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Anonymous wrote:Let's be clear. Women are generally the gatekeepers when it comes to sex. It's a reality, and is what creates what many see as a double standard.

A woman who allows man to screw her on a first date has announced that she's pretty lax in the gatekeeping department, and while the man may enjoy the sex (and even come back for more) he's less likely to see her as a potentially reliable long term partner. I mean, if she'd sleep with HIM at the drop of a hat, what makes him think she'd not sleep with any other dude after just a few hours. Men might like to date "easy" women. They don't really want to marry them.

Now you can all howl about how this isn't fair, but it is what it is. You can pretend it isn't the case but you're only fooling yourself.

No, people with a healthier attitide about sex don't feel that way. In my experience, they're also more relaxed and adventurous sexual partners.

Why do you think that "healthy attitude" equals having sex early on. I love how you use "healthy attitude" as a justification for promiscuity. Some of us believe that "healthy attitude" means waiting until marriage. You don't get to define "healthy" for everyone.

A healthy attitude is recognizing people aren't defined by when they choose to have sex. You are welcome to call women "easy," but understand I'll assume you have serious hang ups.

You have heard the expression, "YOU ARE THE COMPANY YOU KEEP," haven't you.

Anonymous wrote:Let's be clear. Women are generally the gatekeepers when it comes to sex. It's a reality, and is what creates what many see as a double standard.

A woman who allows man to screw her on a first date has announced that she's pretty lax in the gatekeeping department, and while the man may enjoy the sex (and even come back for more) he's less likely to see her as a potentially reliable long term partner. I mean, if she'd sleep with HIM at the drop of a hat, what makes him think she'd not sleep with any other dude after just a few hours. Men might like to date "easy" women. They don't really want to marry them.

Now you can all howl about how this isn't fair, but it is what it is. You can pretend it isn't the case but you're only fooling yourself.

This completely accurate. Very well phrased and presented

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Anonymous wrote:Never sleep with someone on the first date, as it's just a notch on his belt and he lost all respect for you. Pls post and let us know how this worked out for you.

Fuck that noise. My DH and long term ex both started after having sex on the first date. Your advice is bullshit.

I'm sure you're quite a catch, in your way.

nailed it.

MAJOR catch

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Anonymous wrote:Never sleep with someone on the first date, as it's just a notch on his belt and he lost all respect for you. Pls post and let us know how this worked out for you.

Why would he lose respect for her? He did the same thing.

ha ha ha

Anonymous wrote:I'm just one guy, but when I was dating if someone had slept with me on a first date I'd probably dismiss them as a serious long term partner. Just being honest.

For full disclosure, no, I never slept with a woman on a first date nor had any one night stands. Just wasn't my thing.

Hypocrite real world guy here.

Yes, I have had sex with women on a first date.

Yes, I dismissed them as serious long term partners.

Just reality.

Anonymous wrote:Definitely not. If he's a good guy and not some overly religious, hypocritical, or misogynistic/regressive loser, he wont think any less of you.

....says a bit about your own history with men.......

few men are as you describe

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Anonymous wrote:Yay! Do you like him?

It's funny I think he likes me more... I am just going to see how it goes. Can't believe this thread generated so much talk. I wonder how old all the commenters are.

It sounds like they're 60-100 years old.

You do realize that anyone aged 45-60 lived during the most promiscuous time in history probably since the fall of the Roman Empire. We wrote the book one night stands. There was no AIDS or herpes. Just the pill and bad hairstyles. We did it all. And we're just telling you some hard truths. But carry on inventing the wheel.

Old people want to think they did it all. Who was your Mark Zuckerberg? Fuck off.

~wipes tears of laughter from eyes~ I-I can't. Ok, you mean a person who invented a horrible, insidious, time wasting invasion of privacy thing designed create revenue for himself and advertisers? Nope.

I'm sure you've made just as much money. And have the power to donate millions to charity. Where's the retirement home? Hoping you can afford it with your savings?

Not PP, but no I did not make his money. Nor have you. But...Steve Jobs did, as did Andy Grove, Bill Gates, Michael Dell...And no one has given as much away as Gates...

