Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 22:47     Subject: Re:What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think we should trust the poster and not judge her. It may be that this girl was not that grief stricken and just thoughtless all the time. Anyhow let's all give it a rest.
nope. Poster is hateful and you are callous to assume the girl with dead mother wasn't grieving and op gets a oasis on insensitivity and self-absorption. In any event, maybe the girl loved the candle so much that she bought one like it as a gift.


This girl was back in her dorm room and I assume going to class and functioning. She chose to celebrate Secret Santa and opted to give a thoughtless regift instead of putting in a thoughtful effort. Yes, her grief was understandable but grief does not give you the excuse to kill other people's joy (you never know what they might be struggling with or what depressing thing they are dealing with). The world does not revolve around you.
It was a candle. Get over it.


No it was not just a candle. It was THE very candle that the recipient's roommate had given. Awkward. But, yes, it was just Secret Santa and I am sure that all parties have "gotten over it". Doesn't mean that it has been entirely forgotten though.

Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 22:44     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
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Anonymous wrote:I haven't read through, but DH's ex-wife gave my minor-aged stepson a six-pack of beer in a brown paper bag to give to my DH for father's day. I thought that was pretty thoughtless, especially considering we take the time to get her something nice (and non-alcohol related) for Mother's Day.


I wouldn't mind at all getting beer or wine as a gift.

And to all of you people who don't drink, just pass it along at the next party you go to. It's like universal party currency.


I once gave several bottles of well rated wine with a cute not too technical wine tasting how to book (as in how to identify the various flavors you are tasting when tasting wine). The person seemed to really like that gift. I would have liked that gift.

I've also given bottles of people's favorite wine and liquor. How could they dislike that?

I wouldn't give alcohol to someone unless I knew that they drank alcohol though.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 22:44     Subject: Re:What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Best gift - my kids. Beautiful, healthy, creative

Worst gift - the year my ex h "forgot" to get me anything for Christmas (I did my own stocking and the kids, who were little, made me stuff at school), and he also "forgot" my birthday. Nada, nothing. I was really hurt. I would've loved a homemade card, or a book, or just a sincere acknowledgement that I meant something to him.

His thoughtlessness was one of the many reasons he's my ex.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 22:37     Subject: Re:What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
My ex managed to locate one of my yearbooks from my senior year in high school. When we moved cross-country, we both lost everything when the moving truck caught fire. His Mom was a junior high administrator with my HS principal's wife and found one when they were several years out of print.

I've received plenty of gifts that were the norm for random gift exchanges, but I can't say anything was truly thoughtless.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 15:15     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Dh bought me five outfits, each with a separate pair of shoes and matching jewlry, and 5 purses. I loved this gift.

The worst would be the ring he gave me in college that he apparently stole from his mother in high school to give an ex girlfriend. He admitted the ring was a re-gift from an ex but didn't know it was from his mom until my MIL noticed the long missing ring and outed him. She did let me keep it though.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 14:55     Subject: Re:What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
A friend inviting my DC to go on vacation with her and her boys. Very thoughtful and my son had a great time. I don't place a value on *things*.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 14:52     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I haven't read through, but DH's ex-wife gave my minor-aged stepson a six-pack of beer in a brown paper bag to give to my DH for father's day. I thought that was pretty thoughtless, especially considering we take the time to get her something nice (and non-alcohol related) for Mother's Day.


I wouldn't mind at all getting beer or wine as a gift.

And to all of you people who don't drink, just pass it along at the next party you go to. It's like universal party currency.


Yup, pay it forward.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 14:39     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:I haven't read through, but DH's ex-wife gave my minor-aged stepson a six-pack of beer in a brown paper bag to give to my DH for father's day. I thought that was pretty thoughtless, especially considering we take the time to get her something nice (and non-alcohol related) for Mother's Day.


I wouldn't mind at all getting beer or wine as a gift.

And to all of you people who don't drink, just pass it along at the next party you go to. It's like universal party currency.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 14:36     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My sister says the most thoughtful gift I gave her was a portrait painting of her beloved orange tabby. He died a few weeks later and she has this wonderful reminder


That's not thoughtful. The painting obv stole the cat's soul and then it died. You killed the cat. YOU KILLED THE CAT!


LOL, the cat weas already 20 years old and had renal failure.. I did not hasten anything...
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 11:44     Subject: What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
I haven't read through, but DH's ex-wife gave my minor-aged stepson a six-pack of beer in a brown paper bag to give to my DH for father's day. I thought that was pretty thoughtless, especially considering we take the time to get her something nice (and non-alcohol related) for Mother's Day.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2015 11:11     Subject: Re:What is the most thoughtful gift you ever received? the most thoughtless?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think we should trust the poster and not judge her. It may be that this girl was not that grief stricken and just thoughtless all the time. Anyhow let's all give it a rest.
nope. Poster is hateful and you are callous to assume the girl with dead mother wasn't grieving and op gets a oasis on insensitivity and self-absorption. In any event, maybe the girl loved the candle so much that she bought one like it as a gift.


This girl was back in her dorm room and I assume going to class and functioning. She chose to celebrate Secret Santa and opted to give a thoughtless regift instead of putting in a thoughtful effort. Yes, her grief was understandable but grief does not give you the excuse to kill other people's joy (you never know what they might be struggling with or what depressing thing they are dealing with). The world does not revolve around you.
It was a candle. Get over it.