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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also dislike the culture among the parents. It feels a lot like a fraternity and sorority.

+ 1

I didn't realize joining a community pool was going to be like going back to high school, and that my perfectly nice non-team member child would be on the social dud list. This is just so fucking weird and cliched. Can't wait to get away from this $700 summer of watching a bunch of little snots and their nasty parents hang out together.

Are you at CST? Sounds like it.

That is what I was thinking too!

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Anonymous wrote:We did the Fox Mill Woods team for 2 years. Oh my god. What a mess of wacky, self-focused, crazy moms who hyper-focus on their little snowflakes. Especially the ladies who have been working the swim team for years. Yeah we opted out of the crazy this year. And it's been a wonderful summer. It wasn't like this when I was a kid. I am sad for my DD to miss out on what I thought would be a good experience, but it wasn't a healthy environment.

we are not on swim team, but wow what a scene... Those moms are insane. There is definitely a mentality that it's their pool and we are allowed to use it. So no one talks to us because we are not part of the cool club.

I am not familiar with Fox Mill Woods but I can see how it wouldn't be much fun to feel the way you do - shunned by the "in" group. Like middle school. Ugh.

You should develop your own fun for pool members - even (especially) for those not on the swim team. Seriously. Since when did it become law that only the swim team members can organize socials and bbqs at the pool? Why not plan your own for a Friday evening when there isn't a swim meet. Even have pool games in the afternoon/evenings for all member kids to attend. Nothing fancy - Marco Polo free play. Start off small. If 5 kids show up - hey, that's 5 kids....

No one should feel ostracized at the neighborhood pool. Kids have one childhood to enjoy - they should enjoy it!