As for me, I developed algorithms which improved warning systems -- my work saved lives; how many is unknown, but probably in the 100's to 1000's.

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Anonymous wrote:Yay! Do you like him?

It's funny I think he likes me more... I am just going to see how it goes. Can't believe this thread generated so much talk. I wonder how old all the commenters are.

It sounds like they're 60-100 years old.

You do realize that anyone aged 45-60 lived during the most promiscuous time in history probably since the fall of the Roman Empire. We wrote the book one night stands. There was no AIDS or herpes. Just the pill and bad hairstyles. We did it all. And we're just telling you some hard truths. But carry on inventing the wheel.

Old people want to think they did it all. Who was your Mark Zuckerberg? Fuck off.

~wipes tears of laughter from eyes~ I-I can't. Ok, you mean a person who invented a horrible, insidious, time wasting invasion of privacy thing designed create revenue for himself and advertisers? Nope.

I'm sure you've made just as much money. And have the power to donate millions to charity. Where's the retirement home? Hoping you can afford it with your savings?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yay! Do you like him?

It's funny I think he likes me more... I am just going to see how it goes. Can't believe this thread generated so much talk. I wonder how old all the commenters are.

It sounds like they're 60-100 years old.

You do realize that anyone aged 45-60 lived during the most promiscuous time in history probably since the fall of the Roman Empire. We wrote the book one night stands. There was no AIDS or herpes. Just the pill and bad hairstyles. We did it all. And we're just telling you some hard truths. But carry on inventing the wheel.

I'm in my late forties, was single during the 80-90s, and was having lots of sex. Obviously, you don't know what you're talking about if you don't even know about the history of the AIDS epidemic. Our generation was all about the "Safe Sex". I digress. You do have a point, though. The younger generations always seem to think that they were the ones to invent sex.

I had my share of sex-on-the-first-date as well as hook-up scenarios. With the exception of a couple vacation flings that we knew were going nowhere, all of them called again. Several turned into loving relationships. I've been married to one of them for 12 years. Come to think of it, I never was one to play by silly Victorian rules. Never counted dates to determine how long I had to wait before having sex. If a man were to judge me negatively for having consensual sex with him, then I wouldn't want him to contact me again, and I certainly wouldn't want a relationship with someone who thought that way.

I don't expect everyone to agree with me. I guess that's why there's someone for everybody. Those of you who want to wait, can. Good for you. But don't preach like your way is the only way and the only experience worth having.

First, as a female, you could have sex when you were that age anytime you wanted with whomever you wanted, which is a scenario 90% of men can only dream of. Second, the guy who married you is sure happy he has a wife who probably slept with 25+ guys.

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Anonymous wrote:Yay! Do you like him?

It's funny I think he likes me more... I am just going to see how it goes. Can't believe this thread generated so much talk. I wonder how old all the commenters are.

It sounds like they're 60-100 years old.

You do realize that anyone aged 45-60 lived during the most promiscuous time in history probably since the fall of the Roman Empire. We wrote the book one night stands. There was no AIDS or herpes. Just the pill and bad hairstyles. We did it all. And we're just telling you some hard truths. But carry on inventing the wheel.

Herpes came on to the scene around 1977....Aids as a heterosexual disease in 1986. If you are 60 years old, you would have been 22 when then....

For me, (51), Herpes was an issue throughout my sexually active life. (1983 - pres.).

The thing is, when AIDS came on the scene, no one worried about Herpes....

The "free love era" was from about about '66 to maybe 1980. As a proxy, the rate of Gonorrhea probably tracks (condom free) promiscuity. That can be seen here: http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats13/figures/11.htm

So, it peaked around '76, then slowly decayed until about 1986, when the decay steepened....probably starting on Oct. 22, 1986, when C. Everett Koop changed my life by announcing that AIDS is spread by heterosexual sex. I am 51...anyone younger than me have lived with AIDS risk....

So people 60-75 are the ones that could be promiscuous without worrying about non-treatable diseases or pregnancy.

I think people are as promiscuous as ever, but they use condoms.

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Anonymous wrote:Yay! Do you like him?

