Anonymous
Post 07/06/2015 08:58     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am getting ready to propose to the most amazing woman I've met. She's it for me and I want to do it right. I want to give her the best I can. She very
" girl next door" - not very high maintenance. I found the perfect ring for her! It's a 3 carat, Asscher cut ring with a brilliant cut and colorless. The band is
" Classic" with tiny diamonds. It's roughly 30k. The price is not an issue, but I know she is very practical and a bit frugal. Ladies, would you appreciate/zany a ring like that? I, like most men, are a little clueless at this.


No. I'd hate something like that. I'd worry about losing it or chipping it all the time. I'd much prefer a single carat etoile solitaire from Tiffanys. Less flash, more quality.


if you are worried about your diamond 'chipping' all the time, then you don't know about diamonds, because clearly you got duped. also, tiffany is the biggest markup waste in the game.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2015 08:53     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does she wear expensive clothing, jewelry, etc? What socio economic status is she? What's her profession?

When I was looking at rings many large ones looked gaudy and made me self conscious. I'm in big law and most of the women in my office have modest solitaires. Two have larger flashier rings; one tries to down play it.

I would focus more of how it sparkles versus getting some massive rock. Many will think a very large ring is fake and no woman wants to have to deal with that.


I was raised on the East Coast with the notion that diamonds are better when bigger. She likes nice things but she isn't over the top with it. All her jewelry is expensive because she is allergic to fake ones. She is big city mid-west girl ( Chi-Town). My net worth is the double digit millions and she makes roughly $130,000 ( Pharmacist).

My sister took her out with an excuse to look at rings. She told my sister the only style she likes is Asscher cut with the diamond band. I don't think she cares about carat size but 2-3 seems about what my buddies got their wives.


Asscher cut faces up smaller, so 3 carat will be fine. Don't listen to people judging you because they are either jealous, or don't appreciate or enjoy jewelry. If you can afford it and she would love it, then why not?


I agree. Don't get H color though. It's too yellow. Go to Blue Nile. You can ship stones back and forth. Don't go go Tiffany either. You would just be paying for the name. They have nice diamonds, but so do other places that don't charge the huge markup.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2015 08:51     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:I would not like it, and would wonder about the sanity of anyone that spent $30K on a ring. FWIW, my husband makes close to a million dollars, and I still would wonder about his sanity if he spent $30K on a ring. A car, okay.
But you know your sweetheart best...one test might be -- how much does she spend on her purse? If she spends less than $100 on a purse, she probably is not going to be into a $30K ring. Just a guess.


This couldn't be more off. For one, I would much rather spend 30K on diamonds rather than a car. And two, I've never spent more than $50 on a purse, but I have a 2.5 carat solitaire e-ring. Some people don't care about cars or purses, some people don't care about jewelry, the whole point is if she would love it, then go for it.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2015 08:49     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does she wear expensive clothing, jewelry, etc? What socio economic status is she? What's her profession?

When I was looking at rings many large ones looked gaudy and made me self conscious. I'm in big law and most of the women in my office have modest solitaires. Two have larger flashier rings; one tries to down play it.

I would focus more of how it sparkles versus getting some massive rock. Many will think a very large ring is fake and no woman wants to have to deal with that.


I was raised on the East Coast with the notion that diamonds are better when bigger. She likes nice things but she isn't over the top with it. All her jewelry is expensive because she is allergic to fake ones. She is big city mid-west girl ( Chi-Town). My net worth is the double digit millions and she makes roughly $130,000 ( Pharmacist).

My sister took her out with an excuse to look at rings. She told my sister the only style she likes is Asscher cut with the diamond band. I don't think she cares about carat size but 2-3 seems about what my buddies got their wives.


