As a daughter of parents with a 10-year age difference, I vote against it, on the advice of my mother. She says it ages the woman prematurely and she has to live on the timeline of her older spouse. She's still very sprightly at 75, but my dad is seriously frail at 85. I would think it gets even worse with a larger age gap.

Younger women and older men may get along famously but it is a very bad deal for the woman. Men age and sicken faster; an older man will age and sicken so much faster that a younger woman may find herself playing nurse when her age peers are still leading an active, peppy life.

As for me, I got along very well with older men in my twenties, and happened to fall in love with one 24 years my senior. We were engaged. After five happy years together he got cancer and died. It screwed me up for a good couple of years. And I think standing over my fiance's coffin was not an experience I needed at 29. Since then, I still find older men attractive but I know they are a bad deal, so I said never again. Married someone seven years older and that was my limit.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it's mean but I tend to really look down on women in their 20s who have to marry men in their mid30s or 40s (let alone above that). I generally think men that age are pretty desperate for young female attention. Roping one in is about as easy as catching a sloth. On the other hand I really respect women, regardless of age, who manage to catch the young, hot, and intelligent guys. Those are the trophies, in my book.

Your book sounds quite judgmental and nasty. No desire no read it.

Whatever your age, go get a life.

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You "really look down" on a woman, who in her 20s, marries a 30-something man? Give me a break.

+2 Seriously.. I'm 29 and my husband is 35. What's wrong with this age difference? I don't get your point.

IMO, that's barely an age difference.

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Anonymous wrote:I noticed when in my 20s that I would often see rich, 40+ men with women in their 20s that the average 20yo guy would not find all that attractive.

After my divorce in my late 30s I had a six month relationship with a grad student, so it's possible her peers would have thought the same thing about us.

Yep.

The older men usually have to settle for the girls who's bodies arent that great and particularly faces are off.

And the young girl is just excited to be getting attention since she doesnt usually get it from men her age, who are chasing after the prom queen types

Women like you give women a bad name. Feeling disappointed in your average lumpy middling wage earner of a husband and middle aged spread and feeling the need to take it out on anonymous straw man 20 year old girls. Nice.

LOL. Guess again. I'm much closer to 20 than to middle age- MUCH.

So you're prematurely bitter and hateful without even a lifetime of disappointment behind you? Good luck with that!

Bahaha. Anyone who has any opinions about someone else is "bitter"? Mmmm okay. Sounds like you are really reaching there, buddy...

I'm a woman. Yes, anyone who would say things I've seen in this thread like "young girls HAVE to marry older men because _____" and your comments saying younger girls only marry older when they're ugly and desperate for the attention are BITTER. Maybe you aren't married and wish you were. Maybe YOU don't get attention from men and have to make yourself feel better by saying it's just because you're too good looking. I don't know. But the misogyny in this thread is disgusting. People marry who they want for their own reasons, not because they're ugly or desperate or "third string." Women talking so derogatorily about other women who are doing nothing but leading their own lives - it's nasty.

I'm guessing that there is a large percentage of people who regularly frequent online forums for their only outlet because they are lonely, insecure and ugly on the inside and crap like this is in the forefront of their brains.

Don't give it much thought.

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Anonymous wrote:I noticed when in my 20s that I would often see rich, 40+ men with women in their 20s that the average 20yo guy would not find all that attractive.

After my divorce in my late 30s I had a six month relationship with a grad student, so it's possible her peers would have thought the same thing about us.

Yep.

The older men usually have to settle for the girls who's bodies arent that great and particularly faces are off.

And the young girl is just excited to be getting attention since she doesnt usually get it from men her age, who are chasing after the prom queen types

Women like you give women a bad name. Feeling disappointed in your average lumpy middling wage earner of a husband and middle aged spread and feeling the need to take it out on anonymous straw man 20 year old girls. Nice.

LOL. Guess again. I'm much closer to 20 than to middle age- MUCH.

So you're prematurely bitter and hateful without even a lifetime of disappointment behind you? Good luck with that!

Bahaha. Anyone who has any opinions about someone else is "bitter"? Mmmm okay. Sounds like you are really reaching there, buddy...