It's funny I think he likes me more... I am just going to see how it goes. Can't believe this thread generated so much talk. I wonder how old all the commenters are.

It sounds like they're 60-100 years old.

You do realize that anyone aged 45-60 lived during the most promiscuous time in history probably since the fall of the Roman Empire. We wrote the book one night stands. There was no AIDS or herpes. Just the pill and bad hairstyles. We did it all. And we're just telling you some hard truths. But carry on inventing the wheel.

and you destroyed america's economic future while you selfishly spread your crabs around w/ hairy v's

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yay! Do you like him?

It's funny I think he likes me more... I am just going to see how it goes. Can't believe this thread generated so much talk. I wonder how old all the commenters are.

It sounds like they're 60-100 years old.

You do realize that anyone aged 45-60 lived during the most promiscuous time in history probably since the fall of the Roman Empire. We wrote the book one night stands. There was no AIDS or herpes. Just the pill and bad hairstyles. We did it all. And we're just telling you some hard truths. But carry on inventing the wheel.

Old people want to think they did it all. Who was your Mark Zuckerberg? Fuck off.

Are you for real? Give an age range and I can name 10 people who did bigger and better things than Facebook. Fuck off, junior.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yay! Do you like him?

It's funny I think he likes me more... I am just going to see how it goes. Can't believe this thread generated so much talk. I wonder how old all the commenters are.

It sounds like they're 60-100 years old.

You do realize that anyone aged 45-60 lived during the most promiscuous time in history probably since the fall of the Roman Empire. We wrote the book one night stands. There was no AIDS or herpes. Just the pill and bad hairstyles. We did it all. And we're just telling you some hard truths. But carry on inventing the wheel.

I'm in my late forties, was single during the 80-90s, and was having lots of sex. Obviously, you don't know what you're talking about if you don't even know about the history of the AIDS epidemic. Our generation was all about the "Safe Sex". I digress. You do have a point, though. The younger generations always seem to think that they were the ones to invent sex.

I had my share of sex-on-the-first-date as well as hook-up scenarios. With the exception of a couple vacation flings that we knew were going nowhere, all of them called again. Several turned into loving relationships. I've been married to one of them for 12 years. Come to think of it, I never was one to play by silly Victorian rules. Never counted dates to determine how long I had to wait before having sex. If a man were to judge me negatively for having consensual sex with him, then I wouldn't want him to contact me again, and I certainly wouldn't want a relationship with someone who thought that way.

I don't expect everyone to agree with me. I guess that's why there's someone for everybody. Those of you who want to wait, can. Good for you. But don't preach like your way is the only way and the only experience worth having.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yay! Do you like him?

It's funny I think he likes me more... I am just going to see how it goes. Can't believe this thread generated so much talk. I wonder how old all the commenters are.

It sounds like they're 60-100 years old.

You do realize that anyone aged 45-60 lived during the most promiscuous time in history probably since the fall of the Roman Empire. We wrote the book one night stands. There was no AIDS or herpes. Just the pill and bad hairstyles. We did it all. And we're just telling you some hard truths. But carry on inventing the wheel.

Old people want to think they did it all. Who was your Mark Zuckerberg? Fuck off.

~wipes tears of laughter from eyes~ I-I can't. Ok, you mean a person who invented a horrible, insidious, time wasting invasion of privacy thing designed create revenue for himself and advertisers? Nope.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yay! Do you like him?

It's funny I think he likes me more... I am just going to see how it goes. Can't believe this thread generated so much talk. I wonder how old all the commenters are.

It sounds like they're 60-100 years old.

You do realize that anyone aged 45-60 lived during the most promiscuous time in history probably since the fall of the Roman Empire. We wrote the book one night stands. There was no AIDS or herpes. Just the pill and bad hairstyles. We did it all. And we're just telling you some hard truths. But carry on inventing the wheel.

Old people want to think they did it all. Who was your Mark Zuckerberg? Fuck off.

lol what's the matter? Is reddit down? Mom and dad shut off the wifi? One night stand 'unfriend' you FB? There's your value system. What a contribution to humanity.