Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 09:25     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:People who are that obsessed with coffee or cocktail hour, who neeeeeed them noww, are addicts. It's annoying for those of us who can enjoy these things casually and in a laid-back manner.


Absolutely. Drive yourself to starbucks first thing and stop being obsessed. Or be quietly obsessed at Starbucks.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 09:12     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
MIL needs something that I don't have, she'll buy them in multiples - 7 spatulas. I had 1.

All the kitchen stuff she buys for me and I don't really want, she counts on to be available next visit. So problem solved: I have a "MIL box" that gets brought up from the basement. But it's rude if it's obvious the items are separated - but I don't have room for all to clutter up the kitchen.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 09:00     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
When you are a guest in someone else's home, especially if they have kids or are off to work, need to go with the flow of the household they are visiting.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 08:57     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
People who are that obsessed with coffee or cocktail hour, who neeeeeed them noww, are addicts. It's annoying for those of us who can enjoy these things casually and in a laid-back manner.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 08:43     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I know it's not the same, but my peeve is guests who have to have COFFEE OMG coffee first thing. I drink coffee. It's made by 7 am at the latest. But my priority is getting up with my daughter and getting her needs met. My parents and in-laws are practically chomping at the bit. If I don't set it up the night before, my dad rattles around at 5:45 making it. At least he's clean about it. My MIL will get grounds and water everywhere. With my ILs, I make a full pot, have one small cup myself, and they want another full pot.

It's just like...calm down. When I'm a guest in someone else's home, I drink a cup if there is a pot, when it is made, and I don't go sniffing around for it.


"It's not important to me, and thus it shouldn't be important to anyone!"

Set up the coffeemaker the night before. Leave the stuff out so they can make a second pot if they want one. Buy cheap coffee if this is a budget issue. Otherwise, stop policing what other people ingest.


+1

How hard is this?

And to complain about them getting their own coffee? Seriously?


Can you not read? She does make the coffee by 7 am. She does set it up the night before. She drinks coffee, too. The issue is not providing coffee, it's the "rabid coffee drinker attitude," which IS annoying, at home and, in my case, at work.

Calm down. It's just coffee.


Yeah, and some people (like me!) don't want to wait an hour or two for someone to finally get around to making it. Just set it up the night before so that they can turn it on. What is the big deal? It almost seems like a power trip to make people wait around for you to decide when they can (finally!) get a cup of coffee in the morning.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 08:42     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I know it's not the same, but my peeve is guests who have to have COFFEE OMG coffee first thing. I drink coffee. It's made by 7 am at the latest. But my priority is getting up with my daughter and getting her needs met. My parents and in-laws are practically chomping at the bit. If I don't set it up the night before, my dad rattles around at 5:45 making it. At least he's clean about it. My MIL will get grounds and water everywhere. With my ILs, I make a full pot, have one small cup myself, and they want another full pot.

It's just like...calm down. When I'm a guest in someone else's home, I drink a cup if there is a pot, when it is made, and I don't go sniffing around for it.


"It's not important to me, and thus it shouldn't be important to anyone!"

Set up the coffeemaker the night before. Leave the stuff out so they can make a second pot if they want one. Buy cheap coffee if this is a budget issue. Otherwise, stop policing what other people ingest.


+1

How hard is this?

And to complain about them getting their own coffee? Seriously?


Can you not read? She does make the coffee by 7 am. She does set it up the night before. She drinks coffee, too. The issue is not providing coffee, it's the "rabid coffee drinker attitude," which IS annoying, at home and, in my case, at work.

Calm down. It's just coffee.


If she sets it up the night before, why does she care if they get coffee earlier than 7AM? She doesn't have to "make it" if it's already set up - she just has to have it set up the night before.

And yes, it's just coffee - but that is a simple daily pleasure for many people. If it is easy to satisfy, why not do so?
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 08:16     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
If I'm not putting out snacks at 5 to signal "cocktail hour," they are both asking for food because they're "peckish," but of course the focus is on the drink.

Now that I am Preggo and have a toddler, and I'm making dinner, it's just enough already. Just pour yourself a freaking drink.


Turn it over to them. Come home with a grocery bag and show them: "I got some Marcona almonds to go with your drinks tonight, and I'm going to put the limes in the left-hand crisper. Do you know where everything else is? Between Larla and the baby-to-be, 5 o'clock keeps showing up unannounced, so I thought you might rather handle happy hour on your own."


I suspect it's just annoying that the pretense is being hungry when all they really want is the drink. Just be honest and say you want a drink.


The generation with an ingrained need for a cocktail at 5 also has an ingrained need that it's not nice to demand liquor. Your "honest" is their "pushy" or "greedy." Accept that and move on. If you can spin it as, "You know what would really help me? If you would pour yourself a stiff drink," everyone can be happy.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 07:48     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Sorry, but I'm in the NEED coffee camp!!
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 07:44     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
If I'm not putting out snacks at 5 to signal "cocktail hour," they are both asking for food because they're "peckish," but of course the focus is on the drink.

Now that I am Preggo and have a toddler, and I'm making dinner, it's just enough already. Just pour yourself a freaking drink.