I'm a woman. Yes, anyone who would say things I've seen in this thread like "young girls HAVE to marry older men because _____" and your comments saying younger girls only marry older when they're ugly and desperate for the attention are BITTER. Maybe you aren't married and wish you were. Maybe YOU don't get attention from men and have to make yourself feel better by saying it's just because you're too good looking. I don't know. But the misogyny in this thread is disgusting. People marry who they want for their own reasons, not because they're ugly or desperate or "third string." Women talking so derogatorily about other women who are doing nothing but leading their own lives - it's nasty.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it's mean but I tend to really look down on women in their 20s who have to marry men in their mid30s or 40s (let alone above that). I generally think men that age are pretty desperate for young female attention. Roping one in is about as easy as catching a sloth. On the other hand I really respect women, regardless of age, who manage to catch the young, hot, and intelligent guys. Those are the trophies, in my book.

Your book sounds quite judgmental and nasty. No desire no read it.

Whatever your age, go get a life.

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You "really look down" on a woman, who in her 20s, marries a 30-something man? Give me a break.

+2 Seriously.. I'm 29 and my husband is 35. What's wrong with this age difference? I don't get your point.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm mid 30s, balding though otherwise attractive, not super rich, and still get decent attention from women in their mid and late 20s.

Are you mad? Don't be. Don't be mad.

Bald AND middle aged and broke?


Excuse me if I don't quite believe the ladies are lining up for you I think you have confused real life with a wet dream you had...

Whenever I read those kinds of claims, I wonder if these men are mistaking their 20-something secretaries asking how their weekend was or the 20-something barista smiling when she hands him his coffee as sexual interest.

I'm fairly certain that's what it is. Studies have shown men tend to vastly overrate sexual interest.

I once nodded at this guy in a supermarket and he flirtatiously smiled and said "Why are you following me?" I was like "Huh?" and walked away fast. I thought hard and realized I had passed the guy a couple aisles back. Somehow he had turned it in his mind into I was following him all over the store, apparently due to the sexual attraction I felt towards an obese man who had to be about 40 and had children with him

Men are interesting creatures.

I waitressed for a few years in college, and flirted with pretty much every guy who came in, no matter how unattractive. The difference in the tips was staggering. I wonder how many of them didn't realize it was just part of the job, and really thought I was into them.

I'm sure many of them. It's why they have to have really intense security at strip clubs. Men are constantly falling in love with the strippers, thinking that their flirting is a genuine expression of love. It really makes you wonder how men even get by in this world, with that kind of gullibility...

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Anonymous wrote:I'm mid 30s, balding though otherwise attractive, not super rich, and still get decent attention from women in their mid and late 20s.

Are you mad? Don't be. Don't be mad.

Bald AND middle aged and broke?


Excuse me if I don't quite believe the ladies are lining up for you I think you have confused real life with a wet dream you had...

Whenever I read those kinds of claims, I wonder if these men are mistaking their 20-something secretaries asking how their weekend was or the 20-something barista smiling when she hands him his coffee as sexual interest.

I'm fairly certain that's what it is. Studies have shown men tend to vastly overrate sexual interest.

I once nodded at this guy in a supermarket and he flirtatiously smiled and said "Why are you following me?" I was like "Huh?" and walked away fast. I thought hard and realized I had passed the guy a couple aisles back. Somehow he had turned it in his mind into I was following him all over the store, apparently due to the sexual attraction I felt towards an obese man who had to be about 40 and had children with him

Men are interesting creatures.

I waitressed for a few years in college, and flirted with pretty much every guy who came in, no matter how unattractive. The difference in the tips was staggering. I wonder how many of them didn't realize it was just part of the job, and really thought I was into them.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm mid 30s, balding though otherwise attractive, not super rich, and still get decent attention from women in their mid and late 20s.

Are you mad? Don't be. Don't be mad.

Bald AND middle aged and broke?


Excuse me if I don't quite believe the ladies are lining up for you I think you have confused real life with a wet dream you had...

