Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I had a family friend in high school that did this. His family took it a bit too far and sent him to a gay high school, which made it very difficult for him to deal with the fact that he wasn't gay. It hasn't been a hard life.
I have never heard of a "gay high school" Please tell me more. What is this schools name? Do they really not admit straight students? Isn't that discrimination?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
I think the point is that bisexuals exist and sexuality isn't necessarily a binary thing.
And that there is a disconnect between how people think/feel and how they behave. Just because someone gets married to someone of the opposite gender doesn't make them straight. People can choose how to behave, but they have much less control over their own attractions. The "sexuality isn't a choice" is about the thoughts/feelings. What one has a choice about is how to act.
--signed, a straight-married bisexual
I think there's an important distinction and that's honesty. I think more people are bisexual than would likely admit, but I think there are a lot of people who would fall along the lines of being bisexual but having an opposite sex partner. Like you said, it doesn't make them straight. It may make them monogamous, but your partner could die or you could get a divorce and have a same sex partner next. That doesn't invalidate your previous relationship. That could be a true relationship based upon attraction. It isn't mutually exclusive because...the person is bisexual.
It's their truth. I think that is what children need in terms of understanding their sexuality. There's no truth but their own. You pick your own label. That's your truth.
And whoever you get with, they better not be a scrub. Male or female.
There's an old joke about how all the bi girls end up with guys, and all the bi guys end up with . . . Guys.
It's obviously an oversimplification, but in my experience with friends as acquaintances, there's some truth there.
This is totally non scientific but this "joke" confirms my experience with friends and family over many year. Men who identify as gay or bi in their teenage years end up in relationships with men as the get older. Women it seems are more fluid. About half end up in long-tern relationships with men and others
"stay" lesbians. Is it possible that male sexuality is less fluid than female sexuality.
Also is the school setting your describing a girls school or coed? Just curious?
Anonymous wrote:I had a family friend in high school that did this. His family took it a bit too far and sent him to a gay high school, which made it very difficult for him to deal with the fact that he wasn't gay. It hasn't been a hard life.
Anonymous wrote:There's an old joke about how all the bi girls end up with guys, and all the bi guys end up with . . . Guys.
It's obviously an oversimplification, but in my experience with friends as acquaintances, there's some truth there.
Anonymous wrote:
I think the point is that bisexuals exist and sexuality isn't necessarily a binary thing.
And that there is a disconnect between how people think/feel and how they behave. Just because someone gets married to someone of the opposite gender doesn't make them straight. People can choose how to behave, but they have much less control over their own attractions. The "sexuality isn't a choice" is about the thoughts/feelings. What one has a choice about is how to act.
--signed, a straight-married bisexual