Turn it over to them. Come home with a grocery bag and show them: "I got some Marcona almonds to go with your drinks tonight, and I'm going to put the limes in the left-hand crisper. Do you know where everything else is? Between Larla and the baby-to-be, 5 o'clock keeps showing up unannounced, so I thought you might rather handle happy hour on your own."


I suspect it's just annoying that the pretense is being hungry when all they really want is the drink. Just be honest and say you want a drink.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 07:42     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I know it's not the same, but my peeve is guests who have to have COFFEE OMG coffee first thing. I drink coffee. It's made by 7 am at the latest. But my priority is getting up with my daughter and getting her needs met. My parents and in-laws are practically chomping at the bit. If I don't set it up the night before, my dad rattles around at 5:45 making it. At least he's clean about it. My MIL will get grounds and water everywhere. With my ILs, I make a full pot, have one small cup myself, and they want another full pot.

It's just like...calm down. When I'm a guest in someone else's home, I drink a cup if there is a pot, when it is made, and I don't go sniffing around for it.


"It's not important to me, and thus it shouldn't be important to anyone!"

Set up the coffeemaker the night before. Leave the stuff out so they can make a second pot if they want one. Buy cheap coffee if this is a budget issue. Otherwise, stop policing what other people ingest.


+1

How hard is this?

And to complain about them getting their own coffee? Seriously?


Can you not read? She does make the coffee by 7 am. She does set it up the night before. She drinks coffee, too. The issue is not providing coffee, it's the "rabid coffee drinker attitude," which IS annoying, at home and, in my case, at work.

Calm down. It's just coffee.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 07:35     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I know it's not the same, but my peeve is guests who have to have COFFEE OMG coffee first thing. I drink coffee. It's made by 7 am at the latest. But my priority is getting up with my daughter and getting her needs met. My parents and in-laws are practically chomping at the bit. If I don't set it up the night before, my dad rattles around at 5:45 making it. At least he's clean about it. My MIL will get grounds and water everywhere. With my ILs, I make a full pot, have one small cup myself, and they want another full pot.

It's just like...calm down. When I'm a guest in someone else's home, I drink a cup if there is a pot, when it is made, and I don't go sniffing around for it.


"It's not important to me, and thus it shouldn't be important to anyone!"

Set up the coffeemaker the night before. Leave the stuff out so they can make a second pot if they want one. Buy cheap coffee if this is a budget issue. Otherwise, stop policing what other people ingest.


+1

How hard is this?

And to complain about them getting their own coffee? Seriously?
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 07:34     Subject: Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
If I'm not putting out snacks at 5 to signal "cocktail hour," they are both asking for food because they're "peckish," but of course the focus is on the drink.

Now that I am Preggo and have a toddler, and I'm making dinner, it's just enough already. Just pour yourself a freaking drink.


Turn it over to them. Come home with a grocery bag and show them: "I got some Marcona almonds to go with your drinks tonight, and I'm going to put the limes in the left-hand crisper. Do you know where everything else is? Between Larla and the baby-to-be, 5 o'clock keeps showing up unannounced, so I thought you might rather handle happy hour on your own."
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 07:29     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
I know it's not the same, but my peeve is guests who have to have COFFEE OMG coffee first thing. I drink coffee. It's made by 7 am at the latest. But my priority is getting up with my daughter and getting her needs met. My parents and in-laws are practically chomping at the bit. If I don't set it up the night before, my dad rattles around at 5:45 making it. At least he's clean about it. My MIL will get grounds and water everywhere. With my ILs, I make a full pot, have one small cup myself, and they want another full pot.

It's just like...calm down. When I'm a guest in someone else's home, I drink a cup if there is a pot, when it is made, and I don't go sniffing around for it.


"It's not important to me, and thus it shouldn't be important to anyone!"

Set up the coffeemaker the night before. Leave the stuff out so they can make a second pot if they want one. Buy cheap coffee if this is a budget issue. Otherwise, stop policing what other people ingest.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 06:45     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:My FIL is a martini drinker. Literally 5 pm, on the dot, he makes one. I set up a bar, but he crushed it. Olive juice, gin, etc. spilled all over my grandmother's antique server. I was pissed, but think it was my fault. He is a shaky man, (maybe too many martinis), and I should have made it.


I know it's not the same, but my peeve is guests who have to have COFFEE OMG coffee first thing. I drink coffee. It's made by 7 am at the latest. But my priority is getting up with my daughter and getting her needs met. My parents and in-laws are practically chomping at the bit. If I don't set it up the night before, my dad rattles around at 5:45 making it. At least he's clean about it. My MIL will get grounds and water everywhere. With my ILs, I make a full pot, have one small cup myself, and they want another full pot.

It's just like...calm down. When I'm a guest in someone else's home, I drink a cup if there is a pot, when it is made, and I don't go sniffing around for it.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2015 06:39     Subject: Re:Petty In-Law and/or house guest vents
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My MIL says "warsh," "Warshington," and "Mondee, Tuesdee, Wednesdee," etc. She is nice, educated and well-meaning, but it gets me every time. She was a guidance counselor. I can't believe an EDUCATOR would not correct such obvious mispronunciations!


Wow

Thank God she's not a French woman who speaks English. You'd have a heart attack.


Not PP but this particular "Warshington" pronunciation makes me cringe. I can't understand why an adult wouldn't re-learn these words, either, once they enter the professional world.