Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ok guys gotta run to my spa day with my wedding party. Wish me the best!

I wish you the best of luck with your future divorce.

Wow! Wtf is wrong with you? Can't you just be a nice person and send happy thoughts? Are you a 50 year old version of OP who pulled the plug before the ceremony and is now at home all along with 5 cats and a TV guide?

Oh, please, this is totally a troll. You're actually taking her seriously?

Hugs op, and my best thoughts to you.

Anonymous wrote:Yes I'm a real person. Some people have said misgivings are normal, including my therapist. I'm writing from the lobby of the restaurant of our rehearsal dinner. I can't believe I just checked in with dcum, I'm such a loser ha!

It sounds like this is an arranged marriage and that OP really does not have any control over the situation. Best of luck to you.

Best of luck you, and best wishes for a happy future

Yes I'm a real person. Some people have said misgivings are normal, including my therapist. I'm writing from the lobby of the restaurant of our rehearsal dinner. I can't believe I just checked in with dcum, I'm such a loser ha!

Anonymous wrote:Bet he's rich, prenup or not op wants the lifestyle.

She's 34 so it's now or probably never if she wants kids. Bet there will be kids within a yr or two no matter what she saids about waiting. Tick, tock, tick...

If you're for real, end this NOW! It's easier to undo a wedding than a home and marriage and especially kids.

I was nervous before my wedding, but excited and very, very sure I was making a good decision!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ok guys gotta run to my spa day with my wedding party. Wish me the best!

This would be the troll tip-off.

Yeah, and the cheerful "let's do this thing!" after pages and pages of warnings not to go through with it. Ha.

Anonymous wrote:ok guys gotta run to my spa day with my wedding party. Wish me the best!

This would be the troll tip-off.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ok guys gotta run to my spa day with my wedding party. Wish me the best!

I wish you the best of luck with your future divorce.

Wow! Wtf is wrong with you? Can't you just be a nice person and send happy thoughts? Are you a 50 year old version of OP who pulled the plug before the ceremony and is now at home all along with 5 cats and a TV guide?

OP havent read the whole thread but please call of the wedding.

I was you 10 years ago. engaged to a guy that everybody thought was great but i had a sick feeling that didnt go away. We first @postponed the wedding and after limping along for another year after that called it quits. Best decision I ever made - now happily to another guy and believe me there was no sick feeling when i married him.

Please = call up your finance and say you want to postpone the wedding - do it now.

Then give yourself time to really examine your feelings and if you still want to marry him go ahead - if not break it off.

I too was worried about family etc but they will get over it. Believe me it will a lot worse for them to cope with you being in a bad marriage / divorce.

Good luck

Oh come on folks, I don't believe the OP. She went from the cold feet, angry/mean/need to drink to be civil postings to "gotta go to my spa day!" cheeriness.

I think we just helped her assuage her boredom.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. You can always set a new date if your feelings change.

I think if my feelings change, it would still cause irreparable harm to our families and our relationship to put off the wedding at the last minute.

No time to read this whole thread, but I want to support the person you are responding to.

Your families aren't the ones who are getting married - whatever "harm" (embarrassment) they suffer because of a postponement is second to the harm you experience in a bad marriage. If the relationship isn't ultimately strong enough to withstand a postponement, then you shouldn't be getting married anyway.

Don't go through with it. It's much easier for everyone to undo a canceled wedding than to get a divorce.

Are you the type of person that gets nervous when something is new (new job, new school, etc.) If you are, then the cold feet might just be your regular nervousness reaction to things in life.

OP sorry but you are supposed to feel like you won the love lottery when you get married. That's why you get married.

Good luck.