Whenever I read those kinds of claims, I wonder if these men are mistaking their 20-something secretaries asking how their weekend was or the 20-something barista smiling when she hands him his coffee as sexual interest.

I'm fairly certain that's what it is. Studies have shown men tend to vastly overrate sexual interest.

I once nodded at this guy in a supermarket and he flirtatiously smiled and said "Why are you following me?" I was like "Huh?" and walked away fast. I thought hard and realized I had passed the guy a couple aisles back. Somehow he had turned it in his mind into I was following him all over the store, apparently due to the sexual attraction I felt towards an obese man who had to be about 40 and had children with him

Men are interesting creatures.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm mid 30s, balding though otherwise attractive, not super rich, and still get decent attention from women in their mid and late 20s.

Are you mad? Don't be. Don't be mad.

Bald AND middle aged and broke?


Excuse me if I don't quite believe the ladies are lining up for you I think you have confused real life with a wet dream you had...

Whenever I read those kinds of claims, I wonder if these men are mistaking their 20-something secretaries asking how their weekend was or the 20-something barista smiling when she hands him his coffee as sexual interest.

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Anonymous wrote:I noticed when in my 20s that I would often see rich, 40+ men with women in their 20s that the average 20yo guy would not find all that attractive.

After my divorce in my late 30s I had a six month relationship with a grad student, so it's possible her peers would have thought the same thing about us.

Yep.

The older men usually have to settle for the girls who's bodies arent that great and particularly faces are off.

And the young girl is just excited to be getting attention since she doesnt usually get it from men her age, who are chasing after the prom queen types

Women like you give women a bad name. Feeling disappointed in your average lumpy middling wage earner of a husband and middle aged spread and feeling the need to take it out on anonymous straw man 20 year old girls. Nice.

LOL. Guess again. I'm much closer to 20 than to middle age- MUCH.

So you're prematurely bitter and hateful without even a lifetime of disappointment behind you? Good luck with that!

Bahaha. Anyone who has any opinions about someone else is "bitter"? Mmmm okay. Sounds like you are really reaching there, buddy...

Anonymous wrote:I'm 42 and am dating. I'm fit, have all my hair, and have reasonable fashion sense and interpersonal skills. So far, women in their mid-twenties don't seem to have issues dating older guys although they don't seem to want anything serious either. Ultimately, I'd like to be in a relationship and I suspect I'm more likely to find that with someone nearer my age. I will say this, sex with the younger generation of women is very different. They grew up in the age of internet pron and their standards for what's normal in the bedroom reflect that.

Interesting, can you elaborate on the porn expectations thing, or link to a thread about it, seeing as it's off topic? Actually now that I think about it, maybe it's on topic!

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Anonymous wrote:I noticed when in my 20s that I would often see rich, 40+ men with women in their 20s that the average 20yo guy would not find all that attractive.

After my divorce in my late 30s I had a six month relationship with a grad student, so it's possible her peers would have thought the same thing about us.

Yep.

The older men usually have to settle for the girls who's bodies arent that great and particularly faces are off.

And the young girl is just excited to be getting attention since she doesnt usually get it from men her age, who are chasing after the prom queen types

Women like you give women a bad name. Feeling disappointed in your average lumpy middling wage earner of a husband and middle aged spread and feeling the need to take it out on anonymous straw man 20 year old girls. Nice.

LOL. Guess again. I'm much closer to 20 than to middle age- MUCH.

So you're prematurely bitter and hateful without even a lifetime of disappointment behind you? Good luck with that!

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid 30s, balding though otherwise attractive, not super rich, and still get decent attention from women in their mid and late 20s.

Are you mad? Don't be. Don't be mad.

Bald AND middle aged and broke?


Excuse me if I don't quite believe the ladies are lining up for you I think you have confused real life with a wet dream you had...

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid 30s, balding though otherwise attractive, not super rich, and still get decent attention from women in their mid and late 20s.

Are you mad? Don't be. Don't be mad.

No one cares, bro.

I'm mid 30s, balding though otherwise attractive, not super rich, and still get decent attention from women in their mid and late 20s.

Are you mad? Don't be. Don't be mad.