Asscher cut faces up smaller, so 3 carat will be fine. Don't listen to people judging you because they are either jealous, or don't appreciate or enjoy jewelry. If you can afford it and she would love it, then why not?
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2015 06:29     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:I am a practical, down to earth person with no interest wearing many thousands of dollars of gemstones on my finger. I told my fiancé this--NO BIG RINGS. Hell, no ring at all is fine with me. He was told by his buddies that all women want rings and he should ignore me. He compromised and got something inexpensive and perfectly fine with me. Honestly, wtf is this crazy sh!t about rings?

True to my history with jewelry, I lost my first engagement band. And my first and second wedding rings. Good thing they were all in the $200-$500 range.



I would be pissed if I were your husband. Marrying a woman who loses that many rings. Very careless on your part.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2015 06:02     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would not want a ring that big. I'd want a 1 carat with some side diamonds and a diamond wedding band. I'd prefer a ring and new car or retirement money for that price.


He is worth 8 digits in his twenties. They will have all those other things even if he gets her that ring.


I'm not in my 20's. I'm turn 35 in September. I dot care what anyone says on here. This is a real post and I do own two successful companies. I come from a large line of of family running successful companies. I am what most call a " trust fund baby". Unlike most of those kids, I learned the value of a dollar and worked hard since I was a teenager to accomplish my goals. Thank you very much. I will get her the ring I feel is best for her and she will love.


Hi OP, I am a trust fund baby too. If I were you, I would base the ring on something that my fiancé would want and wear everyday. When my husband asked me to marry him, he presented me with a small, but stunning, sapphire that had little diamonds surrounding it. It was exactly what I would have purchased for myself or told him that is what I would have wanted. If you are marrying this woman, you have YEARS to get her any piece of jewelry that she wants. If you have to question whether or not she would like a $30,000, 3 carat engagement ring, then you either don't know her very well or you already answered your own question.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2015 04:10     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
I am a practical, down to earth person with no interest wearing many thousands of dollars of gemstones on my finger. I told my fiancé this--NO BIG RINGS. Hell, no ring at all is fine with me. He was told by his buddies that all women want rings and he should ignore me. He compromised and got something inexpensive and perfectly fine with me. Honestly, wtf is this crazy sh!t about rings?

True to my history with jewelry, I lost my first engagement band. And my first and second wedding rings. Good thing they were all in the $200-$500 range.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2015 02:48     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would not want a ring that big. I'd want a 1 carat with some side diamonds and a diamond wedding band. I'd prefer a ring and new car or retirement money for that price.


He is worth 8 digits in his twenties. They will have all those other things even if he gets her that ring.


I'm not in my 20's. I'm turn 35 in September. I dot care what anyone says on here. This is a real post and I do own two successful companies. I come from a large line of of family running successful companies. I am what most call a " trust fund baby". Unlike most of those kids, I learned the value of a dollar and worked hard since I was a teenager to accomplish my goals. Thank you very much. I will get her the ring I feel is best for her and she will love. [/quote]

The bolded is why you are rubbing people the wrong way, OP. You will get the ring YOU feel is best for her and she WILL love it. There's no debate in your mind. She WILL love it, or what? Or else? What if she says she doesn't, despite all your best intentions. Will you just be excited she accepted your proposal, and offer to exchange it for another ring of her choosing? Because that's not the vibe you're giving from your posts. You come across as know-it-all-ish, and bossy/controlling.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2015 23:00     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:I am getting ready to propose to the most amazing woman I've met. She's it for me and I want to do it right. I want to give her the best I can. She very
" girl next door" - not very high maintenance. I found the perfect ring for her! It's a 3 carat, Asscher cut ring with a brilliant cut and colorless. The band is
" Classic" with tiny diamonds. It's roughly 30k. The price is not an issue, but I know she is very practical and a bit frugal. Ladies, would you appreciate/zany a ring like that? I, like most men, are a little clueless at this.


No. I'd hate something like that. I'd worry about losing it or chipping it all the time. I'd much prefer a single carat etoile solitaire from Tiffanys. Less flash, more quality.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2015 22:58     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not go Blue Nile of any of those sites. I went to a jeweler in downtown Chicago. From what I've heard from him and what I've read, a 2 carat will seem smaller because of the cut, H color is best for an Asscher cut, stick with VS2 clarity because the SI1 & SI2 are not recommended with steep cuts like an Asscher.

