious and fighty, why would you say "main problem is our sex life is dead"?

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Anonymous wrote:Lack of sex starting to cause issues/fights?

More like too many unattractive, bad habits to want to have sex w/you.

#1
Poor wife, she finally has the child she wants but stuck with this problem. He has 2 hands and should leave her alone.

+2.

I find the lack of self awareness on his part particularly amusing.

He certainly didn't major in psychology did he....

Why the ellipses? Did you get attacked by a bear? Hope you escape and are able to finish your thought.

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Anonymous wrote:Lack of sex starting to cause issues/fights?

More like too many unattractive, bad habits to want to have sex w/you.

#1
Poor wife, she finally has the child she wants but stuck with this problem. He has 2 hands and should leave her alone.

+2.

I find the lack of self awareness on his part particularly amusing.

He certainly didn't major in psychology did he....

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Anonymous wrote:Lack of sex starting to cause issues/fights?

More like too many unattractive, bad habits to want to have sex w/you.

#1
Poor wife, she finally has the child she wants but stuck with this problem. He has 2 hands and should leave her alone.

+2.

I find the lack of self awareness on his part particularly amusing.

Anonymous wrote:If the problem is really that your wife is unhappy and anxious and fighty, why would you say "main problem is our sex life is dead"?

Anonymous wrote:If the problem is really that your wife is unhappy and anxious and fighty, why would you say "main problem is our sex life is dead"?

Anonymous wrote:Doesn't matter what the issue is, cheaters will make any excuse to justify their behavior. They are basically abusers, always blame the victim. Cheating excuses I've heard: He doesn't help around the house, she doesn't give me sex, he put his kids and mil first. On and on it goes. No excuse, and if a spouse cheats you should promptly get a lawyer, and get tested.

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Anonymous wrote:Is she still breastfeeding, OP? I know the bf'ing zealots will swoop down to scream at me that bf'ing, in addition to it's innumerable other wonders, is The Biggest Aphrodisiac EVER! But in my experience, it was just not so. With both of my kids, sex was painful until I weaned (something to do with estrogen levels and natural lubrication). I just also did not feel like sex at ALL, EVER, and I'm very healthy gal with a very cute husband. I never had a minute of low drive until I was postpartum. It's a long, tough process getting back to normal, which you already know, and that weight is hard to lose. Have an honest conversation with her, maybe ask her to see her OB/GYN, and maybe also couples therapy if things don't improve once she's weaned and once her dieting efforts start to pay off. I've been there. It just takes time and weight loss. I'm sorry I have no magic bullet.

+1. Breastfeeding killed it for me too. It was just too much for my body to have sex, on top of doing the work of lactation, and the time-suck of breastfeeding. And it was hard to exercise because I couldn't find a comfortable sports bra.

At 8 months, the baby should be getting on to more solid food, maybe that will help a bit.

BF has been over for a few months.

And, broken record here: I really am OK with us not having sex. I'm not the person bringing up trying to have sex. I do marvel at the ability of strangers to read my mind over teh webs.