I want to get a 2.5-3 carat. I looked on " sites" and have been shopping around with jewelers. I found majority of these diamonds to be in the 20-45k range. I will be proposing next month on vacation. I have a little time to shop still.


Lemme guess, the jeweler had the EXACT diamond and setting in his store right then for what he claims is ideal for that style. Awesome.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2015 22:56     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not go Blue Nile of any of those sites. I went to a jeweler in downtown Chicago. From what I've heard from him and what I've read, a 2 carat will seem smaller because of the cut, H color is best for an Asscher cut, stick with VS2 clarity because the SI1 & SI2 are not recommended with steep cuts like an Asscher.

I want to get a 2.5-3 carat. I looked on " sites" and have been shopping around with jewelers. I found majority of these diamonds to be in the 20-45k range. I will be proposing next month on vacation. I have a little time to shop still.


What you've read from literally the first website that pops up on google if you search on "Asscher cut"?

https://www.diamonds.pro/truth-about/diamond-shapes/asscher-cut-emerald-cut/

You are a dumbass, and I think this whole thread is just made up.


h color!?!?
What is that bright yellow?
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2015 22:53     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
I got my wife a 2 carat $30k ring and she never takes it off. The spec was great. Did blue Nile.

$30k 3 carat implies you are compromising on one pre more of the five Cs. Maybe your fiancée will care, maybe she won't. Mine already had the earrings she bought herself so wasn't a dummy on this.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2015 21:08     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
You need to know your girlfriend. Personally, I would not want a ring that big or that expensive. I'm not really crazy about diamonds, especially if they aren't for sure conflict-free. If you don't know your fiancee-to-be's preferences, find out.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2015 20:37     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am practical and would love a 3 carat diamond engagement ring in my preferred cut from the man I loved IF he could afford it. You can, OP. Go ahead and buy the ring and propose to your beloved. She'll wear it for the rest of her life and it will remind her of you. Congratulations, OP!


Seriously, I hate to break it to you and OP, but, no, if you're cool with a $30k ring, then you're not practical.

This thread reminds me of the the "we make 400k HHI and we're middle class." FFS, if you like extravagant things, just admit it.

Same with OP and his "she's not high maintenance." Women who are not high maintenance don't have a "my perfect ring is ..."

Whatever. I think I just need to get off of this thread.


I think you do, too, pp. You are taking this way too personally.


LOL. PP here. Yes, I am because I just spent the weekend in a dying rust belt city around people who have nothing and have little hope things are going to look up for them (maybe their kids if they are able to get scholarships).

So, yeah, seeing what I saw over the weekend and then reading all of these claims of being "practical" and "girl next door" but being okay with the kind of extravagance that is a $30k ring, well, it does upset me. It should upset lots of people.

Even if OP is fake, the other "I'm practical but I own a $30k ring" aren't. It's fine if they want a $30k ring and have the money to buy it, but it's ridiculous that they still see themselves as practical when there is nothing practical about a ring that costs that much (unless it's the ring of Gyges, then maybe it might have some practical use).
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2015 20:36     Subject: Spending 30k on a ring?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would not want a ring that big. I'd want a 1 carat with some side diamonds and a diamond wedding band. I'd prefer a ring and new car or retirement money for that price.


He is worth 8 digits in his twenties. They will have all those other things even if he gets her that ring.


I'm not in my 20's. I'm turn 35 in September. I dot care what anyone says on here. This is a real post and I do own two successful companies. I come from a large line of of family running successful companies. I am what most call a " trust fund baby". Unlike most of those kids, I learned the value of a dollar and worked hard since I was a teenager to accomplish my goals. Thank you very much. I will get her the ring I feel is best for her and she will love.


You've managed to build two successful companies and you can't figure out a diamond? Um, okay.


This. And you feel you have to come to a parenting website for advice about said diamond.